Who is BU?

[Duchessgummybuns]

Child needs glasses for everyday wear, however they haven’t had any since August as they either broke or lost them (story keeps changing)

Resident Parent and NRP do not get on. RP sends message for child to relay saying if NRP wants child to have glasses NRP will have to collect them from opticians as they are working on the day they will be in.

NRP works long full time hours in a town 45 minutes away on a good day, and only has child EOW, so if the optician needs to fit them it will be another two weeks before child can wear the glasses (if they post them to the opticians in their town). NRP is inclined to tell RP this is their responsibility as RP, however if RP insists they will sort it out if necessary even though it will take longer so child can have glasses.

Who is being Unreasonable?

Or school safeguarding lead reported a family for not providing glasses for a dc who needed them at primary. It was classed as neglect. Just get your dc some glasses ffs. If other parent is being crap it doesn't mean you have to be!

Our not or

I'd book an appointment when the nrp has the child at an optician in their local town. Their prescription will more than likely have changed now, especially as they havent had any for 5 months.
So nrp will take child to appointment, then 2 weeks later pick up the glasses and have them fitted at the same time. I don't know why this hasn't occurred to anybody
Get the child their fucking glasses.

This is pathetic

If the glasses are to be collected where RP lives I don’t understand why they can’t collect them when they don’t work, glasses can be collected any day.

Actually in answer to your question I think the RP is being more unreasonable.

If the glasses are ready to collect, then all that is needed is for one parent to take DC to opticians for 15 minutes max to just ensure the fit is right on new glasses and the arms don't need adjusting so they don't slip down the nose so they are looking over the glasses (which takes less than 30 seconds) and they can see clearly, but the DC needs to be there to check fitting so neither RP or NRP can pick up without the child.

Well it's not really a case of who's being unreasonable is it.

Both parents are neglectful cunts who don't deserve a child. This poor kid. I hope someone's watching out for them, these arsehole parents are causing lifelong harm to the child and I'm not just talking about the eyesight.

They should be utterly ashamed of themselves but they sound too self important and self absorbed to care.

Get the poor child their glasses you selfish, ridiculous wankers.

If the RP is working when glasses arrive, can't they collect them the day after?
Or is the NRP insisting they have to collect them on the day?
Is the problem who pays for them?

In any case, who leaves a child months without needed glasses?

Clearly the tip of the iceberg as parents not communicating directly. RP needs to get act together and pick up glasses the next available day after they come in, NRP needs to stop whinging about distance and work commitments and 'only EOW' which could even be 50:50?.
Both parents have had 5 months to sort it out. What a pair.

Oh to be putting their child first ey 🙄

Both parties sound like dreadful parents

Both being pathetic.

I'm guessing RP is the ex and you're the new partner in a relationship with NRP?

both parents should stop being arseholes using the child to communicate, dreadful behaviour, just go and get the damm glasses and stop being a dick

@OhMeows I agree

Is the problem who pays for them?

They're likely to be free if child is under 16 and UK resident.

NRP has been asking after glasses since they turned up missing, but RP has refused to discuss it.

What prevented the NRP from taking the kid to get glasses on one of the visitation weekends? Why keep asking for five months? They both sound like pretty crappy parents.

This is awful behaviour. On the face of it the RP is being more U as they have access to the child for more time so should be better able to fit in appointments etc but if they are being difficult or having difficulties, the NRH has to do something. Even if it means ending up with two pairs of glasses, just get it done ASAP by whatever means.

And they need to stop using the child to pass messages

They’re both being unreasonable. There’s a kid stuck in the middle of all this, witnessing that both of their parents care more about making a point/getting even with each other than they do about the kid’s needs. Great parenting there.

Jesus wept.

That poor child. Two of mine wear glasses and we have two pairs at all times.

I cannot imagine when a situation would occur that my child's eyesight would not be a priority for more than 24 hours (say broken Sunday and to opticians on Monday).
The opticians will need to fit the children's glasses.

Is the child having headaches?

Poor bairn.

Stop playing games. Be normal and civil for the childs sake. Go and get them sorted asap, otherwise the child may end up worse off.

your poor child

Get over yourself and get the bloody glasses! I suspect you are non resident parent? The piss poor excuse they will have to wait a couple more weeks when they have been waiting 5 months already is pathetic! Two wrongs don't make a right. Other parent is as bad, poor child.

whilst you are at it get a spare pair.

You need the child with you when picking up the glasses as they need to check they fit correctly and dont slide down and the arms don't dig in. Whoever has the child should get their arse to the optician and collect them.