Would you look down on/think less of an otherwise respectable neighbour for smoking weed in his garden?

[MoonBaby1]

Sorry if this has been done To death. I know that mumsnet hasn’t famously been that accepting of any smoking but I wanted to see what other parents felt.

We are a respectable (I hope!) family with good relations with all our neighbours. No loud music, parties or bins left out etc.

My dh enjoys a few spliffs a night in our garden and it’s never raised any problems. Earlier today a very lovely neighbour we know and trust made a lighthearted joke about me burning a few cardboard bits left from Christmas (our garden does not border anyone else’s) when I said I hope the smoke is ok he said ‘better than the shite your fella smokes after dark! ‘. Is it still socially unacceptable to smoke weed or is he a bit older and out of touch?

I’m now way overthinking this and I’m worried that people think we’re not a nice family because they can smell weed smoke. I know I shouldn’t worry what people think but it’s got under my skin! I’ve even name changed here despite being anonymous because I’m usually the nice SEN mum posting about special needs and diet.

No. There's worse things you could be doing.

"Is it still socially unacceptable to smoke weed or is he a bit older and out of touch?"

It's ILLEGAL!

Damn right I judge you.

I'd put an intelligence report in to the police which would mean if he ever got stopped whilst driving, they would be given that intel over the radio when they ran him through the system and would drug test him. I hope he'd fail.

I would be reporting him to social services.

I'd be reporting him on the non-emergency number every single time.

I'd be speaking to the council (you can do this about home owners/renters/council tenants) that the smell is affecting me and opening a case there too.

And I certainly wouldn't be trying to engage the friendship with my drugged up neighbours who think that is acceptable.

Op would you be happy for your children to be involved in the supply of drugs to people like you ? Doubt it
Illegal Drugs all utilises the most vulnerable of society in the supply . Normally poor kids with chaotic home life
You are utterly disgusting

I detest the smell. My neighbours smoke, it spoils my enjoyment of my garden in the summer and means that I have to keep my windows shut. It's very anti social. He should smoke inside your house if it's so necessary so as not to affect others.

Doesn't bother me at all, but my family is Jamaican so 🤷🏾‍♀️

My neighbour does this. I don't mind the smell that much but I do judge him because he has two children and well, it's not really stellar parenting to be getting stoned every night after they are in bed is it?

I would judge you and would not be happy having junkies next door. In the summer my children’s window is open and I would be in rage if I the smell got in my house. I would complain and if that didn’t help I would seek advice from the police. I’m like a bloodhound when it comes to weed, the smell makes me gag. Why should anyone have to put up whit this?

Yes, I'd judge. I'd be thinking about how your DH was supporting county lines and the exploitation of vulnerable children.

I would think you are rough if you know what I mean

Loving the comment about reporting to SS. As if they'd care. The role attracts the sort of people who normalise anything dysfunctional and judge those who live well.

But it must be pretty smelly for your neighbour to notice. You don’t want it in your house yet smoking it outside allows it to permeate inside the house of your neighbour. And trust me as having a neighbour who does it is unpleasant particularly in the summer when poor dd can’t have her window open.

I’m sure you hadn’t thought that it does affect others or indeed had all of us posters who have neighbours who do it how unpleasant it is having the smell in your house. Which it must be for him to mention

I'd be speaking to the council (you can do this about home owners/renters/council tenants) that the smell is affecting me and opening a case there too.

I wouldn't bother with Env Health at your council, they'll do jack shit to be honest. That's not a throw away comment either, that's based on experience.

Yes I would judge, I do think it is chavvy, especially every night, assuming you don't live somewhere with a massive garden it affects other people (obviously affects your neighbour otherwise he wouldn't say anything).

I wouldn't be comfortable with my dh doing it every night (in the same way if he was drinking a bottle of wine every night) if be asking him to reign it in after that comment.

We have stupid laws about marijuana. I wouldn't be judging your family for this at all. I would be critical of fags and alcohol and class A drugs.

I wouldn't give a fuck about a neighbour having a joint in his garden at night.

Biber trust me the smell travels far worse than cigarettes (he smokes both my ndn)

Op a few spliffs a night? Yes that would create a pretty bad smell. The slightest window open and it gets into our house

It is antisocial and illegal and it supports the destruction of childhood of those involved in production and supply of the drug.

How anyone can have their own children, smoke weed and look them in the face knowing about the kids whose childhoods have been removed from them - just so they can have a few spliffs - for recreational pleasure - is beyond me.

I'd judge - people who smoke weed actively support the exploitation of vulnerable children in order to enjoy themselves, of course I would judge.

This thread is hilarious.

People would call the police, SS and environmental health because someone is having a joint in their garden!

Hopefully it will be legal in a few years and you will all have to move to some nanny state somewhere.

If it was say once a week, late on a sat night, I'd not think too much about it, but yes I'd also judge if it was a few and every night and kids in the house.

My next door neighbour dose it in her a joining out house and u can smell it in my kitchen and u can smell it out on the street and it does my heading we are looking to move cos of it. It's all day everyday

I’m not sure if those of you that can smell it a mile of have particularly strong strains in your area but the stuff he smokes really isn’t that pungent. I’m saying this as a non smoker so my perception shouldn’t be skewed.

Again, you’re used to it. Clearly it is pretty pungent because your neighbour can smell it and is making comments about it. Do you honestly think that comment was a light hearted friendly jibe? It wasn’t. He was making you aware that it’s affecting him.

If you were my neighbour I would be ringing the police. It smells revolting. It is also illegal. You are not a nice family and are probably the talk of the neighborhood.

Yes I would too, we had a neighbour whose house was attached to the back of ours so our kitchen window was next to his front door, I could never have it open as he would stand right next to it smoking weed! Lovely man but just didn’t get it.

It's illegal anti social, you are not respectable or nice neighbours in my view as your husbands a drug addict. I would have called police by now.

If you were my neighbour I would be contacting social services. Your children are growing up in a household where both parents are drug users. I would also be banging on the door every time I could smell it as it makes me heave and I don’t see why I should be inconvenienced in my own home by someone’s drug habit.