DH is refusing to buy me medicine

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DH (as in dickhead right now) is at a mates house 10 mins away, and has refused to buy me paracetamol for my cramps, my period is due next week and I always get these awful cramps before my period. It hurts, I can’t sleep. Kids in bed, corner shop down the road from me and he says I should wait til he gets home, and he doesn’t know when he’s leaving. Shop is closing 11pm. He’s got a car and it will literally take him 2mins to come here. AIBU to think he’s being inconsiderate?

It says 10 - 20 ml on my bottle for an adult

Is that Six Plus? The infant suspension stuff is much weaker and doesn’t even give an adult dosage size on the bottle.

Ah but what if she'd used the last of the Calpol on herself then one of the kids suddenly needed it . Your DH does sound selfish though unless there is a backstory where it wasn't possible for him to leave his friend's for a few minutes.

That will be the SixPlus suspension, happycamper. Infant suspension contains much less paracetamol per ml and so you would need much more to make up an adult dose.

Easily with 3 children in bed?
Order? Really? That's the best you can come up with? From where and to arrive when?
The fucking thoughtless husband could have done it in 10 min.

Yes. Dependent on where OP lives they could deliver within the hour or the morning. Depending where she lives.

He could have done, but he didn't.
We take responsibility for ourselves.
I'm a lone parent, so what do I do? Rely on myself. Take dc out of bed or order. That's life.
@Lweji

That will be the SixPlus suspension, happycamper. Infant suspension contains much less paracetamol per ml and so you would need much more to make up an adult dose.

Ok but still only 20-40 ml so from a 5th to less than half a bottle. Not 'the whole bottle' as stated. Would it matter if she had to take a larger dose then re stock in the morning if it was that urgent. 1 dose would likely be enough to drift off

'm a lone parent, so what do I do? Rely on myself.

But that's half the point of having a partner isn't it? Knowing you can rely on them as well , that they'll help when needed regardless if you've been a wally or not.

I bet OP's DH doesn't do everything for himself and relies only on himself either.

Knowing you can rely on them as well

Aw well, yes. But in this case dh wouldn't/ couldn't so in that scenario you should be fully capable to rely on yourself.

I'm a lone parent, so what do I do?
But the OP has other options.
If your husband can't be relied upon to help when you need, maybe you're better off going alone.

Ok but still only 20-40 ml so from a 5th to less than half a bottle.

That would be if it was precisely half the strength, which it’s not.

Given even you don’t know how much infant Calpol is an adult dose, you can probably appreciate why the OP didn’t either.

Given even you don’t know how much infant Calpol is an adult dose, you can probably appreciate why the OP didn’t either.

Well presumably she could read it on her bottle like I did lol

Having said that I just looked it up, a simple google and it is indeed double the dose. I assumed that was the case as DC's doses are halved since moving from infant calpol

To be fair it's irrelevant what OP could've done , from taking Calpol to using a portal to instantly teleport into Boots.

The point is she asked her husband to take 10 minutes of his time to help her out when he was in pain. He didn't. He didn't bring any later either. She sorted herself out in the end just like you all expected her to do. But you know what? It's a shitty place to be when when you are with someone that presumably loves you and cares about you.

Well presumably she could read it on her bottle like I did lol

No she couldn’t because as I already told you above, there isn’t an adult dosage given on the bottle for the infant stuff. Lol.

But PanicAndRun is right - the point is the useless husband, not “why didn’t you simply do this thing you didn’t know about?”

I honestly cannot believe some of these replies.

YANBU at all. My Husband would absolutely get me painkillers wherever he was if he knew I was in pain, as I would do for him. It's basic caring and kindness.

I hope you're feeling better

walkaround

for the sort of pain you describe, I would really recommend a warm bath and a hot water bottle. It’s a much nicer way of reliving the pain than paracetamol or Nurofen, and one which doesn’t require an open corner shop

That is so fucking patronising!

Taking calpol is an incredibly expensive way to get a dose of paracetamol. Isn’t it about half a bottle, so £3-odd for two doses? Compared with 50p for six or more? What if the kids needed it in the night?

OP he’s a proper dickhead and after your updates I don’t know what your still doing with him.

It's a bit convenient that op suddenly needed paracetamol right before the only shop open closes for the night

^^ that’s a blinder. So the op was lying so he would go shop? I wonder sometimes who sits behind these screens and writes this shit.

I remember the look on his face when he woke up and I was in the kitchen making DS a bottle. He didn’t speak to me for the rest of the day.

He's an absolute cunt, OP. Does he often give you silent treatment? My ex wouod give me silent treatment for up to twomweeks, I find it completeky unacceptable now and wouldn't up with any silent treatment.

. So the op was lying so he would go shop? I wonder sometimes who sits behind these screens and writes this shit.

Why? Op suddenly developed pain that required pain killers at 10.15 and the Shi shut at 11. What would she have done had the pain come on at 11.15, when the shop had already closed? Or at ten to 11 when there was not enough time to get to.the shop?

Walkaround

ClarencesMum - and fuck you, too

I used to get bad period pains, but used to be stocked up on pain killers. If I’d arranged a night out with friends, and my DH called me asking me to leave earlier than I might have, to get him some pain relief for something he generally suffers from every month, I would be pretty annoyed with him tbh.

ClarencesMum -

Why? Op suddenly developed pain that required pain killers at 10.15 and the Shi shut at 11. What would she have done had the pain come on at 11.15, when the shop had already closed? Or at ten to 11 when there was not enough time to get to.the shop?

She'd have put up with it I suppose. What relevance does the question have? What would she have done if she was in the middle of the gobi desert? What would she have done if there were no shops because of an asteroid hit the earth. Like seriously?

Her husband is unkind to her. Not a nice attribute in a partner. But I can see why he does it - there are loads of people who think he is just behaving perfectly well.

Livelovebehappy - turns out the OP’s pre-period pains are not actually that bad normally and wear off very quickly, so she didn’t see any need to have pain relief in the house. Basically, the opening post was totally misleading. She was actually suffering pain that was unusual for her.