To wonder at what age is deemed too old to be living at home

[busyweeks78]

A lot of my friends aged between 23-28 still live at home is this uncommon. Is there an age where living at home is deemed socially unacceptable?

Who is to say what is acceptable?

People and families have all sorts of relationships. Life is hard enough for many without making judgements. The housing situation is dire for many young adults.

If people are happy then live and let live.

I think it depends, of the friends from my area (late 20s) no one lives at home. Friend from work (in a large town) is the same age and lives at home as do all his friends. Not even for financial reasons as his parents charge him more than our mortgage.

It's more and more common now because people can't afford to move out.
My old boss was in her mid30s and moved back in with her mum because her wedding had cost so much. I did think that was a little mad!
I suppose it becomes a little unusual for people to be living at home after their mid twenties but in this economy I cant really judge.

Why do you care what is socially acceptable?

To me, an 18yo working full time on a good wage, contributing nothing and making a mess, still expecting their washing done = unacceptable (if not uncommon)

A 38yo who chooses to live with their parents because they all like it, and who operates an independent life = acceptable (if unusual)

Normal in expensive cities like London.

Temporary arrangements obviously don't apply, but apart from that depends what they are doing and why.

Sobbing in front of video games all day and expecting mummy to bring you sandwiches, not ok.

Living at your parents and saving to buy a decent property, or studying or doing an unpaid internship to start your career, absolutely ok.

Deciding to move in with your partner means it's time to get your own place.

It's not uncommon at all these days as rents are high and it's hard for young people to get a mortgage. I know lots of young adults in that age bracket, my friends' children, who have moved back home after university. My own 26 year old has moved out, but if he needs to move back for any reason that's fine, it's his home. My 22 year old is a student and living at home as it's cheaper and easier for him. As for being socially unacceptable, I don't think it's anyone's business except for the young person and their parents.

My uncle lived at home until he was 35 in the 80’s.

I moved out at 19 into my own home. I couldn’t imagine being in my twenties and living with my parents.. but DH has a friend who is pushing 40 and still lives with his mum. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Everyone’s different.

I think the age range has gone up, but still daughters move out years, years earlier than adult sons.

I moved out at 20. Majority of my friends have their own flats/houses now. Some still live with parents. I think by about 26 it's time to move out.

I graduated at 21 (nearly 22) and moved back home, I bought my own flat at 25 , I could've spent those 3 years wasting money on rent in a crappy sharehouse but that flat became equity and DH and I wouldn't live where we do now without it. I'd be happy for DS to do the same.

I think it’s more common nowadays. I don’t begrudge anyone who lives with their parents if they’re saving up for a deposit etc (as long as their parents are on board and there’s contribution to the household in some way).

I’d only find it a bit odd if the adult child had enough to buy their own house and was able to live independently etc but still lived at home just because they liked their mum to do their washing etc. Suggests a bit of codependency, or laziness - but even then it’s none of my business.

I'd say one a 3 is the start of the age, it is deemed as too old (not based on exceptional circumstances).

I think it depends on the family. Generally I’d say it’s healthy to have moved out by 25 - this is when most people might be meeting their lifelong partners, are settled into work even though are obviously early into career, etc. I think much later and it could impede your ability to meet partners and develop long lasting relationships, while they hopefully have the money to at least live in a flatshare. On the other hand, people can move back to their parents’ homes at any age and I wouldn’t judge (if their parents are happy) and I don’t think it’s too unusual, even if it’s uncommon, for someone to move in for a bit with their parents following a divorce, becoming a single parent, significant financial crisis, or when the parent is older. My own mother had to do this when she had three kids under three, no husband and her mother was isolated, frail and lonely - in my culture a multigenerational family is normal and I don’t see it as a negative to use family support. I know others whose kids didnt leave until their early 30s or marriage but again this is a cultural thing and can either be stifling to parent and child, or financially sensible depending on the arrangement and size of the home.

It is not uncommon.
My NDN is 87 her 66 year old son never moved out.
A few of my friends moved back to their parent when one passes and co live as tei adults. Two if my aunts lived with my nan till she died. As long as they're happy treat the home as an adult I wouldn't have an issue.

I’ve lived alone since I was 16 but my brothers are now 35 and 37 and both still live at home. The older one with his girlfriend and their daughter.

25 is about the cut off imo.

Would not be surprised to have mine at home until 30 so they can save. They, and any long term partners they pick up, will be welcome.

*once not one

We like each other and get on, and no, I’m not a house elf for spoilt adults! They are in their mid-late 20s, and we’ve never much bothered about what is ‘socially acceptable and proper’
I’d expect them to move out when they have a partner they want to live with, but it’s the SE and rents are astronomical.

No right or wrong depends on your family dynamic and needs.

Perfectly normal in my world. DB and I, as well as 90% of my friends, stayed at home until our mid-late 20s so we could save for deposits to buy. Our parents would have strongly discouraged us from moving out into rented accommodation if we'd suggested it. DH moved out to rent with friends when he was 21 and then had to move back home for quite a few years in order to save for a deposit to buy.

My eldest daughter left home at 18 for university and I thought she was too young but she loved it and never wanted to live with parents again. She is 32 now and I still miss her!

My son is 25 and still lives at home
He works hard and earns a decent wage but there is no point in him renting as when he’s not working he’s sleeping so no real point to pay £600 -£1000 a month for somewhere to sleep
I don’t charge him rent but he buys his own food and looks after our dogs when we go away on holiday which saves us a fortune
He has a car and likes to have weekends away and holidays with his mates
I can’t see him moving out any time soon