Who is BU?

[Duchessgummybuns]

Child needs glasses for everyday wear, however they haven’t had any since August as they either broke or lost them (story keeps changing)

Resident Parent and NRP do not get on. RP sends message for child to relay saying if NRP wants child to have glasses NRP will have to collect them from opticians as they are working on the day they will be in.

NRP works long full time hours in a town 45 minutes away on a good day, and only has child EOW, so if the optician needs to fit them it will be another two weeks before child can wear the glasses (if they post them to the opticians in their town). NRP is inclined to tell RP this is their responsibility as RP, however if RP insists they will sort it out if necessary even though it will take longer so child can have glasses.

Who is being Unreasonable?

Both parents are being unreasonable you made a child so you be civil and put the childs needs above not liking each other, whoever can collect the glasses first should do so.

FFS

It doesn't matter who collects the glasses, if DC hasn't had them since August then I'd personally want to ensure they had them ASAP

Fgs both parents should be acting like parents, this is a child’s eyesight at risk

They should have had them way before now, sort it out!

I wouldn't care who fetches the glasses. Is be more concerned that the poor child needs them and hasn't had them for almost 5 months!!! That's neglectful!

Both parents should be ashamed of themselves. It's not a bloody game!

They haven’t had glasses for 5 months. Wtf kind of parents are either of them

RP can physically collect glasses soonest physically. Don’t think I made that clear.

@Duchessgummybuns RP could but hasn’t so far, NRP could step up and get them for the child and stop the game playing.

Poor kid

Both parents should stop game playing and consider what is in the best interests of the child.

Parents should obtain two pairs of glasses so there is a spare.

Both parents should be ashamed of themselves.

Instead of worrying about who’s BU, both parents need to look at why it’s taken so long and sort it ASAP. There’s a child in the middle of this petty point scoring.

Both parents are shit and need to step the fuck up.

Why are the RP and NRP using the child to communicate messages? That's unfair and could lead to confusion.

Parents need to grow up and start finding better ways of communicating and parenting. They should look at mediation and work together, whatever they think of each other. What if this was a medical appointment, or essential medication?

Why has the child been without glasses since August? This will likely have impacted on their learning, and their eyes will have been strained.

Don't use your child to play mind games with each other. Poor child . Bad parenting on both sides.

agree, both unreasonable.
Be the adult in this scenario.

Also, I agree with a PP - they need to get a spare pair. My DS is always breaking his glasses and I ensure he has a spare pair available.

I assume you are the NRP (or partner of NRP)? And if that's the case then then how do you know that RP can physically collect glasses soonest physically? RP may have all sorts of commitments that you are unaware of.

Sounds like either parent would have to take time off work to collect the glasses so there is no reason it should be one rather than the other.

Which parent took the child last time to the optician and to have glasses fitted? I'd say that its the other parent's turn.

No glasses since August, both parents are a disgrace

Both parents are shit and need to step the fuck up.
Couldn't have said it better myself. If you are involved with NRP then tell them to make getting the glasses a priority. Plus get a spare sorted. Specsavers is great for this.

Poor bloody kid.

How old is the child? I don’t know why this affects my answer.

Why would fitting need a return trip? I’ve always had it done there are then?

there *and then

Both are being U and are doing some weird point scoring exercise. Someone needs to just take the child to have them fitted, it's not that difficult.

Both need to stop playing games and get the poor kid their glasses. To leave them without since August is shocking. In the future order them in from specsavers where you’ll get a spare pair as standard alongside the nhs pair (assuming UK).

The pair of you are neglectful.

Your child can't see properly, hasn't been able to for 5 months due to your silly squabbling and you're still whining about who's responsible for travelling to collect the glasses?!

Awful parenting from both of you, poor child. If I was his teacher I'd report you. How is he supposed to learn if he can't see?

Go and collect the glasses as soon as they are available and take them to the child.

Why is RP not willing to collect them on a different day?

Also just because they are RP, it shouldn't automatically make it their responsibility as you have put in the OP.