AIBU me or DH shower time

[Nightflower]

I find it ridiculous!
Me and husband decided to give the kids a bath at 7pm . Usually one of us washes the kids ( all in the tub). If the husband washes them, I take them out one by one and get them ready for bed while DH stay with the rest in the bathroom until I take them all out.
10 to 7 I hear noises in the bathroom ( I was in the bedroom sorting laundry). All the kids in the bathroom playing with soap and water in the sink. Clothes all over their room, a puddle on the floor.
I call DH and quickly explain the situation and ask him to come and help, he said not yet, 10 more min.
I got annoyed I went and gave them all a quick shower and got them ready for bed ( all in- shower, all out- bedroom).
After I go talk to DH and he is annoyed because I didn't told him I am going to give them a bath and I should had waited another 10 min.
I said why to wait, they were naked,in the bathroom.
He said I should had put the clothes back on them and waited 10 more min until 7pm as discussed, because he was watching something on Tv and to wait until 7pm sharp when whatever he was watching finished, and I didn't specified that I will give them a bath or he would come to help.

AINBU to give them a shower since they were ready for it.
AIBU to put clothes on and wait 10 more mins until DH was ready to come and assist me.

I gave them a shower because I can do them all in all out, I couldn't give them a bath alone ( I mean I could one by one but takes ages)
Kids 2yrs, 3 and a half
We usually lock the bathroom ( we obviously forgot this time), but no cleaning products or anything like that. DC can only play with water the hands soap and their toothbrushes.

This is one of the rare and silly things we disagree nevertheless I find it a ridiculous thing to disagree about.

* THE ISSUE (is not an issue ) is the silliness of puting clothes back on butt naked,wet kids (playing with water) only to take the clothes off 10min later*

You see I’d say the issue is your marriage where you argue like this with each other and then you start a thread on mumsnet going in to minute detail to rally support for your conviction your DH cocked up. That’s the issue in my eyes!

Wow!! You lock your bathroom door? Its exactly why your kids went in and made a mess...forbidden fruit! Tighten taps so they cant use them as at 3 they wont be able to turn them( if it bothers you that much).You see it as mess they see it as exploring and having fun.They could have continued but with you while you were running a bath.Then you put them in the bath and while they were in their you could have cleared away the mess.Chill and make the most of your children as soon they be all grown up

Giving two children a bath is not a big deal. You should just get on with it, let him watch his tv for 10 min and then he could have done the laundry that you were doing instead. You are being really silly.

Was he watching a match or news?
Live tv isn’t the same when watched later.

I would have let them play naked for 10 mins.

I think you need to point out to your DH that with 2 small children in the house, watching TV uninterrupted before they are in bed, asleep is unlikely to happen. He can either record or live pause a TV programme.

I understand why you are annoyed and not sure why you're being given a hard time about it. He agree to jointly bathe / shower the kids, he chose to start watching a TV programme before they were in bed, and then chose not to join you in the bath / shower.

Oh and for heaven's sake unlock the bathroom - other pp's have it right 'forbidden fruit' and all that

Really OP ???

Sorry but cant see how it takes 2 adults to wash 2 kids every night.

It is very unreasonable to expect to watch television at bath/bedtime.

Either help with the circus or cook the dinner/tidy the kitchen.

Surely bigger and more important things to argue about?

You should have just put them in the bath to play for 10 minutes, it just left be naked. Kids like being naked. Can’t believe this is something you would disagree over.

your DH is selfish, and super childish sorry. if mine got TV over my kids stuff. they ll be fire in the house for sure! also all tvs now you can stop, pause and continue.

YANBU.
DH needs to invest in sky plus so he can record his programme to watch after bath time

Jeez sky plus because of a one off 10 minute bath delay non issue! Some people have more money than sense!

@glennamy lay off the Buckfast there's a good chap

What's the problem here?!! Lol

I was expecting a minimum of 4 kids. I’m slightly disappointed.

It is a ridiculous thing to argue about. I don't see how it matters that you gave them a shower. Equally, I don't see why it takes 2 adults to bath them. Why would you lock the bathroom? Do you mean from the outside so the kids can't get in?

You miss the point by miles. My "moaning" wasn't about him finishing watching his tv programme. I had no problem giving the kids a shower on my own.
The AIBU was him being upset for me giving the kids a shower rather than put the clothes back on them,only to take them off 10 min later when agreed shower time

@cherish123 I already answered 5 times why 2 adults to bath them and everything
Yes, we lock the bathroom door from outside . It was ok without locking it, but my DD2 doesn't know any better and founds the toilet and toilet brush as the perfect toys and if she get a moment where the bath is not locked she will go straight for the toilet brush and finds it hilarious...

Anyway. All done and dusted. Thank you all for your replies.

Why would you do that though? Can you not make your own decision on that? Either live them NAKED for 10 minutes or shower or bath then earlier?

YOU would've been ridiculous to dress them, YOU and YOU only!

A bit of both - But more YABU I’m afraid - you could have ran a shallow bath and let them play for 10 mins, then have bath at usual pre-arranged time.

Your DH is being ridiculous. Of course you shouldn’t be expected to re-dress three kids for 10 minutes (or leave them running around naked as other pp have suggested) just to wait for a convenient time for your DH to come enjoy them having a bath. What a complete arse your DH is. You did laundry, got three children bathed and ready for bed and he watched TV, and he is mad at you??

YANBU.

Why can't you dry and assist your 3 and a half year old DS to put his pyjamas on in the bathroom while the other two are in the bath, followed by his twin sister while supervising the 2 year old in the bath?

Or just send him in a towel with pyjamas to find his dad?

Two words: pause button.