To wonder at what age is deemed too old to be living at home

[busyweeks78]

A lot of my friends aged between 23-28 still live at home is this uncommon. Is there an age where living at home is deemed socially unacceptable?

I left home at 23 bought a house with partner we’ve recently split so back at parents aged 27.
I can’t do a lot till the house is sorted but I’m aiming to get my own flat by the end of this year if all goes well. It’s very expensive on your own.

I left home to get married at 19. Lots of my friends did the same around the same age. Roll forward 20 years and when divorced and moving to a new area I sold my house quicker than expected and ended up staying with my Dad for a few months to complete a work project. My mum had recently died and the arrangement worked well. It provided support for my Dad as he came to terms with his loss, and provided me with a chance to get to know my Dad as an adult.

I’ve now moved on to my own place and ‘normal’ independence has been resumed.

Both my DCs left to go to uni and didn’t return to live with me after. But if they needed a place to stay while their lives were in upheaval I would be happy to have them stay.

what does it matter what age people move out ?

I think over 25 is odd... you should at least be renting or in the final stages of buying if you’ve been at home to save up by then.
At that point you’ve been working for four years if you went to uni, closer to 10 if not. It’s not your parents job to keep you.
Of course there are exceptions but really... majority should be considering being out by then

I don't understand why people find it odd.
Why move out and waste money when you already have a perfectly good home if everyone is happy.

Live and let live, I'd say. At least some adults still living at home have more expendable income! I left home at 17 which was way too young by today's standards.

Depends a lot on individual circumstances, but I'd say beyond 30 is very weird.
I moved out at 21, my sister was older - 25 maybe - and my parents literally just moved away, so she had to move out.

As we live on a island where the sheer volume of people outstrips our housing supply I actually think inter generational living is the way forward.
There is three generations living in my house. We all co exist without any issues.
The house is a decent size which helps so we all have our own areas and I have a small annex which houses one son and his girlfriend.
I don’t see us wanting to change this set up until the oldest generation dies then we will have the choice of rejigging who has what parts of the house or selling up and me being able to gift money for the younger generation to buy property.

I don’t cook, shop or clean for either adult son so nobody is here to be looked after by mummy.

I would certainly want mine to want to be out by 25. If they are working full time from school/uni whilst living at home then that's plenty long enough to save a deposit to buy (we live in a very cheap area) or to save enough to go off travelling (in which case I couldn't imagine them wanting to come home).

I'd be very disappointed if my (nt) kids didn't have a good work ethic to be able to earn enough to start their own life at 25.

One of my friends is in her mid 50s and still lives with her parents. They get on fine (apparently) but l couldn't do it. l was 28 when l got my own place and it'd have been a lot sooner if l could have managed it.

But work ethic has nothing to do with it if you live in the most expensive areas in the UK.
My DD2 has a decent job..a children's hospice nurse, but not NHS, so can't get help to buy. Her partner is a care worker. No matter how many extra shifts they work they can't afford to move out and rent AND save a deposit for the most basic 1 bed place.. which start at about 200k here! She did rent away for 3 years after she finished Uni, and has now moved back so that it WILL be possible for them to save for a deposit.

Work ethic has sod all to do with it if you aren't living in a cheap area.. and she is doing her dream job so wants to stay a) there b) near her family!

@Bernadette
It depends on your set up really.
My son has a great career and lives his own life.
We live in a large bungalow and barely see him. He pays board but looks after himself, and is out more than he's in.
Unless he sticks his head round the door to say hi or he's cooking himself something then we don't even realise he's in the place.

I think it depends. If you're contributing and working towards something better whether that be career or education I think there is no limit. This also applies if you're a carer for your parent/s imo.

StillMedusa

But they could move out and rent. I'm not saying they should I am saying that id want my kids to want to move out and be more independent.

Buying a house is seen as the be all and end all.

Deemed by who? Who gets to say what other people's living arrangements should be? Everyone can make their own decisions.

It's just whatever works for the individual. None of anyone elses business.

I'm Italian and DH is Asian, perfectly normal for lots of our friends and cousins to live at home (though some move away for uni and back again) till marriage/long term relationship or if they get a career job in a different city.
If you are working in your home town and single it'd be odder to live by yourself.

It usually works well but in a few cases I've seen the youngest child get 'stuck' at home as the older ones have got married and the parents are starting to get older and I think they feel guilty about leaving...I'm seeing this happen to BIL and DHs best friend atm.

DPs uncle is 45 and still living at home!

I moved out at 24 and now I'm back at 26. Kicked myself when I added up the cost of rent/bills that could have went towards a deposit and decided to move back.

I was talking about this recently with DD who is 17.

I said that even though after university she would probably want to move out and live independently renting in a house share or similar, it would make more financial sense to move back home, save like mad (we wouldn't charge rent or bills to allow her to save every penny) for a deposit and then move out into her own place.

We live in London, so rent would be £££££, much better imo to live at home and save. DH and I plan to retire abroad so once both DCs have bought a place each, we'll sell the house knowing they'll have a roof over their head.

I am 26 and I still live at home, as do a lot of my friends. Rent is high around where we live and most jobs on offer aren't full time, (Think anywhere between 6 - 27 hours per week), which means that you can't afford rent or living expenses. I pull my weight by doing jobs around the house and contribute to bills. It works for us.

Each to their own but 25 is going to be the absolute final cut off in our house.

"Personally I think anyone past 25 living with their parents is odd, a couple living with one set if parents even odder."

Yet that was once our norm and as said is still the norm in other cultures.

There were lots of single women who never left home, when I was growing up in the 70's.

If you get on well, it can make sense. I know a few Brothers and sisters who live together beyond 40. Not everyone single wants to live a wild lifestyle and sharing with family, for those on lower incomes, ticks every box.

It was 18 for me. I was an adult and no longer wished to live with my (very fabulous) parents.

I don't believe that there's any element of social acceptability.
Surely it's just what everyone's happy with, isn't it?

I’d say 25