Would you leave you’re kids with someone Bi Polar?

[MonstranceClock]

A mum from school mentioned on the group chat today that a new child was starting school and their mother has bi polar, so not to leave our kids alone with her. We usually take turns picking each other’s kids up etc as we all work full time and don’t want to pay for after school club.
I’m bi polar, but have just never felt the need to tell anyone. No I’m thinking I should say something? A) because I want to stick up for the other mum and B) to prove a point that clearly they’d never know any different if they were already informed.
It’s really pissed me off. Aibu to say sonething? But then will I risk being ostracised from the group and my child losing friends.

What nasty behavior. Yes I have left my kids with a relative who is bipolar.

What an awful thing to say. My MIL has bipolar and until post I had never even imagined not leaving my child with her because she has bipolar

Still no reply. I’ve told My daughter to make friends with the new child tomorrow at school so I can meet the mum that way.

Wow...I just saw the opening line and and came on to give you an absolute bollocking OP...have read the rest and see I can stand down

I'd be taking this other mother aside and explaining how misinformed and ignorant her views were.

I mean I have bipolar and a very responsible six figure job in the City, I don't have my own DC yet but am as responsible with children as any other adult (probably more than some!).

It's really raised my blood pressure reading about this woman's take on it

There are very few people i trust with my children, but one of them is a mum i met at the boys school. She has bi polar, it's never been an issue. She's a lovely person and a great mum to her children.

What a ridiculous, small minded person!

@TheDarkPassenger

Although secretly I’d want to tell them so none of them would leave their bratty kids with me.

@wheresmymojo can I ask what you do? You can pm me if you want. The career I wanted to do after my degree isn’t possible because of my bipolar and it’s really thrown me.

You should send her a link to this thread OP.

I think a few of us would like to put her straight. Good on you for that message!!!

What a nasty, spiteful woman. I definitely wouldn't want any DC I had around someone with such a lack of judgement and horrible character.

I bet the stupid melt has this idea that people with bipolar are frothing at the mouth Jekyll and Hyde crazed characters running amok, dangerous to all they encounter.

@iklboo i mean.... we can be

But that’s only very special occasions.

I'm a programme manager in financial services (insurance mainly), basically I manage large projects like business re-structures.

I started by joining an insurer's grad scheme and then worked up from there.

They tend to make some adjustments that I ask for such as working from home 1-2 days a week (I have a long commute). I work from home and rearrange meetings if I'm having a bad day, that kind of thing.

I've changed my lifestyle a lot which has helped - no alcohol, regular bed and waking times, not taking on too much (I have to make sure I don't take on too much at weekends) as I find if I overstretch myself by working all week and then having a massively busy weekend it catches up with me.

@MonstranceClock

Well done OP - that was the brave route you chose there!

@MonstranceClock brilliant reply of yours. I wonder where this woman got her information from anyway, if the mother confided in her and she passed it round that's a real betrayal on top of being nasty. Hopefully none of the others in the WhatsApp group agreed with her

As long as they are taking their medication I don't see why not.

Though it does remind me of a scene from american 'shameless' when ian stops his meds and kidnaps his partners baby and takes him on a road trip lol.

But hey, every kid should have a fun uncle ian I recon. Keeps life interesting.

Nasty, small minded, judgemental woman.

Good on you OP. Bet she's bloody embarrassed now!

I quit alcohol 6 months ago and my mood has never been more stable! I’m doing a psychology degree so there are lot of fields I can go into but I’m just not sure.

My mum left me with my dad and I seem to have come out ok

I would be more worried about leaving my kids with the poisonous b&@ch who gossips on group chats. Who knows what your kids will pickup

Go Monstranceclock

Great reply.

Anyway, got side tracked

A dad from the group chat has just private messaged me saying “What a cunt. X is lovely, i went to school with her.”

He’s going to speak to X and let her know what they’ve been saying.

God what a shitty thing to say.
Bloomin well done op great response and I hope you and your dd make a great friend out of all this.

He’s going to speak to X and let her know what they’ve been saying.

I think that's a really bad idea.

The poor woman is new to the school, she doesn't need to hear about this crap right now.

Well done op Standing up to this horrible woman

"I agree in telling the school about that"
Why? I get that they can watch out for the child, but by telling the school you are then just as guilty of passing on this Mums confidential medical condition.

No I wouldn’t say anything to school. It’s not their problem to sort out parents being cocks to each other.