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My boyfriend's obsession with Frida Kahlo

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anewnetter · 30/12/2019 23:34

New account. Want advice. Do not know if this is right place to post. but I think it is because I am wondering if I am being unreasonable.

To start, I am a 23 year old expecting mum. I have a little boy too he is 2 {smile}
I think my boyfriend is being strange. he is an 'artist'. aka he goes to art school and draws as a hobby. He is very into an artist named frida kahlo, who I think was from around the seventies. anyways he tells me a lot that I look like her {confused} dont know if I should take that as a compliment. seen a few photos.
anways my boyfriend goes on non stop about her. I suspect he may have aspurgers as my dad has it. With the obsession.
It has gotten to a point where he buys me flowery dresses and makes me wear them 'like frida'. Sounds fooking mad doesnt it Shock
well I thought the same.
I am not even Mexican, I am arabic!!!!
Anyways,
would I be unreasonable to ask him. or even break up with him as this 'art hobby' is getting out of hand. used to be a lovely man but I think frida is taking over his life.

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LizB62A · 30/12/2019 23:56

Her husband Diega Rivera cheated on her more than once and she attempted suicide.

Keep plucking your eyebrows and tell him to F* off !!

NameChangeNugget · 30/12/2019 23:57

Christ on a bike!!

She’s very hirsute

LumpySpacedPrincess · 30/12/2019 23:58

1/10

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anewnetter · 30/12/2019 23:58

LizB62A

oh my goodness. Shock shall I tell him that. or do you think he already knows.

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anewnetter · 30/12/2019 23:59

1/10 is how I would say the situation is too (sad)

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stupidtabloidheadlines · 30/12/2019 23:59

I'm pretty sure he was shagging her sister as well.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:00

Stupid tabloid head lines,

That makes me very very sad. poor frida

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:01

I'm very upset that I'm having to end this because of this obsession. he has neever done this before.

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JesusMaryAndJosepheen · 31/12/2019 00:03

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MrsMidgeMaisel · 31/12/2019 00:03
Hmm
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Branleuse · 31/12/2019 00:05

Why cant you tell him to pack it in?

SlightlyStaleCocoPops · 31/12/2019 00:06

Poor bait OP.

darthbreakz · 31/12/2019 00:06

Yeah....but... Frida Kahlo... Great taste and she was beautiful and very feminine, her version of feminine was quite...hairy...

Do what you want re facial hair - we probably should be OK with it, but I wax so no judgement here...

Tell him you'll do Frida as a sex thing now and then if it gets him going, but that you're not living your life - or dressing as - one of the most amazing artists ever on a day to day basis.

God, I wish my DH even knew who Frida Kahlo was.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:06

branleuse. he got upset. I hate to shout.

risk of him getting angry. he is sensitive.

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malificent7 · 31/12/2019 00:07

She was amazing...i got a print of her for Christmas...weird obsession though.

antlady · 31/12/2019 00:07

Why don't you develop an obsession with Salvador Dali? He grows the moustache, you grow the monobrow?

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:08

very, very ,weird obsession, I agree,
and he is being bonkers.

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AriadneAufNaxos · 31/12/2019 00:08

Oh dear, she's quite masculine looking isn't she, it's not quite a compliment either

No she isn't. What a silly comment. There are many photos and paintings where is beautiful. She also dressed and kept her hair in a very feminine style. Her dresses and style are unique and iconic. Selma Hayek played her in the biopic.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:08

antlady

haha Grin

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:10

darthbreakz,

now that I think.
could it be a sex thing???9shock)

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Cheeringmeup · 31/12/2019 00:10

I don’t think you should be coerced into dressing up like your partner’s obsession (however talented and iconic an artist she was). However, I object to you describing your partner’s art as a ‘hobby’ - if he is going to art school he is an art student, it’s more than a ‘hobby’.

Pangur2 · 31/12/2019 00:10

Frida was an absolute legend. She exaggerated her monobrow in paintings as she was making a point about being a female in a male artistic world. And in regard to affairs, she gave as good as she got. (Frida and Diego's relationship seemed quite toxic to me, tbh.)
But yeah, it does sound like a bit of an obsession that is spilling over into real life, which would be a worry to me. Your fella should like you for being you; he shouldn't be trying to turn you into a Frida Kahlo painting!

AriadneAufNaxos · 31/12/2019 00:10

But aside from that he is being obsessed and unreasonable.

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anewnetter · 31/12/2019 00:11

cheering me up,
oh. sorry.

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