DH is refusing to buy me medicine

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DH (as in dickhead right now) is at a mates house 10 mins away, and has refused to buy me paracetamol for my cramps, my period is due next week and I always get these awful cramps before my period. It hurts, I can’t sleep. Kids in bed, corner shop down the road from me and he says I should wait til he gets home, and he doesn’t know when he’s leaving. Shop is closing 11pm. He’s got a car and it will literally take him 2mins to come here. AIBU to think he’s being inconsiderate?

But why does the OPs period pain trump her DHs evening visiting a friend?...For goodness sake women have had periods and period pain since the dawn of time! So OP instead of complaining, get off MN cuddle up with a hot water bottle and go to the shops yourself in the morning!
Hospitalknickers

I have now read that five times.

My eyebrows can't go up any higher, nor my jaw fall any lower.

@sobeyondthehills - your post to me doesn’t make any sense. Are you intending to agree or disagree with me, or have you not actually read all my posts?! Or maybe you are accidentally aiming your comments at the wrong person?

Oh, I don't know, Math, this little zinger:

Why don't you plan ahead and have a bottle on hand? Take a hot bath and go to bed? I couldn't even imagine bugging my DH to leave his night out to go get me medicine for my period that is coming in 1 week lol!!! Just chop off his balls right now and get it over with ffs.

I think I sprained my eyeballs. Jesus wept.

Some of these answers. I despair. Hopefully op is fast asleep with or without painkillers.

Blimey StrangeLookingParasite.

God forbid that a man might be seen by any of his mates doing a mere woman a kindness, moreover a kindness that is related to disgusting female bodily problems.

Never mind that the woman in this case is the mother of his children, the woman he promised to love and honour as long as they both should live.

The bloody cheek of her (pardon my pun) expecting a man to stop his fun and stoop to a demonstration of caring, gentlemanly behaviour like that in front of other men whose opinion of him obviously matters so much more than his responsibility toward his life partner.

My saintly DH (who shall soon have a holy day named after him) once walked, WALKED no less, to the local garage to get me pads and tampons as I had forgotten to order them with the online shop.

In fairness, he wasn't relaxing at a friend's house beforehand but he had to walk up a pretty steep hill to get home.

He also brought me back an Easter egg which we both ate it while complaining about the fact that it was February.

I am so fed up of men being this crap. YANBU

The responses on this thread are bloody horrendous. I know there are people in the world devoid of compassion but I’m always so surprised when I encounter them in the wild, especially in groups.

Why so many automatic negative assumptions? Could be her stock has been depleted over Christmas due to illness. Could be the online shop didn’t include them due to being out of stock. Could be that she’s done everything for Christmas herself and therefore forgot - why is that less likely than this being a way of controlling her DH?

Some women simply cannot understand that not everyone’s periods are like theirs.

Maybe OP already takes ibuprofen and uses heat but needs paracetamol too to try to manage the pain? Who knows? It’s all irrelevant.

OP I understand what these awful pains are like. I really recommend going into a chemist when you can and buying the biggest box of ibuprofen and some Paramol (paracetamol and dihydracodeine) in the morning or sending someone for you, assuming you can take those things. Set an alarm on your phone once a month to pop in and stock up. An electric heat pad is also a huge help.

And please see your GP - it’s not normal to be in so much pain

@SinkGirl also, maybe her DH all the last of the paracetamol and didn't replace stocks.

If you always get this then you need to keep what you need in the house .

Just wow at some of these responses. People run out of stuff sometimes. It happens. She is at home looking after dc so can’t get out herself. It wouldn’t kill her DH to show a bit of care and compassion.

I use to have the most terrible cramps- it’s no fun and frankly it’s minimised by a lot of people. Asking your DH to spend a few minutes to help isn’t unreasonable. The attitude of - its your problem so you can just bloody well suffer is nasty.

The number of ppl who speculate that her DH may have used the last of the paracetamol makes me SMH... because somehow or other it has to be his fault.

Sympathies, OP, I get cramps too.

I agree with pp asking if this was rare or regular? Do you ask him to get paracetamol for every period or has your stock depleted?

Paracetamol is 16p a pack, so we have several packs in the house, a pack in my handbag, at work etc.

Was he relaxing at a mates house? Having a catch up with the blokes? Or was he offering support to a friend going through a tough time?
I think it makes a difference depending on what sort of night he was having.
OP I hope you're feeling better.

I’m pretty sure if the man was at home Ill and the OP was asked to come home home early to get him painkillers, he’d be accused of being controlling and that he didn’t want her out with her mates. He’d be asked why couldn’t he have got painkillers when he knew this happens every month.

Guaranteed.

Every time I think people’s standards for men couldn’t get any lower, something like this comes along. Yes OP how very dare you ask him to take 2 minutes to interrupt his important man-fun to help relieve your so-called ‘pain’!

Definitely go to the GP though.

Threads like this are like catnip for the hard of thinking and the Stepford collective.

The former cannot comprehend why someone else's body and experiences might be different to theirs. The latter see it as an opportunity to compete to stick the boot in about what a shit wife the OP is for asking her H to run a perfectly normal errand, with a sprinkling of castigation for not keeping an eye on household stocks...

My H is not perfect by any stretch, but he'd be absolutely fine with this request because he's not a selfish arsehole.

You have husband that would leave a fun get together with friends to get you some paracetamol?!?! That blows my mind, I wouldn’t waste breath even asking

It's a bit convenient that op suddenly needed paracetamol right before the only shop open closes for the night.

You have young children. Surely you have some Calpol in the house? What would you do if you had woken up at midnight with these cramps or a child woke up at 3am with a fever and all of the shops were closed?

Surely having a stock of OTC painkillers at home is just being sensible?

I think YABU too.

Many people get cramps and illness etc.

They manage to get their own and be organised enough to have a stock.

That's because they are LP or single.

Stop relying on others to do your leg work and then you'll become more organised yourself.

@Newmetoday
Guaranteed

It must be nice to be so sure. Less nice to be so wrong.
That world only exists in your imagination. It doesn't make you right.

with a sprinkling of castigation for not keeping an eye on household stocks...

Whilst I agree it has the whiff of wifework, it's not always household stock. My DH has never used paractamol since I've known him so I wouldn't expect him to know when the paracetamol has finished.

However, he would pop out for paracetamol if I ask him.

Surely having a stock of OTC painkillers at home is just being sensible?

As PP have pointed out, it's quite easy to go through these without realising - a couple of colds and headaches and people not telling you they've used them. DH and I have both been ill over Xmas. As it happens I do keep a stock of cold remedies, paracetamol and tissues in the house - within 7 days we'd gone through the lot.

Why is it OK for women to stay home with the children while partner visits friends, but God forbid he could take a short time to pick up medicine?

Why does he even have to see or visit friends? Single parents don't have babysitters and hardly have a social life.