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My boyfriend's obsession with Frida Kahlo

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anewnetter · 30/12/2019 23:34

New account. Want advice. Do not know if this is right place to post. but I think it is because I am wondering if I am being unreasonable.

To start, I am a 23 year old expecting mum. I have a little boy too he is 2 {smile}
I think my boyfriend is being strange. he is an 'artist'. aka he goes to art school and draws as a hobby. He is very into an artist named frida kahlo, who I think was from around the seventies. anyways he tells me a lot that I look like her {confused} dont know if I should take that as a compliment. seen a few photos.
anways my boyfriend goes on non stop about her. I suspect he may have aspurgers as my dad has it. With the obsession.
It has gotten to a point where he buys me flowery dresses and makes me wear them 'like frida'. Sounds fooking mad doesnt it Shock
well I thought the same.
I am not even Mexican, I am arabic!!!!
Anyways,
would I be unreasonable to ask him. or even break up with him as this 'art hobby' is getting out of hand. used to be a lovely man but I think frida is taking over his life.

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Original poster
anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:40

neck pain chair search,
wish that was real to be honest.

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AriadneAufNaxos · 31/12/2019 00:43

If this is real- then please ignore (a) all the flippant, jokey comments and (b) the comments from Frida Kahlo admirers as none of them are helpful to your situation.

I have however no useful advice at all on how to deal with this but you do need help.

Flowers
RubyMeer · 31/12/2019 00:45

Be grateful he has some taste and its FK, when I met my ex he was in to Samantha Fox

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:45

ariadne. thank you thank you thank you. I agree that they aren't helpful. I want to know if I should leave him not about her being pretty Sad

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SummerPlace · 31/12/2019 00:51

Maybe he sees you as a cross between Frida Kahlo and the stunning Salma Hayek, who played Kahlo in a movie, "Frida" (2002) www.imdb.com/title/tt0120679/?ref_=nm_flmg_act_41 and is actually half Lebanese, and therefore considered by some to be Arabic or perhaps Phoenician descent (Salma Hayek, I mean)?

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:53

summer,
she is beautifulShock

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IdiotInDisguise · 31/12/2019 00:56

He was (shagging her sister).

... and she was shagging his lovers.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:57

idiot in disguise,

what? this is all so interesting. I must admit. I feel like I have had a history lesson here.

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Fr0g · 31/12/2019 00:58

Well at least its just the dresses and not calipers!

Seriously - dictating how you dress, or trying to, is weird - particularly if it's everyday.

Evilmorty · 31/12/2019 00:58

He did shag her sister but she shagged Lenin.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 01:00

evil morty,
why so much shagging?????Shock

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stupidtabloidheadlines · 31/12/2019 01:02

A lot of shagging was definitely involved.

AriadneAufNaxos · 31/12/2019 01:02

He did shag her sister but she shagged Lenin

She did not shag Lenin. She had an affair with Leon Trotsky.

Merryoldgoat · 31/12/2019 01:02

NeckPainChairSearch

Truly the post of the year for me Grin

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 01:05

with all of the shagging, you are making me think that it's a sexual fetish. for my boyfriend!Shock

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ThePluckOfTheCoward · 31/12/2019 01:05

Okaaay. Xmas Hmm

BitOfFun · 31/12/2019 01:07

Trotsky, I think you mean, EvilMorty.

This is the weirdest thread I have ever seen on MN, and I''ve been here over a decade.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 01:07

bit0ffun,

I really know it is weird. Sadplease take me seriously.

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stupidtabloidheadlines · 31/12/2019 01:09

You could cure him by joining in and insisting it is your dream for him to take you to see her home in Mexico City. If it works, you still win : D

Kleptronic · 31/12/2019 01:10

I actually know someone who dresses like Grayson Perry as Claire, but it's not intentional.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 01:16

stupid tabloid headlines,

I'm thinking if I go along with it, it will pass. I know your comment is a joke,
but I am considering something like that.
but at the same time, I cant do it anymore.

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SinisterBumFacedCat · 31/12/2019 01:19

Ok, if he is obsessed with her art then its impossible to avoid her because she did a lot of self portraits.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 01:21

sinister bum faced cat

he has one in the bedroom. one with her with parrots, I think, on her shoulder. scares me a bit.

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lborgia · 31/12/2019 01:25

I an si sorry you're dealing with this, it really is very serious. Believe me, you'd have very different reactions if your husband was asking you to wear overtly sexy underwear every day, or short skirts.

It's controlling, and unacceptable.

It is NEVER ok to try and impose your desires on someone else, ffs!

It makes no difference if this is an Aspie thing, he knows he couldn't impose his own ideas on anyone at work/ parents/ friends, why would this be appropriate for you?

Why are your worrying about making him happy, when he's making you miserable?

MN has gone mad.

If you're worried about him getting angry/ sulking/ overreacting if you say no, THAT is also a problem.

Give him a chance to discuss, and think about your options if he cannot see past it.

Coyoacan · 31/12/2019 01:27

I think Frida Kahlo was beautiful which is fortunate as I live in Mexico and she is everywhere, but your bf should not be trying to change you into someone you are not.

Maybe you should start insisting that he dress and act like someone you particularly admire for a few days, to get him to understand. But I'm not a psychologist so I don't know if that would work. It would be a shame to break up over a stupid phase he is going through.

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