Potty in pub

[Mammyloveswine]

Went out for lunch with a friend today, went to a family friendly pub for lunch as has a new baby and i have a toddler.

A group were sat on the next table with older toddlers who were pottering around a little play area.

Anyway one of the toddlers went over to their mum and said she needed a wee. The mother then got a potty out from under the pram and popped it on the floor where the toddler promptly sat on it and had a wee! We were eating at the time!

I couldn't help myself saying "you know there's a toilet right there and they have a little seat for toddlers?" She looked at me and said "oh do they? Well I've got this as this is what she is used to!". I wish I'd said something about people eating but I was just astounded! She then went to the toilet to empty the potty!

I'm just shocked that someone would let their child use a potty where people are eating!! No one else in the group batted an eyelid!

Is this a thing? When I potty trained my eldest we stayed in a few days until he could hold it in enough to make it to an actual toilet! I certainly never carted a potty round with me!

I could understand taking a potty to use in the actual toilets but to use it in the middle of the pub!!

Anyone else experienced this? I wouldn't change a nappy in the middle of a pub so definitely wouldn't let my child use a potty!

I don’t think what you said was rude at all! She was rude allowing her child to toilet where people are eating! Beyond entitled!

I would have complained to mother she could have taken potty into loo area for child to use. I would also complain to pub owners about speaking to mother about what she did. Weeing in areas for eating are not on.

Grim! The child and the potty could have been taken to the toilet and everything done in there, other people manage to do that. I remember a thread a while back where someone let their toddler do a poo in similar circumstances and it stunk the restaurant out - what is wrong with people?

God no. I've brought a potty or toddler training seat to a restaurant before (kept in the car until needed) but you bring them into the toilets to use! Not right in the pub/restaurant.
I think you were right to suggest it to her.

Omg @Deelish75 that is beyond grim!

Absolutely disgusting! YANBU!!

You weren't rude at all! I'd have said something too - probably not as restrained as you!
I was in China few years back and one of the woman had her small child and suddenly she unbuttoned his bottoms and held him in a squat position whilst he had a poo - all over the pavement! My relative who lived there at the time said it was normal

A friend of mine did this in a cafe.
I couldn't believe it. We were in the middle of eating lunch.
I said that I thought it would be better if they went to the toilet- she said 'Oh, we'll be ok here! ' She pushes the full potty under the table when he'd finished doing a wee.

'Pushed'

It's rotten! I think some people lose all sense of what's appropriate when they have a child.

Perfectly reasonable - of you. That is seriously grim. I'm glad to say, I've never seen anyone do this.

Shocked how many people have seen similar!!

Disgusting!

I've seen the same thing happen in the "café type area" in a soft play centre. I was speechless

My first thought was did she wash the toddler's hands after they used the potty? Another opportunity to teach about hygiene lost. I would have probably seethed in silence though.

Yes,this is not on at all, Some folks have no decency. Perhaps there should be a notice about such things in the eating area, but no idea where they would put the notice,or what it should say. I could perhaps think of something funny though.

Grim as fuck. I think you were pretty restrained.

That's rank!

I was once in a very nice gastro having dinner and the people next to me changed their baby on the table, and did not take kindly to other diners telling them they were being inappropriate.

That is really disgusting. I'm always at parents whose idea of toilet training is teaching their small child to pee right where they are, wherever that may be. Aside from how dirty it is, it just means you're teaching them twice - once not to do it in their nappy, and then again when you have to teach them that no, actually, pulling your trousers down in the street/in a shop to pee isn't what we do, you have to go to an actual toilet.

YANBU that's disgusting. At least it wasn't a poo

Bleugh.

I’m still traumatised from going to a friends for pizza and finding myself with a plate of food, next to her toddler who was on the potty, in front of the tv, eating a piece of garlic bread, while doing a poo.

And that was at least her own house!!

It's disgusting. I don't think what you said was rude.

That's actually made me feel a bit queasy!!!

actually, pulling your trousers down in the street/in a shop to pee isn't what we do, you have to go to an actual toilet

Given the amount of grown men I've seen do this in broad daylight (near open pubs, libraries and a supermarket with toilet facilities), some parents never got beyond the "not in your nappy" stage.

I’ve seen this a few times. It does seem to be a bit of a thing. Like in soft plays etc?!? Why?

I used a potty that I couldn’t throw away a bag type thing. I used it in a toilet!

Ewwwwww. I would of complained to the manager that health and safety regards due to someone urinating in a place that people eat!

That’s disgusting.
I can understand if they’re out on a walk or something, but when your in a place with accessible toilets there’s just no need. I would of complained to the manager.