AIBU me or DH shower time

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I find it ridiculous!
Me and husband decided to give the kids a bath at 7pm . Usually one of us washes the kids ( all in the tub). If the husband washes them, I take them out one by one and get them ready for bed while DH stay with the rest in the bathroom until I take them all out.
10 to 7 I hear noises in the bathroom ( I was in the bedroom sorting laundry). All the kids in the bathroom playing with soap and water in the sink. Clothes all over their room, a puddle on the floor.
I call DH and quickly explain the situation and ask him to come and help, he said not yet, 10 more min.
I got annoyed I went and gave them all a quick shower and got them ready for bed ( all in- shower, all out- bedroom).
After I go talk to DH and he is annoyed because I didn't told him I am going to give them a bath and I should had waited another 10 min.
I said why to wait, they were naked,in the bathroom.
He said I should had put the clothes back on them and waited 10 more min until 7pm as discussed, because he was watching something on Tv and to wait until 7pm sharp when whatever he was watching finished, and I didn't specified that I will give them a bath or he would come to help.

AINBU to give them a shower since they were ready for it.
AIBU to put clothes on and wait 10 more mins until DH was ready to come and assist me.

I gave them a shower because I can do them all in all out, I couldn't give them a bath alone ( I mean I could one by one but takes ages)
Kids 2yrs, 3 and a half
We usually lock the bathroom ( we obviously forgot this time), but no cleaning products or anything like that. DC can only play with water the hands soap and their toothbrushes.

This is one of the rare and silly things we disagree nevertheless I find it a ridiculous thing to disagree about.

Deffo made sense to do it early. You seemed to manage without dh so no need to worry.

Your DH is an idiot for insisting you waited. Can he not just pause whatever he was watching to come and help?

You did the right thing to crack on. I would have chucked them both in the bath myself though.

It would have been ridiculous to get them out and dressed again, for the sake of 10 minutes. He was BU.

Yabu for not being able to bath them by yourself unless you have some kind of health issues you haven't mentioned.
But of course it made sense to just wash them when you did!

You could have let them play for ten mins and then at 7 left dh to get on with it but you didn’t do you can’t complain.

Bath/shower should come before watching the last 10 minutes of some shit. I'd be pissed off at him tbh if he didn't come up when I insisted.

I thought from your wording you had 6 DC, I’m mystified that you can’t bathe 2 small kids on your own

Given they were already naked and in the bathroom it would be daft to get them dressed again for the sake of 10 minutes. so on that he is being unreasonable.

However, showering them wasn't a job that required two people (neither is bathing them to be honest) and he was watching something, so you were being unreasonable to be annoyed that he didn't come and help.

Is there something wrong with your DH?

Who would put two potentially wet kids back in their clothes and make them wait 10mins because "bath time is at 7 not 6.50" .

Is it just 2 kids?
When you said all in the tub I was imaging at least 10.
You could have ran the bath and let them play for 10 minutes for your husband to come and wash them. I presume you have some health/disability that means you aren’t able to.
No way would I get 2 small kids dressed again just to get them undressed 10 minutes later

I would of done the same as you! They’re half dressed and soaked already.

Sorry but I think this is the sort of situation that two parents should be able to resolve between themselves, without asking who was wrong on a web site.

Why didn't you just tell him that you would go ahead and do it as they were ready? And why couldn't you just stick them in the bath?
If you had he could have paused his program. Seems he would have come if he knew you were going ahead. And yep seems like a silly thing to argue about.

it does sound like you have 12 kids with 8 legs each from the tone of your post. You both need to calm down!

I get why you bathed them early, but I think if he was watching something you should have sucked it up and sorted things on your own. You don't need help! It's just nice to have.

And, obviously, he should then have recognised you'd done him a favour and returned it at some stage in the near future.

That's how relationships work.

You are both a bit unreasonable as there are only two children not four or triplet babies or something difficult...

Who cares how they are washed as long as it gets done. Not sure why you'd need help though.
Why can't you get the younger one out and pjs on in the bathroom while the other is still in the bath? You don't have to leave the room.

JK I was going to post the exact same thing! Op said “all” a few times so I was expecting a tribe of kids.

Op I have no idea why you can’t bath a pair of toddlers, it’s sometimes easier than showering if they get to have a little play too, much more relaxed.

Your husband is selfish.

I'm another who thought you had 10 children under 10 by the tone of your post. You only have two, for goodness sake! One adult can manage, surely?

How many children are there? You mention 2 ages but your first paragraph implies there's a whole lot more.

If there's only 2, I think you did the right thing. (Although bathing 2 isn't difficult) and I'd have just told DH it was sorted with no further need for discussion other than him thanking you for enabling him to finish his tv.

If there's more DC, then he was being selfish in not helping when they were ready to be bathed.

Only 2 ages, do you have twins?

YAbothBU and childish.

While it's easy enough to bath two children together by yourself your husband was being unreasonable. Why couldn't he pause the TV (or just miss a bit of his program, wouldn't kill him surely)? It's pointless to get them dressed for the sake of less than 10 minutes.

Why didn't you just run the bath and let them play in the tub for 10 minutes while you supervised, and then DH could have come upstairs at the end of his programme to help you get them out?