Who is BU?

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Child needs glasses for everyday wear, however they haven’t had any since August as they either broke or lost them (story keeps changing)

Resident Parent and NRP do not get on. RP sends message for child to relay saying if NRP wants child to have glasses NRP will have to collect them from opticians as they are working on the day they will be in.

NRP works long full time hours in a town 45 minutes away on a good day, and only has child EOW, so if the optician needs to fit them it will be another two weeks before child can wear the glasses (if they post them to the opticians in their town). NRP is inclined to tell RP this is their responsibility as RP, however if RP insists they will sort it out if necessary even though it will take longer so child can have glasses.

Who is being Unreasonable?

I don't think OP will come back, but hopefully is still reading. I agree OP is the partner of one of the parents and hopefully this thread will be a warning not to have any DC with such a selfish, irresponsible and generally poor parent.

(I always wonder how OPs feel reading such unanimous responses and if they take it on board or dismiss it on grounds like "MNers don't know the full story". I'd really like to think it has been useful even if it has been hard to read)

This is absolutely disgusting! That poor child being made to pass along messaged and go without glasses that they need because their parents are a pair of wet lettuces and seem set on playing games.

Fuck me! Pick up glasses, post to child. It’s not rocket science!

To allow a child to suffer for a stupid game of tit for tat is beyond me.

Also how can something turn up missing

Fuck me! Pick up glasses, post to child. It’s not rocket science!

The child needs to be there to make sure they fit correctly

There's another thread running at the moment about weird names for children.

What is this one called, Pawn?

Fucking disgusting behaviour from two people who created a human being together.

I don't think it matters who picks up the glasses but both parents need to grow the fuck up and stop being tools. I'd be ashamed to be part of this set up.

You're both dickheads!

This is diabolical.
The poor kid hasn’t had glasses since August because of petty point scoring between two feckless “parents”
Grow up

You can't just go to opticians and collect glasses for a child, just like that! There has to be a qualified optician present and the fit has to be checked to ensure they are secure and comfortable. So you need to make an appointment for when the optician is there.

It sounds like RP doesn't rate the glasses as necessary, must be a frustrating situation all round. I would hate to be an onlooker in this debacle...

Using a child to relay messages is disgusting. Child not being able to see since August is neglect. I hope someone reports you both.

And NRP needs to step the fuck up and go back to court if there are issues, but use their fucking brain and not use a child to communicate.

Guessing you are the new partner of the non resident partner? Can't nrp collect, and drop off to the child regardless of contact?

the child needs to go to the optician to get the glasses fitted properly

Opticians tend to open on a Saturday too so nobody needs to take time off work to take the child for their glasses

Parents need their heads banged together. Neglectful, petty point scoring....probably much more going on too that he/she is caught in the middle of. Poor child.

If I knew these parents I would report this to social services. The child has been without glasses since August ! It will be affecting the child’s life and learning. Both parents are a bloody disgrace - get the glasses sorted out as a priority, you should be ashamed of yourselves.

Agreed.

Any teachers who are aware of the situation are also being neglectful. The so-called "parents" are pond scum as this is straight up abuse. Ditto any step parents standing by and letting this happen.

Ffs someone get that child its glasses, both BU

not sure which one you are op, but one of you needs to be the grown up and put the child and the childs long term eyesight first, the childs ability to see is more important that either of you and your petty little feels... take a day or a few hours off work, take the child out of school and go get the fucken glasses... its not hard, take the time to be the grown up, take the time to be the parent , be an adult get the fucken glasses

That poor child. Both parents need to grow the fuck up, start behaving like adults and stop trying to get one over the other one or ‘win’

You both sound like disgusting parents. Your poor child.

I think the parent who has the child 12 out of 14 days is guilty of neglect.
They know their child needs glasses but has decided to play games with NRP.
So they have denied the child proper sight to score points.
How come they just got glasses this week?
Also the NRP needs to maybe take a half day and sort this.

ffs PUT YOUR CHILD FIRST

I think the parent who has the child 12 out of 14 days is guilty of neglect

I think in this case both parents are, as it's been going on for at least 4 months.

If OP is in a relationship with one of the parents, he/she should use any influence they have to get this sorted ASAP, and if unsuccessful should ask for help from professionals who could ensure it is sorted.

An appointment to pick up glasses can be made AT YOUR CONVENIENCE. The parents should arrange a pick up time that works around their jobs. Most opticians are open both days at weekends. There is literally no excuse for their behaviour.

Both parents need to stop their stupid game playing.

The child needs glasses, they need sorting asap. As for the RP not allowing any contact outside of the EOW, unless there's abuse involved, this is just ridiculous. Perhaps NRP can go back to court to alter this.

How old is the child? Are they old enough for their wishes to be taken into account?

Meanwhile NRP can collect the glasses and arrange an appointment on their EOW.