Potty in pub

[Mammyloveswine]

Went out for lunch with a friend today, went to a family friendly pub for lunch as has a new baby and i have a toddler.

A group were sat on the next table with older toddlers who were pottering around a little play area.

Anyway one of the toddlers went over to their mum and said she needed a wee. The mother then got a potty out from under the pram and popped it on the floor where the toddler promptly sat on it and had a wee! We were eating at the time!

I couldn't help myself saying "you know there's a toilet right there and they have a little seat for toddlers?" She looked at me and said "oh do they? Well I've got this as this is what she is used to!". I wish I'd said something about people eating but I was just astounded! She then went to the toilet to empty the potty!

I'm just shocked that someone would let their child use a potty where people are eating!! No one else in the group batted an eyelid!

Is this a thing? When I potty trained my eldest we stayed in a few days until he could hold it in enough to make it to an actual toilet! I certainly never carted a potty round with me!

I could understand taking a potty to use in the actual toilets but to use it in the middle of the pub!!

Anyone else experienced this? I wouldn't change a nappy in the middle of a pub so definitely wouldn't let my child use a potty!

What supermarket doesn’t have public toilets?
Shops yes, supermarkets...mo

I want saw someone get out a porta potty in the frozen aisle of Tesco there were toilets about 30 seconds away

Unbelievable

You go to the toilet at the supermarket. They have toilets. Please don't wee where people are buying food.

you would think that a poster saying 'don't shit where you eat' is merely stating something that no normal person would do

Yes, you would but fuck me some people need it spelling out to them, don't they?

YANBU - they need to be trained to hold it a little bit - that's why its called potty training. Disgusting and lazy.

DisappearingGirl Your child is no different to any other toddler. To be honest, I think having the potty with you made you complacent/lazy about taking her to a toilet.

Dreadful behaviour, she could have taken her child to the toilets to use the potty.

I’d have complained to the staff and got them to speak to them. No need for it whatsoever.

Pubs aren’t the place for children let alone needing to use a potty inside.

Yes @IceCreamandCandyFloss !
"Pubs aren’t the place for children"

Exactly the thought that has been running through my mind whilst reading the thread.

Anyway, OP, I also commend you for your restraint. I wouldn't have been as nice. I also would've made sure I got a free meal out of it, too. ;-)

Your child is no different to any other toddler. To be honest, I think having the potty with you made you complacent/lazy about taking her to a toilet.

No not at all, I was maybe a bit too strict about going to the toilet if anything! The potty was an emergency measure. I think that was the only time we had to use it in public. I'd actually just taken her to the loo but she'd refused to go and had a tantrum. Then when she suddenly needed it, I knew it would be a big one as she'd been holding it in, so it was a split second decision to grab potty instead of going back to toilet!

I can't believe I'm arguing this really, I agree with you all really I'm honestly not the kind of parent who is all about their little darling, I wouldn't normally dream of getting potties out in public / changing nappies on tables etc! I just remember those 2-3 weeks being really tricky. After that she'd mostly cracked it and we would always aim for toilet, even if that meant damp pants.

Anyway, as you were!!

Pubs aren’t the place for children

OP said it was a child friendly pub. Lots of pubs round me have play areas and rely on families or they'd close down.

It's not good parenting. A child needs to be socialised to use a toilet! Some people have poor skills.

Can’t believe how many people think you were rude. I’m guessing these are the lily livered people who get easily offended (often on somebody else’s behalf) 😀 and would be too embarrassed to pull CF up on their shit but then go home and moan about them.

@DisappearingGirl well other parents manage it!

Totally unacceptable in a pub. Sadly, l can top this. Child doing a poo(!) in a potty alongside a dining table in Pizza Express.

Can't belive some posters think you were rude.

I would have said, bluntly - excuse me, do you mind, there are people eating here and that is disgusting, this is not a toilet.

It is totally unacceptable.

Any talk back would result in complaining to the manager about having to eat food where people were urinating.

So she justified it by saying child was used to using a potty...and then emptied it in the loo - classic! What an idiot.

Totally repulsive.

I was in the toilets of a McDonald's in China once. Witnessed a lady holding her toddler up to poo in the bin. Two free cubicles right behind her.

but YABU and rude to what you said to her.

Rubbish, nothing rude about it, quite a measured response to a foul entitled individual. That's what toilets are for, eating areas are for eating, should be easy for the simplest of souls.

No, honest question, what is right to do in that stage? The museum thing was a split second decision but I'm 90% sure there would have been a wee on the floor if I'd tried to zoom her to toilet

You forgo the unnecessary trips for a couple of weeks.

Hmm yes they could of took toddler to the toilet. It wouldn’t have offended me now. My son took weeks or even months to become fully trained (he has additional needs) so it was impossible to stay in whilst we were training him! I had to take the potty everywhere. We were discrete about it most of the time but he was scared of the big toilet!

Sorry, haven't RTFT, but if it's unacceptable to request that a breastfeeding mother should feed her child in a toilet (which I completely agree with), then surely it's unacceptable that a person goes to the toilet in an eating area for much the same reasons?

That is disgusting! However they might invest in one of these? 🤣
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