DH is refusing to buy me medicine

[bloodyperiod1]

DH (as in dickhead right now) is at a mates house 10 mins away, and has refused to buy me paracetamol for my cramps, my period is due next week and I always get these awful cramps before my period. It hurts, I can’t sleep. Kids in bed, corner shop down the road from me and he says I should wait til he gets home, and he doesn’t know when he’s leaving. Shop is closing 11pm. He’s got a car and it will literally take him 2mins to come here. AIBU to think he’s being inconsiderate?

That’s for the six plus version of calpol btw, not the infant suspension. You’d need to take loads of the infant stuff as the mgs per ml is so small.

And for those saying surely I should have calpol in the house, yes I do but I didn't know adult could take it aswell?

Oh come on, you thought that an adult couldn't take a pain reliever for children - why ever not?

Your DH is a dickhead OP.

Also, love the number of posts here giving OP unasked for, unwanted, and non-professional medical advice! OP decided they wanted to take paracetamol. Suggesting things that contain it is welcome, such as Calpol or Lemsip. Suggesting completely different medicines is somewhat off-topic.

Regarding organisation, especially with a family it can be easy to run out of paracetamol and ibuprofen because of the per-purchase limits. We tend to fluctuate between stocked up with loads and running out.

I don't think I'd expect my DH to leave a party to pick me up paracetamol but if I asked him, he would so I think possibly you're being slightly unreasonable, hes at a friends, socialising, it's not his fault you didnt buy some before?

And for those saying surely I should have calpol in the house, yes I do but I didn't know adult could take it aswell?

You can, but you'd probably need the whole bottle. Ok, about 20 ml of it 3x per day.

In an emergency, take what's available. Same goes with infant ibuprofen.

Your "DH" is still a dick, though.

He's a twat, hope you're feeling better. People who like each other do things to help each other it.

I've never known a thread of such shitty comments for a woman in pain, trapped in the house by her sleeping kids.

Everyone telling her she should be better organised, more prepared, less stupid and taken children's medication - Very nasty, but then I understand now how your husband might also have these dismissive attitudes to match.

YANBU OP, I hope you're feeling better today and I hope your 'D'H is feeling worse! Would have taken him 10 mins to drop some tablets off and nip back out again, unbelievable to be so uncaring.

bloodyperiod1 - for the sort of pain you describe, I would really recommend a warm bath and a hot water bottle. It’s a much nicer way of reliving the pain than paracetamol or Nurofen, and one which doesn’t require an open corner shop.

Yes, given that you never normally call your dh with such requests when he is out, your dh’s response was extremely mean. I guess he didn’t take your pain seriously - not surprising if you just told him it was for your period cramps, given that you have admitted they are not normally that bad, but I doubt that is all you told him over the phone and your request was totally out of character, so I’m surprised he was not remotely concerned for you. If I rang my dh complaining of pain, he would be worried about me and I know I would be worried about him, because we don’t normally complain about this sort of thing!

*relieving!!

Everyone telling her she should be better organised, more prepared, less stupid and taken children's medication

But she should have taken the children's medicine. She wanted paracetamol and had paracetamol there that can last until the morning

I would really recommend a warm bath and a hot water bottle. It’s a much nicer way of reliving the pain than paracetamol or Nurofen

It doesn't work for me, as much as I would love it to.

So you did have liquid paracetamol in. You just didn,t want to take it. Even less reason for DJH to buy you some. And if I asked my oh for formula in the middle of the night I am sure he too would have said keep trying or exress to morning.

It's important to be self-sufficient.
You could easily go and get some or take Calpol or order some.

To be honest OP you sound rather hapless, and very disorganised. Didn't know an adult could take Calpol? Sometimes, I despair.

I'd never take Calpol as I'd obviously need nearly a full bottle, in case DD might need some as well.

And if I asked my oh for formula in the middle of the night I am sure he too would have said keep trying or exress to morning.

Your OH sucks .

I love how the poor poor man can't possible take 10 minutes out of his time, but OP is hapless,disorganised,incompetent etc for needing him 3 times in 3 years. Formula, one a&e trip and painkillers.

You might have shit partners, you might be the shitty partner, that doesn't mean it's wrong for OP to expect more from hers.

I think the issue is the expectation. Yes it would have beeen nice to get you medication, but him choosing not to does not make him a bad person.

!! IBUPROFEN !!

Just a small well intendeded lecture on the above drug!

This is an anti inflamatory and is very usefull for those purposes like Artheritis gout and the like, and also peroid miseries.

However even if it is easily avalible as an over the counter one like Paracetamol it is quite a potent drug with some nasty side effect's on the stomach and kidneys.

If you should be taking quite a bit of this then I'd urge you so seek the opinion of your GP to see if you ought to be taking somethimg ike Omeprazole to proted the stomach from upset and damage.

I get through 800 mg a day of this for joint trouble and its fine for that but do take it with the said Omeprazole to keep the side effects in check.

Whilst on the monthlty miseries subject DD3 is prone to knocking it back i.e. nicking mine!! and recently she was taken to hospital for bad stomach pains and was ticked of by the A&E doctor for so doing.

She came back with a pack of Omeprazole to offset the gut problems which were being caused!

As said just mentioned in case anyone might be at risk so check with a qualified medical practiioner and not some well inteded oik on the net;)

FWIW not getting Formula milk for infants is IMHO beyond the pale!!!

I've never thought about taking the children's calpol, as @PanicAndRun said I'd imagine you'd need a lot for it to work if you're an adult. Learned something new today I guess. And for PP who said if I was 'that desperate' I'd drag the children out of bed and go to the shop. Really? yeah cuz when I come back from the shop, the children will go straight to bed after being dragged out of bed and out in the cold. So not only would I have to deal with horrible cramps, and now I've also got three children who are wide awake.

I'm guessing you don't have children? Cuz you would know children don't just go back to sleep like that

I think the issue is the expectation. Yes it would have beeen nice to get you medication, but him choosing not to does not make him a bad person.

Totally agree

Well I know exactly what I'd do with a partner who chose to leave me in pain to save himself 10 minutes of driving about

but him choosing not to does not make him a bad person.

Just a bad partner.

You could easily go and get some or take Calpol or order some.

Easily with 3 children in bed?
Order? Really? That's the best you can come up with? From where and to arrive when?
The fucking thoughtless husband could have done it in 10 min.

as @PanicAndRun said I'd imagine you'd need a lot for it to work if you're an adult.

It says 10 - 20 ml on my bottle for an adult even if taking the full 20 it's not anywhere near the full bottle that people are saying. You'd dangerously overdose if you did that - would be the equivalent of taking 10 tablets