So frustrated of conversations with DC like this. AIBU or is DC.

[Garbosdinner]

I keep getting in to little squabbles with DC because I think we are both not explaining ourselves correctly. I'm not sure who is at fault, if anyone. It happens a lot.

For context they went out this morning shopping with a friend (in London). I've spoken to them once and stayed in what's app contact for the rest of the day. Here is tonight's exchange over what's app.

[03/01, 19:29] 🙄: Where are you

[03/01, 19:58] ××× ❤: We went to the other Westfield’s

[03/01, 19:58] 🙄: The question was ... where are you now

[03/01, 19:58] ××××❤: We went to the other Westfield’s

[03/01, 20:00] 🙄: The question was... where are you now.
How can you not see that your previous answer could mean that you was at the other Westfields but you are now at kings cross.
I ask again.. where are you now.

[03/01, 20:00] xxxx ❤: Then I would have said that I went to the other Westfield’s and now we’re at kings cross

[03/01, 20:03] 🙄: Why on earth would you have said that? I asked where you are now.

[03/01, 20:04] xxxx ❤: And I said we might go the other Westfield’s so I said we went to the other Westfield’s

[03/01, 20:05] 🙄: Yes you did indeed. But then I asked you where you are NOW.... 'we went to Westfields' implies you was at Westfields but that you are no longer there!

How old

Dc is defo u

With * the consersations

Please MN get an edit button.

Ehm, I think you sound as bad as each other

You seem a little petty and condescending... given you’re the adult and it’s your daughter. No warmth in your messages either...

Would it not have been easier if your second message was just "are you still there?" ?

For the love of god OP, choose your battles.

You could have just asked 'Are you still there now?' and stopped this fiasco in it's tracks.

Second messages from you “are you still there now?” Job done.

This would annoy me too OP. They could be anywhere in London. 😳

YABU for saying “you was”.

I mean neither of you sound great there tbh.

If you repeat you’re questions she probably thinks you didn’t get her first reply.

Just ask a more specific question.

So - “are you still there? Or are you on the way home?” For example.

Pick your battles

Fatted.. it really isn't a full on battle ! Usually I would have said 'are you still there' but he has been saying it's me who doesn't make sense in conversations (I have MS so thought I was losing my marbles).. but seeing it in text made me realise that for whatever reason we just seem to mean different things !

I was pretty condescending and I meant to be ! We have an otherwise great relationship!

Ffs. Obviously I mean your question.

I suspect I would also have called after the first unintelligible reply. You know. To actually speak to them.

Bonkers.
How old are your children.. 10?

But I would also like to know why there are two westfields . Mysterious. (Obviously I don’t know London lol)

Fascinated

His phone is on silent.. hardly ever answers it.

You both sound pedantic and stubborn - the wilful repetition of exactly the same sentence, the “why didn’t you...” stuff.

Cut it out, both of you!

fascinated one of them is to the west, the other is to the east! London takes a long time to cross so they end up being quite far from each other.

He's interpreting your question as a continuation of the earlier discussion, effectively "where did you end up going?" .

It's the kind of mismatch that happens all the time only you turned it into an unnecessary argument.

I think you should choose your battles too! It was perfectly clear to me what she/he meant!

Why didn't you just call?
I think you need to teach them how to use an apostrophe when they get home.

It wasn't and isn't an argument. We don't argue like that. Yes, we both want to be right but it's fairly lighthearted.

It was just really interesting to see it in black and white.. and know I'm not going crazy. I really want to understand how he is thinking.

How old is he?