Why do thin people you’re close to feel the need to inform you that you’re a fatty?

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Especially if you’re middle class. Double especially if you’re upper middle and all your family are tiny .

I’m fat, upset and unreasonable. Please fuck off if you just want to pile on. Please give me chocolate and baileys (heaven forbid I bring the alcohol equivalent of Jeremy Kyle to my family’s big meet) if you’re another fatty navigating life with a thin, yoga and hiking obsessed family.

What is your obsession with class status, OP?

Yanbu but I experience it the other way around. Im skinny and get it from fatter people. It's just rude people full stop op.

I was out for a run a few weeks back and someone bigger than me stated out loud 'good god look how skinny she is' she seemed offended mind when I said the reverse to her. Strange how I should have lapped up the comment but it was offensive the other way round.
Just give as good as you get op they're callous and rude.

It's not just weight, I think some women in general can be vile to one another purely based on jealousy. My mum's reaction to me announcing my first pregnancy was excitement at the prospect of me finally growing some boobs! Vile comments like that stick and are never forgotten. We all know which parts of our bodies dont fit in with the ideal of how a woman 'should' look, we dont need any clarification on the fact we haven't achieved the ideal.

for all those on this thread with horrible mothers

Omg you could be talking about my ex partner's family. Ex Mil is utterly obsessed with her weight and looks and those of her family as well. She has an eating disorder often popping to the loo to throw up ( thinking that no one notices) and eating laxatives by the packet load! As a result my ex and all his siblings are absolutely obsessed with their weight and looks! I can honestly say I've never ever met such a bunch of horrible shallow individuals in my whole life!

I'm fatter than ever but they've given up commenting for the most part.

Hope to shed a few stone in the new year & hope no fecker asses comment!

Hi OP
I'm slim; I love long woody walks with my dogs and I especially love yoga, but for the life of me, I cannot honestly comprehend your family being that shitty towards you. I hope you did take the baileys and chocolate to your gathering! I've always been slim but am positively fat compared to my sisters. My Nan once told me (when I was 10) that I was going to be a ' Hefer' when I grew up. Nice thing to say to a child.

In my experience it’s 100% the other way around.

@Insideimsprinting absolutely. As a slim person I have been the recipient of many rude remarks about my weight and yet would be vilified if I told those same people they are fat etc.
I have had stomach issues for over 30 years and frequently sit in a restaurant wishing I could enjoy the food that is causing my stomach to clench in pain.

Even my dh jokes that I was born with a gastric band.

My MIL called my husband fat the other day. He is in no way fat but has put on a few Christmas pounds. I said to her that was really rude and she said I'm his mum I can say what I want. Replied with he's my husband and I don't want you commenting on his weight. it's unacceptable to comment on anyone's weight imo

Replied with he's my husband and I don't want you commenting on his weight. it's unacceptable to comment on anyone's weight imo

Generalising, I know, but I don't think men themselves worry too much about it though. I have heard my DH calling friends and even male colleagues fat and vice versa. It doesn't seem to bother him or them.