AIBU me or DH shower time

[Nightflower]

I find it ridiculous!
Me and husband decided to give the kids a bath at 7pm . Usually one of us washes the kids ( all in the tub). If the husband washes them, I take them out one by one and get them ready for bed while DH stay with the rest in the bathroom until I take them all out.
10 to 7 I hear noises in the bathroom ( I was in the bedroom sorting laundry). All the kids in the bathroom playing with soap and water in the sink. Clothes all over their room, a puddle on the floor.
I call DH and quickly explain the situation and ask him to come and help, he said not yet, 10 more min.
I got annoyed I went and gave them all a quick shower and got them ready for bed ( all in- shower, all out- bedroom).
After I go talk to DH and he is annoyed because I didn't told him I am going to give them a bath and I should had waited another 10 min.
I said why to wait, they were naked,in the bathroom.
He said I should had put the clothes back on them and waited 10 more min until 7pm as discussed, because he was watching something on Tv and to wait until 7pm sharp when whatever he was watching finished, and I didn't specified that I will give them a bath or he would come to help.

AINBU to give them a shower since they were ready for it.
AIBU to put clothes on and wait 10 more mins until DH was ready to come and assist me.

I gave them a shower because I can do them all in all out, I couldn't give them a bath alone ( I mean I could one by one but takes ages)
Kids 2yrs, 3 and a half
We usually lock the bathroom ( we obviously forgot this time), but no cleaning products or anything like that. DC can only play with water the hands soap and their toothbrushes.

This is one of the rare and silly things we disagree nevertheless I find it a ridiculous thing to disagree about.

You are doing chores and he is watching tv. Kids get i to me thing they shouldn’t and make a mess. You stop chores to deal with it.

Why is the annoyance coming from him that you gave them a shower “early”. The annoyance should be that you were working and he wasn’t and he couldn’t be bothered to supervise his children properly.

Honestly I’d have left them playing for the ten minutes left while dh finished watching whatever it was.

Your DH is weird - who the actual hell complains when someone else gets 3 kids clean & ready for bed while they sit on their bum watching the TV?

You’re making a mountain out of a molehill putting 3 kids in the bath.

The pair of you are making life difficult.

Why do they all have to be bathed together? DH could hang out with 1 or 2 while you bathed the one(s) who enjoy it. Then shower or bath for the other one(s) on a different night. Or even a morning when everyone is less tired.

It all sounds a bit unneccessarily stressful and contrived. As has been discussed many times on MN, kids don't need frequent baths.

I wouldn’t have put their clothes back on though...sack that.

You’re not being unreasonable imo. Both of them are both your kids, you’re doing chores and end up getting them both ready for bed while he’s sitting scratching his arse. Who cleaned up after the shower?

It doesn’t matter whether it’s two kids or a hundred.

So you both bath them every night?

Waste of resources if you ask me. One baths, one tidies up/cooks dinner/does the ironing or whatever so you can get on with your evening.

The way your DH reacts you'd think bath time was a once in a lifetime chance of seeing them act in their first west end show or something! It's a bath. That happens very frequently. He hasn't missed a key event. Unless he finds bath time some sort of can't miss event I would think he'd be pleased at getting out of it rather than annoyed he's missed it!

I also thought you had about 12 kids! Get one out, wrap a towel round, get the other out. Job done.

I'm confused about who was meant to be supervising the children - you were both doing something other than watching them, which is how they ended up playing in the bathroom in the first place.

I don't know if it makes a difference, but my other post it's a problem, that obviously going on for quite a while. I have been around NMs for over 3 years, as a guest and never posted anything including replies to other posts because I am a little bit reserved in going on and giving my 2 cents, and I feel others give the answers better than I would as I feel still young/not too much experience and most definitely naive so I trust pretty much anything.
Anyway this it's not a problem. It's the most exciting thing of a disagreement between us in the last few months. Silly nevertheless maybe we are too bored and look for something to "argue" about -but I hold my position and say he is unreasonable for getting upset I gave a shower to the kids before he finished watching tv. It's silly to put the clothes back on them, wait, and take them off again just so he can "participate" in the "bath ritual"

If bath time is that special he should have got of his arse and helped. So it's obviously not important to him. I think you did the right thing for the sake of 10 minutes but I would tell him it's his turn to do bath or shower tomorrow night. He or you can always bring night clothes in to the bathroom so you can take them out one by one and get them ready for bed but doesn't take two of you

I’d shower them every night. Sounds far easier.

