My partner and I have been engaged for a while and just started to plan our wedding but we've hit a problem.
One of the big problems we're having is my MIL's partner - he's a very proud and very openly racist.
He uses the N and C words all the time, he tells people who are black and born here that they don't belong here because of their skin colour and will openly talk about how he wishes he could 'zap' away all the black people.
My DP and I are both disgusted by this and have cut him out as much as possible, they live four hours away so that's easy. The problem we have is our wedding.
We've got lots of black friends and friends from different countries and different backgrounds and I know he's going to say something offensive and disgusting to them and I can't have that.
My MIL is refusing to come to the wedding without him (they've been together five years but we've only met him a handful of times) and my DP is getting upset about not having his mother there.
She says we're being unreasonable however everytime we've seen him he's said something racist to someone. I can't have my friends subjected to that, it's disgusting.
We did think about just having a wedding with just family but neither of us think it's right that we should have to change what we want because of a racist.
I don't know what to do. WI(we)BU to ban him from the wedding?