Would you leave you’re kids with someone Bi Polar?

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A mum from school mentioned on the group chat today that a new child was starting school and their mother has bi polar, so not to leave our kids alone with her. We usually take turns picking each other’s kids up etc as we all work full time and don’t want to pay for after school club.
I’m bi polar, but have just never felt the need to tell anyone. No I’m thinking I should say something? A) because I want to stick up for the other mum and B) to prove a point that clearly they’d never know any different if they were already informed.
It’s really pissed me off. Aibu to say sonething? But then will I risk being ostracised from the group and my child losing friends.

Jesus christ what a raving bitch! One of my very best friends is bi-polar and my kids ADORE her. I'd leave them with her without question, she's wonderful.

Why would the dad tell her? Cos he is her friend and, contrary to the weird current position of keeping every part of your life utterly compartmentalised and isolated, friends do let each other know when they need to be aware of shitty behaviour!

It serves no purpose to let her know apart from making her feel uncomfortable and best and dreadfully upset at worst. It also gives no opportunity for the 'bitch' to have a rethink and on meeting the new woman perhaps change her mind and befriend her.

But it does give the woman the opportunity to reach out to 'the bitch' and help her understand bipolar better, especially with the support of her friends.

Why shouldn't she be aware of the people around her who don't undertsand and are quick to leap not only to judgment but to gossip?

and dreadfully upset at worst That sounds all well and good.. if very patronising, infantilising!

That sounds all well and good.. if very patronising, infantilising!

Or speaking from experience, whatever

Yep, why didn't the dad have the balls to front up and defend the woman in the chat?

Don’t really know why people are slagging off the dad he’s not obliged to do anything. He’s let his friend know and is being supportive to her, that’s the only important thing.

I would have to say something. My partner has bi-polar and he’s the best parent ever.

Or speaking from experience Yes, your experience, your perspective. Others think differently based on their own experiences and it really isn't shocking or in any way wrong to think differently.

I am sure that OP and the 2 women can easily make their own minds up without such judgment!

Awful woman. I'd think twice about leaving my kids with her, not the bipolar mum. People can be so ignorant and stupid.

Aw you’re brilliant OP. And of course the dad did the right thing in telling her, why wouldn’t you tell someone that people are spreading horrible things so she can be prepared?

Is be so hurt if I found out a friend knew something about me and didn’t tell me.

A really close friend of mine is Bipolar. Suffers terribly, I really feel for him. He and his wife have frequently watched my kids. It has never occured that me that I shouldn't leave them with him.

That woman sounds like a shit stirrer. I would say something but I can understand if you didn't want to rock the boat.

It is scary how there is still such a stigma attached to mental health issues when you think how many of us will experience them. I have 4 friends friends who are bi-polar and with my best friend, there will have been times I would not have left my children with her because she was either very very depressed or at the opposite end of mood, but that would be out of concern for her mainly. Putting stuff like that on social media is beyond ignorant and it will reflect more poorly on the poster than the mum she is slashing off. Well done OP for putting yourself in the interests of education of the ignorant. 💙

slagging even

I just think the dad should have been as brave as you, OP. Publicly standing up to a nasty piece of work like her is important.

I have a friend who is very supportive to me, but mostly only privately. On the rare occasions that he actually puts himself in the firing line, as you did, I almost burst with gratitude. That's real friendship.

Yep, why didn't the dad have the balls to front up and defend the woman in the chat?

He probably tries to generally avoid using social media to get into arguments. That imo is common sense rather than lack of balls.

Yanbu OP I can't believe that she posted that and she's made herself look like an absolute turd, no more or less. It doesn't need the dad to point that out to anyone normal!

It's completely batty, that attitude. I have MH issues but SS consider me to be fit to be an adoptive mum. Obviously they want to know that I'm taking steps to cope with my issues, like having therapy and taking meds. Same as they would for any physical illness.

I don't tell people because it's my private business, and there's clearly still so much stigma surrounding MH issues, which is very depressing. Plus when I do tell people, it means I have to also tell them about my childhood SA, which I also don't want to do.

And yes, I do have my DDs' friends at my house; DD2 is very sociable and is constantly asking if this or that friend can come to our house.

I would also want to know if people were saying negative things about me, too. It would be upsetting obviously, but I would get over that.

This makes me sad. Good luck to the new mum and you OP and well done for speaking up. I hope all the others on the chat are silent as they realise she's EXTREMELY out of order.

But, for the love of god, why can't parents use these group whatsapps sensibly and sensitively?

There are rules:- don't be offensive, don't give out personal info of others, don't gossip and don't argue.

It's making these very useful groups a bloody hotbed of nastiness and anxiety.

Sounds terribly bitchy of the woman. Having said that, I wouldn't leave my kids with my sister who has bi-polar. She is unstable and prone to very irrational behaviour. Without medication she is either high as a kite or severely depressed and unable to care for herself let alone somebody's kids. Medication can control this but she is often in denial and doesn't take it.

I would have to know a parent very well before leaving my children with them, bi-polar or not.

My mum was bi-polar (died in her early 60s). As a kid, we were never really allowed to have anyone over for a sleepover.
The one day I did (me and my friend both 13yrs old), my mum decided to try and cut her wrists, when we had a guest in the house!
My friend never, ever came back to our house, but we still stayed friends, right until now (both in our 50s).
So, I can see where that mum is coming from, medication was rubbish years ago, but I think it's managed better these days.
Or so I hope so.

Cunt mum was nice as pie to me, extra ass licky to me. I met new mum, she seems lovely.

Cunt mum was nice as pie to me, extra ass licky to me. I met new mum, she seems lovely.

I bet stupid cah has totally exposed herself.

Any luck she'll do what our primary cunt mum did and flounce to a different school because everyone hates her boo boo

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