I think my problems come from the fact that although I had a big crush on my dh I dont think I ever 'fell for him'. I wanted a family and so did he in the end we decided to make a go of it...get married and have a baby. We haven't had sex since I was pregnant (nearly 2 years ago now). This is entirely the choice of my dh, he never was that fussed (complete opposite of me), then he said it was becasue I was pregnant, then it just slipped out of discussions. I got a couple glances recently by an attractive man (friend of ours) and this has sent my mind wandering. I knew I was unhappy before but not I am thinking, where do we go from here? How will I make this work? Do I get to be happy? Do I need to be head of heals in love with him, because I am not and don't think I ever was. Thing is I don't want to a single parent famiy I grew up in one and they are pretty tough (mainly financially). Can anyone save me from feeling quite so down today?