DH is refusing to buy me medicine

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DH (as in dickhead right now) is at a mates house 10 mins away, and has refused to buy me paracetamol for my cramps, my period is due next week and I always get these awful cramps before my period. It hurts, I can’t sleep. Kids in bed, corner shop down the road from me and he says I should wait til he gets home, and he doesn’t know when he’s leaving. Shop is closing 11pm. He’s got a car and it will literally take him 2mins to come here. AIBU to think he’s being inconsiderate?

Don't understand why you don't have these in stock! Common sense!

I get really bad cramps and paracetamol works quite well. It just doesn't reduce the amount of blood, which ibuprofen does.

*You would rather bother your (possibly sleeping) neighbors at 10 o'clock at night than ask your husband?

Why?*

1. My example said “now” and I posted less than an hour ago. I know my neighbours and they are up at this time of the MORNING
2. Even at night I can see from lights etc. if they are up.
3. A neighbour could lend me some paracetamol more quickly than anyone having to go and get some.

I also need to have stocks of pads, pain killers and tissues. There have been times when I've run out. Partly because I have them in different places and because I keep stock I don't buy them that often.
It happens.
It's worse having people in our lives who don't care when we're in pain.

It's actually not about woman's needs being lesser than men.

It's about questioning whether her rights are greater than his.

And what would she have done if it happened a few hours later and the middle of the night when no shops are open.

It's about being organised and responsible for yourself rather than relying on someone to drop everything and be there.

Calpol should do the trick if you've got any in?

itsgettingweird have you never run out of anything you need regularly? Is it only female specific products which women must never run out of (and if they do they deserve the consequences and mustn't bother their male "partner") or does this also apply to milk, bread, nappies, wrapping paper, dishwasher salt, spare soap for the family bathrooms etc etc?

And what would she have done if it happened a few hours later and the middle of the night when no shops are open.

A further away pharmacy?

DH could have been mid game with his friends or something so leaving would have disrupted several people's evening and not just his own. I think the thread title is rather misleading and dramatic, as is the PP who likened this to her exp's financial abuse and control. Personally I'd just be annoyed with my self for forgetting to stock up on such a basic product knowing it's likely I need it and wait for P to come home.

It's about questioning whether her rights are greater than his.
I'd say that pain, in general, trumps visiting friends, yes. Particularly if it doesn't have to be one or the other. If any partner can get their partner medicine and visit friends, surely that's OK.

Don't understand why you don't have these in stock! Common sense!

I'm amazed that you've never forgotten anything in your entire life.

happycamper11 mid game? Cards? GTA? Monopoly? Can't have a man drop out of a game because his "partner" is in pain can we? Having a player drop out of a late night card game might annoy his mates or get him teased for being hen pecked! The cheek of the little woman!

@MrsMillerbecameababy the bathroom is completely DH's domain, he buys all loo roll and cleaning stuff. I genuinely wouldn't have a clue if we ran out of toilet roll or bleach or soap or washing powder. I quite enjoy the role reversal.

A further away pharmacy?

Maybe this is his plan? To get OP some paracetamol after seeing his friends?

? Can't have a man drop out of a game because his "partner" is in pain

Well man or woman, makes no difference. It's not like it's an emergency situation

It’s just period cramps. I think zYABU to demand he go buy some painkillers now. If he won’t get them on his way home, the YANBU.

If I were desperate, I’d get the kids out of bed and we’d all go to the corner shop. You can walk with period pains. It’s not like you’re in active labour or have chopped off a limb.

@Cryingoverspilttea why is it the worst painkiller for period pain if it works for her?

Why does he even have to see or visit friends? Single parents don't have babysitters and hardly have a social life. hmm

That's a bit much. Just because single parents find socialising difficult doesn't mean two-parent families shouldn't be able to. It's healthy to see and have friends.

If I were desperate, I’d get the kids out of bed and we’d all go to the corner shop.

I beg your pardon?

paranoidmum2 do you not use the toilet? How wouldn't you have a clue if you ran out of toilet paper or soap? Do you never put a wash on even if you need something for yourself? That's not role reversal, that's just daft - surely everyone over the age of 12 occasionally puts a wash on, even if only because they want something of theirs washed straight away?

happycamper11 games outrank pain in your hierarchy of needs? Okay...

It’s just period cramps. I think zYABU to demand he go buy some painkillers now. If he won’t get them on his way home, the YANBU.

If I were desperate, I’d get the kids out of bed and we’d all go to the corner shop. You can walk with period pains. It’s not like you’re in active labour or have chopped off a limb.

It's almost like you've never actually had horrific period pain and you've not experienced something other women do. Fancy us all being different.

I'm glad I'm married to someone that actually likes me enough to want to relive my pain and not a miserable, uncaring asshole like so many of you seem to be and be yourselves.

@PlanDeRaccordement you’re making a massive assumption that period pain is never severe enough that you can’t walk. How lucky you are if that’s the case for you. As for getting the kids up....???

PlanDeRaccordement you'd get small children out of bed and take them out late at night rather than disturb your partner who's ten minutes away, not at work but socialising? Would you expect your partner to do the same?

Some people's priorities are completely upsidedown...

That's because they are LP or single.

I think I get the point how leweji dw

Last week I drove almost two hours to go and take dh some cold care tea and a kemp's up because he was stuck at work feeling horrid. And that was just a cold let alone period cramps.

He's left nights out early to come home and make me a hot water bottle and just be with me when I've had cramps.

I like that we both go out of our ways to do both little and big things for each other when we're feeling off. Many of you are scoffing but for us it's one of the essential glues in our relationship. I spent many, many years being single, I love having someone that cares about me and love caring for someone.