Potty in pub

[Mammyloveswine]

Went out for lunch with a friend today, went to a family friendly pub for lunch as has a new baby and i have a toddler.

A group were sat on the next table with older toddlers who were pottering around a little play area.

Anyway one of the toddlers went over to their mum and said she needed a wee. The mother then got a potty out from under the pram and popped it on the floor where the toddler promptly sat on it and had a wee! We were eating at the time!

I couldn't help myself saying "you know there's a toilet right there and they have a little seat for toddlers?" She looked at me and said "oh do they? Well I've got this as this is what she is used to!". I wish I'd said something about people eating but I was just astounded! She then went to the toilet to empty the potty!

I'm just shocked that someone would let their child use a potty where people are eating!! No one else in the group batted an eyelid!

Is this a thing? When I potty trained my eldest we stayed in a few days until he could hold it in enough to make it to an actual toilet! I certainly never carted a potty round with me!

I could understand taking a potty to use in the actual toilets but to use it in the middle of the pub!!

Anyone else experienced this? I wouldn't change a nappy in the middle of a pub so definitely wouldn't let my child use a potty!

Ridiculous. People think they're in their own house. No idea how to behave

I don't agree with doing it in the middle of where people are eating no but YABU and rude to what you said to her.

ew gross, never seen anything like that thankfully

Yuck!

You were neither unreasonable nor rude. It's ridiculous behaviour.

I don't agree with doing it in the middle of where people are eating no but YABU and rude to what you said to her.

So you think she was wrong but that no one should tell her she's wrong? interesting

That's disgusting.
No one should be peeing where people are eating, toddler or not.
She could take the potty her child is used to to the pub toilet.
Grim.

@PixieDustt interesting! I thought I was quite restrained!

I think she was rude allowing her child to urinate where others are eating!

The way you said it was rude. That's my opinion, you posted on AIBU you can't expect everyone to agree with you.

Thats disgusting

@PixieDust fair enough!

What would you have said?

*I don't agree with doing it in the middle of where people are eating no but YABU and rude to what you said to her.

So you think she was wrong but that no one should tell her she's wrong? interesting*

nope just the way the OP said it come across rude.

Gross, YANBU

@PixieDustt what exactly was rude about what the OP said?
There was no need to use the potty in the eating area with toilets right beside it, people have lost all sense of the most basic social etiquette.

That's grim, no excuse. I would probably not had the balls to have said the same thing

We were on holiday abroad a few years ago, eating dinner outside in a restaurant. Large British family there too. They whipped out a potty and their toddler did a wee and a poo in it. It was shown to the family who promptly cheered and clapped!

Blimey, I think you were restrained in the circumstances

Minging and utterly thoughtless. Your response was indeed very restrained. I would have been a lot harsher.

YANBU. If they can't wait for more than 2 minutes to go to the toilet (and by all means use your own potty in there) then they're not ready for potty training. Absolutely gross to be on the potty in view of people eating!

This was at their dinner table

Sometimes you have to just say the obvious to people who are either disrespectful of others or just thick. Or both.

Am I the only one who wouldn't care it's only a wee ?
A poo fair enough lol 😂

I dread to think what they do at their own dinner table

Grim, YANBU, OP, well done for pointing it out to the person.

All parents know a No. 1 often and quickly becomes a No.2!