AIBU me or DH shower time

[Nightflower]

I find it ridiculous!
Me and husband decided to give the kids a bath at 7pm . Usually one of us washes the kids ( all in the tub). If the husband washes them, I take them out one by one and get them ready for bed while DH stay with the rest in the bathroom until I take them all out.
10 to 7 I hear noises in the bathroom ( I was in the bedroom sorting laundry). All the kids in the bathroom playing with soap and water in the sink. Clothes all over their room, a puddle on the floor.
I call DH and quickly explain the situation and ask him to come and help, he said not yet, 10 more min.
I got annoyed I went and gave them all a quick shower and got them ready for bed ( all in- shower, all out- bedroom).
After I go talk to DH and he is annoyed because I didn't told him I am going to give them a bath and I should had waited another 10 min.
I said why to wait, they were naked,in the bathroom.
He said I should had put the clothes back on them and waited 10 more min until 7pm as discussed, because he was watching something on Tv and to wait until 7pm sharp when whatever he was watching finished, and I didn't specified that I will give them a bath or he would come to help.

AINBU to give them a shower since they were ready for it.
AIBU to put clothes on and wait 10 more mins until DH was ready to come and assist me.

I gave them a shower because I can do them all in all out, I couldn't give them a bath alone ( I mean I could one by one but takes ages)
Kids 2yrs, 3 and a half
We usually lock the bathroom ( we obviously forgot this time), but no cleaning products or anything like that. DC can only play with water the hands soap and their toothbrushes.

This is one of the rare and silly things we disagree nevertheless I find it a ridiculous thing to disagree about.

Next time he wants adult attention make sure your program has ended first.
But take turns. Then you will get a few nights off.

Why such a bloody fuss? You did it this time, just tell him it's his turn tomorrow or summat.

Who was supposed to be watching them when they got into the bathroom?

I take them out one by one and get them ready for bed while DH stay with the rest in the bathroom until I take them all out.

This doesn’t really make sense if you are talking about two children. “ one by one” implies at least 3, & leaving “ the rest” sounds like a whole class full.

Why does it all need to be so precisely timed. They're not in the military, they're children.
People are beginning to take the routine idea to extremes.

How many kids?

You only give the age of two, but imply there’s at least 6.

Do you & DH have learning difficulties or disabilities?

I had 3 under 3 alone.
Nobody drowned or was left dirty.

Can you clarify how many DC? You sound like the old lady who lived in a shoe (She had so many children she didn't know what to do)

Is there going to be a massive dripfeed that reveals you have two sets of triplets? If not, and you're only talking about two kids, then both you and your H are being unreasonable.

I thought you must have about 7 kids! YABU to be unable to bath 2 kids. I used to bath two at a time, get them both out and dried and take to room wrapped in a towel each to get dressed. It's not that hard!

However you were not being unreasonable to shower them and you were not being unreasonable to do it 10 mins early. So DH is unreasonable on both those issues.

10 mins is nothing. Just sit them 'all' in the bath until DH is ready to come up. They can all play together until then. I am assuming there is room in one bath for all your kids together of course.

I take them out one by one and get them ready for bed while DH stay with the rest in the bathroom until I take them all out.
Surely you aren't just referring to 2 kids here?

You said "I take them out one by one and get them ready for bed while DH stay with the rest in the bathroom until I take them all out"

But then you said you have a 2year old and a 3yr old???

If you have TWO children, then this is crazy, 3 or more then maybe im with you

He said I should had put the clothes back on them and waited 10 more min until 7pm as discussed, because he was watching something on Tv and to wait until 7pm sharp when whatever he was watching finished, and I didn't specified that I will give them a bath or he would come to help.

What? Putting their clothes back on for ten minutes is completely ridiculous.

He is right that you didn't explain why you wanted him there at 6.50.

I think when it comes to how many hands are needed to manage bathtime it very much depends on the children. The DCs in this case sound a little spirited and may need two adults for a bath.

Why does he even care that you bathed them early? Saved him a job. Surely he would be happy? Unless bath time is particularly special for him?

Putting their clothes back on for 10 mins would be ridiculous.

I think some posters are missing that you did get on with it and shower them, and it’s the DH who’s complaining!

I’m expecting there are twins in this mix for you to have said “all”?

The OP has twins

Doesnt he have the facility to pause the tv?

Lol

You only started posting less than month ago and you already have some many problems.

My younges is 2 DD, oldest 3 and a half - twins DD and DS-.
I can give them all a shower, no problem with that, don't need any help.
Giving them a bath it's a little bit more stressful and includes lots of tears and crying and screaming.
DS won't stay more than 5min and DDs would stay and sleep in the bath of possible. The youngest is the one who has more lungs power and the one who comes out last.
Me and DH have no problem with our bath arrangement. DS out first and getting ready for bed, while DDs enjoy more bath time.
What baffles me is that DH actually expected for me to put the clothes back on them, wait 10 min and then take them off again so they can enjoy a bath - so they can splash, play and have some fun- comparing to a quick shower functional but no fun-.
What was I supposed to do with 3 overtired naked kids running around. I thought the sensible thing was to give them a shower earlier than planned bath time and get it over with.

He's a dick and I bet this is part of a wider pattern. My ex, for example, insisted that he would not pick up a lightbulb that he had broken from the floor because 'he wasn't ready to' and everyone could walk around it until he was. I recognise the type.

Have to ask who left the bathroom door unlocked

If a bath is more stressful for them there's little point in doing that when they are overtired. I can't understand why they can't just wait 10 minutes. They can be naked for 10 minutes can't they? I assume they had not removed their nappies? I do have some sympathy for your DH. this could have been the only 'me time' he'd had all weekend and asking to finish a program in that context is not a big ask. If he'd done bugger all for the rest of the weekend that's a different kettle of fish but then the problem is about his laziness not thinking the children can wait 10 minutes to have a shower/ bath.

I think it's a non issue and you are over thinking this much.

In my house the conversion would probably go-
Whichever one of us saw wet kids: OH kids are wet I'll wash them now.
OH watching tv: okay, I'll be up when what I'm watching on TV has finished.
Patents going to wash kids: okay.

After shower-
Partner who was watching tv: you need me to do anything now the program has finished?
Partner who showered kid: nope all sorted.
End of discussion.