To expect DH to cover builders bum

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My husband embarrasses me because he refuses to pull up his trousers to hide his builders bum. Approximately 5-7inches of solid crack multiple times a day.

It's been like this since day on of relationship. I ask and he pretends to or pulls his shirt over instead. He has no shame, he doesn't go red or anything. When we have guests they've had to look away in embarrassment also. My family and his have called him out on it. Our kids too.

He says weight and low balls is why he can't pull up his trousers more. Other times he says he has done it or has he hands full or CBA.

Naked he has no bum. No they probably just slide down.

It's really giving me the Ick.

Aibu to expect him to cover it?

Omg.. really
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Oh no this would be a dealbreaker for me. Right up there with crocs.

Remember I once had a plumber in who was all arse crack. I swear to god I could smell it 🤮🤮

I think the balls explanation is total nonsense for what it is worth. I think it is CBA basically. My partner is terrible for builders bum but it doesn't really bother me, l am a bit prone to it as well. I loved the dungarees suggestion that someone else made! It is tricky if he has always been like this as l am guessing part of him thinks why does he have to change?

Unsolicited arse crack low balls - misogynistic shaving requests Christ OP how do you find it within yourself to sleep with this man? He sounds grim.

If he has been told his many times by family/friends/guests and is still exposing his arse crack surely it's basically deliberate. If this is serious OP I'd just give up - once you have the ick you surely can't recover. Life is too short to have to endure a man's vile arse crack every day.

Who are the 7% of people who think YABU. This should make me uncomfortable visiting if I was your family or friend. As a teenage girl it would have made me so uncomfortable I dont know if I would want to be around my dad if he was purposefully doing that and ignoring my discomfort. Making children uncomfortable in their own home is enough for me to leave. It may seem like an overreaction but it's the doing it on purpose that's unforgivable in my book

Maybe he can get ball skin reduction surgery. I’m sure it could be done. Contact Botched! I’m sure they’d jump at the chance 😂😂

He doesn't care obviously. Maybe it turns him on to show off his bum to others?

Keep change in your pocket and everyone you see it shout moneybox and chuck some pennies in there. Obv you don't want them back 🤢

Park a bike in it.

You shave "to his requests" and wear make up in the house for him.
Why?
I would be stopping that for a start.

Use it as a phone holder, then lie back and catch up on Hollyoaks. 💁‍♀️

He sounds pretty unappealing all round.

Drop an ice cube down his crack. Every time you see it.

You shave to his requests??

The thread title conjured up images of him following the builder around the house and covering his bum crack with a tea towel like some sort of modesty matador

His requests 🧐

Yuck.

Put an apron on him back to front, cover
it all up.
My ex had this. Serious ick. Not his worst feature though!

Are his trousers just constantly half way down his arse? Does he wear underwear?

Just tell him it's bloody embarrassing.

Shave to his requests as in I shave my pubic hair down a bit and tidy up because he likes it a certain way. I also shave my armpits cause he doesn't like to see hair there. I don't mind honestly, keeps me on top of things when I CBA!

Have you told him if you were to divorce it would be be the sole reason? Maybe it would kick him into action

Sorry OP, no advice but this thread is really making me laugh, which I could really do with so thank you!

His balls are a bit saggy in comparison to others I've seen. However not so much so that I must see crack all day everyday, no.
He does wear underwear yes but I do think he should, and have said so, spend more money on the quality of them and shop around so get a better fit. Yday's ones for example looked like a saggy nappy. I told him to look in the mirror and check out the adult baby. He physically wouldn't until I told him I am at breaking point over this issue.

It sounds stupid. But I can't bare it anymore. Overall we are well matched. But he doesn't seem to want to take me seriously, that I am extremely turned off by it and leave him for it at this point. I'm loling because it sounds so stupid. Of all the reasons to want a divorce.

My OH is the same!! He’s as skinny as a rake so can’t be a beer belly issue for him. Think he just wears his jeans too low round his hips and there’s this constant inch of skinny arse crack on show. Drives me fucking mad!

Yes I've told him this will be the reason for our divorce.

I've also taken pics in the past. Not for a good 18 months though. I'll start again today. I might upload it to Facebook and tag him in hopes it will shame him. Or is that too far? Would it be classed as revenge porn?