Would you leave you’re kids with someone Bi Polar?

[MonstranceClock]

A mum from school mentioned on the group chat today that a new child was starting school and their mother has bi polar, so not to leave our kids alone with her. We usually take turns picking each other’s kids up etc as we all work full time and don’t want to pay for after school club.
I’m bi polar, but have just never felt the need to tell anyone. No I’m thinking I should say something? A) because I want to stick up for the other mum and B) to prove a point that clearly they’d never know any different if they were already informed.
It’s really pissed me off. Aibu to say sonething? But then will I risk being ostracised from the group and my child losing friends.

And the parent who wrote this on the group has already decided that this mum cannot be part of the group I guess?

I’m a mum and a teacher and I have bipolar!!! This is truly disgusting discrimination. I’d call the nasty woman out on it but don’t disclose your own medical history if you don’t want to, it’s nobody else’s business!

So basically they're saying bi-polar sufferers can't be trusted with children? So are her DC in danger then? Are they going to report her for having a child? Or does her child appear happy and healthy? That should tell you everything you need to know. If they were in any danger she wouldn't be allowed to look after her own children without supervision. And she wouldn't trust herself to either.

Uhh, sorry OP obviously you know all this having BP yourself. Got a bit carried away at their ignorance. I'd happily trust someone with the condition, I think it's pretty damn obvious if they have it under control or not.

I wonder if this mum would say the same about someone with depression and anxiety both of which I suffer with on a large scale and need medication for.

I don't think the man should say anything.

I'm not surprised at the bitches ignorance. There's some awful people in this world.

I know one person who is a schizophrenic (and possibly bi-polar too) and I will never leave my child with her. She threatened to stab me when I was pregnant - completely without any reason. I've warned other parents as she tells them she's fully qualified and asks to look after their kids.

I wanted to do a out loud WOOP when I read your text you replied with. How brave of you. Ignore her, I bet she feels like a right idiot now. Bi polar is complex and part of a fabric of your life, never be ashamed of it. A couple of my employees have a bi polar diagnosis and they are wonderful colleagues

I wish I'd done psychology now. If I was starting over I think I'd go into psychology in business - maybe aim for a HR Director kind of role or consultant on cultural change in businesses.

Or be a psychiatrist.

Any of those!

Mon that's a great but brave response you gave! I applaud you. I also think it's great you've instructed your child how to improve your social life. Gotta be some perks to this mothering lark

PLEASE her out on it! Tell her how closed minded and wrong she is

Ignore me! Stupid app didn't refresh in time for me to see Your frankly amazing message to her!

@Graphista

That’s not just outrageous behaviour it’s illegal!

It’s disability discrimination

Umm, its neither illegal nor does it fall under disability discrimination legislation.

It's ignorant and unkind, and this mum needs to be educated about bipolar, but I'm afraid she isn't breaking any laws.

It's a shame the dad in the group chat felt he needed to private message you, as opposed to lending his support visibly.

If the person would be as ill as I am I wouldn't.

OP, What a great message and best wishes with your studies.

That's just horrible for your friend. It's so wrong that this attitude towards MH issues still exists. I have a friend who is bi polar and she's a great mum. And I myself have complex PTSD as a result of childhood SA, and also Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. But I nevertheless have 2 adopted DDs and have their friends for play dates, parties and sleepovers. I keep my diagnosis secret because of judgemental sorts like this mum you speak about. Very sad really, when I shouldn't have to be secretive about it, I wouldn't have to if it was a physical illness like cancer.

Any response from the nasty woman OP? @MonstranceClock

I would not knowing leave my child with a person who was bi-polar or schizophrenic as not all stick to taking medication. I have nothing against people with mental health issues but my child is too precious to take any risk with.

One of my dc is super wary of who babysits. One of the very few people he feels safe with is my lovely friend, who happens to be bi-polar.

If you don’t want to call it out publicly then mention it to people one at a time how disgusted you felt when you heard what was being said. You don’t have to mention your own details at all.

You don’t take any risk with your child @caringcarer ? You don’t cross the road? Take them in a car? Give them food in case they choke? Take them swimming in case they drown?

You don’t leave them with people who have asthma, presumably, in case they have an attack while looking after them? Or people with diabetes in case they have a hypo? Or people with epilepsy in case they don’t take their medication?

You do realise that you probably will at some point leave your child with a person who has a diagnosis of bipolar or schizophrenia and you won’t even know it? People don’t have their diagnosis tattooed across their foreheads.

Nope nothing. I’ll see her at school tomorrow afternoon so we will see! She hates confrontation where as She knows I love it so it will be interesting to see what she does

@MonstranceClock You are my new Hero.

Well done. Seriously well done.

I would happily leave my kid with someone I knew well enough, bi-polar or not. I would NOT be leaving them with THAT school mum though - her bigotry, ignorance & spite might be contagious.

I sent “my bi polar disorder has never been issue for you so not sure why hers will be”.

Hurrah, Monstrance! You are ace :)

Can people stop using BPD to describe bipolar that's a different mental condition, Borderline personality disorder.

I've always said a lot of mental health stuff is lip service and most people don't care. Why no polar stops you looking aftet kids I dont know.