If he wanted them dressed and hanging around damp for 10 mins then it was up to him to come and dress and supervise them.

It sounds like a silly argument just for the sake of arguing.

But you are right, there was no point in waiting 10 mins when they were already wet and naked and you managed the shower and everything by yourself. If he's that upset they missed out he can give them a bath tomorrow...all by himself.

Ridiculous to re-dress them, how stupid that would have been. You were right to just quickly shower them.

Kids were playing in their room. Me sorting laundry, husband watching tv.
The kids decided it's time for bath they undressed themselves-butt naked- went to the bathroom and started playing with the water(sink).
I hear noises from bathroom ( i was next room. Literally one min they were running on the hallway next min bathroom). So I go see what's going on and I find them butt naked.
I tell husband they are NAKED and everywhere is a mess and ask him to come upstairs for help. I was expecting him to put them in the bath since they were so excited getting a bath that they undressed themself , while I clean up.
Giving them a bath is not a problem. All of them enjoy bath time. DS a short bath, DDs a very very very long bath. That's why requires 2 adults, while I take DS out DH needs to watch the other 2. We would never leave them alone in a tub with water.
We would waste more water with showers than stick them all 3 in the tub. It's not a lot of water, just enough for them to splash and have fun. ( I have actually put the plug while giving them a shower to see how much water is used compared to how much we usually fill the tub, it's almost double the amount of water with shower than bath)
Bath is once one day yes one day no. They don't get dirty but can get smelly depends how messy they are when they drink their milk (DD2 still has a bottle after dinner just before bedtime, twins have a cup just before bedtime because they see DD2 having milk and they want some as well)

Your husband is unreasonable. I would be thrilled if my husband showered the kids whilst I watched tv! I don’t get why he complained unless you were being grumpy about doing it alone??

Since my oldest are twins, they always had/shared a bath together. I would bath them and DH getting them dressed. When they got older and more wriggly DH gave them a bath ( as I found them too slippery) and I put the clothes on them( because it would take DH ages to get them dressed).
Then when they got older I would take one,bath, geting ready for bed and then repeat with second.
When DD2 arrived they all shared a bath, twins were getting upset for waiting their turns.
DD2 was old enough to stand I would shower them alone, together in the tub and take them out same time ( shower, so no water filling the bath, no tears for coming out, everything was over fast).
About 2 months ago DH decided (because kids asked for a bath and no shower) to go back to bath time together because they enjoy splashing and "swimming" (DDs ) and DD2 had less bath time (more shower time) comparing to twins.
It's not the bath time, or the fact that DH didn't come to help me ( I can manage myself just fine). What's annoying is the fact he got upset that I didn't put the clothes back on the kids, wait 10 min, undress them again and giving them a bath after his tv programme finish.
If he wants to stay and watch tv, it's fine but I don't see the problem with me carry on and give them a shower and getting them ready for bed.
If he put the tv as a priority before kids bath, then why should I had to wait for him when I can go on myself without his help.

I thought he is unreasonable for expecting me to dress the kids and wait for him 10 min, and then undressed them and put them in the tub. That is the only unreasonable thing to dress the kids again while waiting for him to finish watching tv, and then undress them again 10 min later for bath

Meh, talk about making a mountain out of a molehill! Is it that he feels bad for missing out or did you make a big deal of him not participating in bath time?

Dress kids for 10 minutes??

Your husband sounds like a bit of a wally! Good thing you have common sense!!

They all want bath, there's no question about it.
DC enjoy bath. DS likes a short bath while my DDs enjoy a very long bath.

The bath would be stressful if I would be doing it alone. DS wants 5min no more and would cry for not listening to take him out when he says he had enough while DDs would cry for not staying in long enough.

The bath is not stressful if me and DH are both taking care of it. I take DS out when he asks to get out while DH supervise DDs enjoying their bath for a longer time, so no tears everyone is happy.

Why does it take the two of you to bath the children?

Couldn't you have just put them all in the bath, then got ds out after five minutes and dry/dress him in the bathroom while keeping an eye on the two dds still in the bath? By the time you'd done that, your DH would have finished his programme and could have helped you with the rest.

Still, I agree that the whole thing seem like a mountain out of a molehill.