DH is refusing to buy me medicine

[bloodyperiod1]

DH (as in dickhead right now) is at a mates house 10 mins away, and has refused to buy me paracetamol for my cramps, my period is due next week and I always get these awful cramps before my period. It hurts, I can’t sleep. Kids in bed, corner shop down the road from me and he says I should wait til he gets home, and he doesn’t know when he’s leaving. Shop is closing 11pm. He’s got a car and it will literally take him 2mins to come here. AIBU to think he’s being inconsiderate?

OP,

Did you spend the night in pain? Did you get out to get some when he arrived? Did it get better?

He sounds like a prize twat. I once had exH refuse to get to the shop to buy DS calpol, which is 5 min down the road, when I was doing everything else to care for him. It wasn't his only inconsiderate behaviour, of course.

How is DH the rest of the time?

Sorry, cross post.

Oh look ,turns out he is a twat. I hope all the PP's that had a go at OP come back and apologise..

They won't. They'll have moved on to the next thread to kick the boot in to someone else.

Oh look ,turns out he is a twat. I hope all the PP's that had a go at OP come back and apologise..

I still don't think it's reasonable to expect someone to leave an organised occasion for a non emergency. It would be nice if they did but wouldn't blame them. The fact he's a twat is a separate issue really

I actually hate this - has a mobile telephone so therefore must be available at my beck and call for every single little thing - attitude...

If your partner is in pain you help 🤷‍♀️

@goatbame

Last week I drove almost two hours to go and take dh some cold care tea and a kemp's up because he was stuck at work feeling horrid.

Firstly - he’s at work. So cent be that bad. Secondly, I would feel so incredibly guilty at my partner driving for hours in order to deliver a cold remedy!

Just because he has a history of being a twat doesn't mean he was wrong in this situation.

If OP has DC's she'll have calpol or nurofen and any other number of medicines that could've helped.

Although, it's not likely that the OP's husband was just about to get dinner at past 22:00.

I don’t know... DH and his mates are quite likely to get a curry or pizza at that time!

I just think the scenario would have had a different response if it was the mumsnetter posting that she was expected to interrupt her evening out to get paracetamol for her DH.

i think if you know you get cramps every month, then you are silly to not keep a stock of painkillers. I think its quite unreasonable to expect him to leave his mates and get some for you unless hes literally always there and this is part of a wider problem.

I cant imagine my partner calling me up when I was out in order for me to come home and bring him paracetamol.

I just think the scenario would have had a different response if it was the mumsnetter posting that she was expected to interrupt her evening out to get paracetamol for her DH.

Imagine then that he was in pain while trying to pass a kidney stone. Or stomach pain, or a bad migraine. Would you be happy with your friends knowing he was in pain at home, without pain relief that you could have got him by taking less than 20 min out of your time with friends?

People saying why didn't the OP have some in stock are the equivalent of people asking pps why they had children with their bad husbands.
It happened, the OP was there without pain relief, should she suffer pain because her supposed partner in life couldn't be bothered to take a short time from his friends? Also remember that she couldn't go herself because she was taking care of the children for him.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou being about to get a takeaway is totally different to your "picture the scene" post about having gone to considerable trouble cooking.

Some people seem to think saying "if it was a man posting the answers would be different" is the ultimate "gotcha" - but it isn't.

If an adult in sole charge of children who are already in bed late at night is in pain, without pain killers, and their children's other parent who is also their partner/ spouse is ten minutes walk or two minutes drive away on a social visit to a friend at their house of course it's completely normal, in the context of a loving partnership, to ask that partner to pop to the shop for painkillers before it closes.

He failed to bring painkillers at all, which says it all.

Oh look ,turns out he is a twat. I hope all the PP's that had a go at OP come back and apologise
They won't. They'll have moved on to the next thread to kick the boot in to someone else.

Nope still here, still think this thread has been a massive overreaction!

@Hospitalknickers It's beyond ridiculous. There are some precious people out there. Jesus Christ.

@lovemenorca

No it wasn't that bad. That's my point. He felt shitty so I helped him out. Little kindnesses seem to be lacking from a lot of mumsnetters, pretty depressing really.

I would trust my partner to only ask if it was bad enough so I wouldn't hesitate to go and get them. And I know he'd do the same for me.
Your OH is awful. That's no way to treat the love of your life... supposedly.

Just bought some now...just in case. Thank goodness he's at work now 🙄

Surely everyone has a first aid box/cupboard that they keep at least one pack in. My dh would think I was bonkers if I new I needed certain meds every month and left it till I ran out.

And for those saying surely I should have calpol in the house, yes I do but I didn't know adult could take it aswell?

@bloodyperiod1 if you look on the box instructions it will tell you - Calpol would be needed in a higher dose for an adult, but of course you can take it!

@pointythings, ibuprofen isn’t an antispasmodic. It is an NSAID (non steroidal anti-inflammatory) but you are right in that not everyone can take them. Antispasmodics are drugs like buscopan.

OP, your DH is a prize knob. It wouldn’t have taken much for him to take a detour to help you out.

And for those saying surely I should have calpol in the house, yes I do but I didn't know adult could take it aswell?

what did you think would happen?

Yes, calpol is just liquid paracemol. You just take an adult dose. Check the packaging but I think it’s 2-4 5ml teaspoons. A dose should total a maximum of 1g of paracetamol for an adult (check how many mg are in a ml).