Would you leave you’re kids with someone Bi Polar?

[MonstranceClock]

A mum from school mentioned on the group chat today that a new child was starting school and their mother has bi polar, so not to leave our kids alone with her. We usually take turns picking each other’s kids up etc as we all work full time and don’t want to pay for after school club.
I’m bi polar, but have just never felt the need to tell anyone. No I’m thinking I should say something? A) because I want to stick up for the other mum and B) to prove a point that clearly they’d never know any different if they were already informed.
It’s really pissed me off. Aibu to say sonething? But then will I risk being ostracised from the group and my child losing friends.

I wouldn't leave my kids with the gossipy mum personally, she sounds vile.

I'd just call her out as an ignorant cow tbh. No need to disclose your own personal medical diagnosis.

What a cow!

I’d call her out. I have bipolar and I’m furious just reading this. Although secretly I’d want to tell them so none of them would leave their bratty kids with me.

First, how does she know?
Second, it’s. It her news to tell
Third, she sounds like a nasty piece of work!

The whole thing sounds like teenage cyber bullying and if you don’t call her out on this you’re colluding with her.

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Second, it’s NOT her news!!!

I wouldnt leave my kids alone with a mum who thought it her place to mention another mums private business in a group chat and advise other mums to keep their kids away.

You dont need to tell anyone your private medical business either OP but I would find it hard to keep my mouth shut to Mrs Judgey Vanjudgerson.

If it were me I'd absolutely say something. Can't stand people that judge and make assumptions. It really pisses me off.

I agree with the points made already and that you should get to know new mum and make your own decision as with any other new mum. I would also point out that it may also not even be true - it could be that posting mum has some kind of personal grudge against new mum and wants her to be excluded.

That is awful, that poor new mum. I hope you can be a great new friend for her op!
How does the other mum even have that info?? Because if it’s in a professional capacity then she’s breaking some rules for sure!
If it’s because she knows her personally or has friends in common I would make an effort to befriend the new mum then when you know her a bit better just mention that some things were said about her before her child started.

I think I would say something like ‘I don’t know how you know that information but I don’t think you should be making it public.’

Also, the new mum might not want to start picking up random children from school anyway. I’m not sure I would!

My ds is bi polar. He has a dc. Never occurred to me to worry!!

I’m bipolar and a good mother to my dc and I think the mothers warning you off her are complete twats

That’s not just outrageous behaviour it’s illegal!

It’s disability discrimination.

I too would be contacting the school regarding this discrimination.

How does the stupid gossip even know the other mum has bipolar?

I’ve 2 friends with bipolar one of whom regularly babysat dd as a child no problem whatsoever dd adores her.

I’d be posting on the WhatsApp group (immediately before removing myself from it!)

“discriminating against someone because of a medical condition is illegal, immoral and completely unacceptable”

“I wouldn't leave my kids with the gossipy mum personally, she sounds vile.” Exactly what I was thinking! Not least because kids young enough to need picked up from school reveal all sorts!

I have ocd, agoraphobia, anxiety and depression yet I raised dd alone since she was a pre-schooler.

I'm tempted to save a link to this thread for the next time an ignorant mner tells me there's no such thing as discrimination and prejudice towards the mentally ill.

Fucking disgraceful. I'm a mother and grandmother, also bipolar. I'd be steaming if someone gossiped about my health like that.

Well I wouldn't leave my child with that judgemental cow!
How does she know the medical history Of the new mum? That's worrying.

Arm yourself with as much knowledge about BPD as you can that you know is factual and share it with those ignorant parents, you can only fight hard ignorance with factual knowledge. Time to Change is a great campaign website all about breaking down stigmas that people hold about those managing mental health problems. And don’t forget to highlight that anyone can become unwell with their mental health - including judgey parent who warned all on WhatsApp! (And as I am human here’s my judgey thought towards them - prick!)

I sent “my bi polar disorder has never been issue for you so not sure why hers will be”.

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To clarify towards judgey parent not the new parent managing BPD

Please call her out for both revealing someone's private medical information and ignorance about MH. A close friend has bipolar and I'd trust her implicitly! I really think this person needs a massive telling off and to be put in her place. It's shocking with all we know about MH and bullying that someone would do this.

People saying tell the School, maybe this person doesn't want her diagnosis to be shared with the school?

Good for you @MonstranceClock. Let us know what they say.

What a prize bitch!!

I would have had to have sat on my hands not to reply with something really awful back, but given the kids might all be at school together for A Very Long Time I would have tried to restrain myself!

I would definitely not ‘out’ myself & put my child in the firing line..but I’d definitely put her straight re people with BPD

Fucking Nasty Bitch & Very Fucking Stupid too. 🤬🤬🤬

With a bit of luck it’ll just make the others want to get to know her 🤞🏼

I imagine they’re all furiously typing away on a newly made group chat to share their shock

Well done op!!