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AIBU?

Anyone else sick of their DH?

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:35

Or is it just me?

He’s behaved like such a knob over Christmas seriously considered leaving him.

Sad

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Sparklesocks · 27/12/2019 15:42

I think that depends - do you mean generally feeling a bit wound up by being in close proximity a lot during a busy, potentially stressful time - or worse? What sort of things did he do?

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:45

Caused a row with my DD who is 20, went totally over the top and has now blocked all three of my children on his phone and says he wants nothing to do with them while his children (under 18) are arriving today and he’s expecting me to play stepmother (which I will because I am an adult).

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Disillusioneddaisy · 27/12/2019 15:45

@Iwasneveragoddess yeah that's pretty bad. He sounds very childish to block the kids on social media. Does he always row with them or was it just pressures of Christmas?

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mrsbyers · 27/12/2019 15:47

Mine has been ill since the 23rd with manflu - he’s just suddenly leapt up and started cleaning the kitchen before making a curry after not lifting a finger in days so I’m leaving him to crack on while I eat chocolate and relax

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:48

He has MH issues (which does not excuse him being an utter twat).

I think he struggles with family gatherings but my kids are always the first “target” because he knows it hurts me.

They are grown up now and say exactly what they think (fair enough tbh) but they hate that I am always caught in the middle.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:49

I am on my 3rd glass of wine ...

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:49

He’s blocked their phone numbers, they wouldn’t have him on SM.

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arethereanyleftatall · 27/12/2019 15:51

I think most, or many at the very least, women are. Which is why it's absolutely ridiculous that when I tell people I'm getting a divorce, they act like it's some great tragedy. No, it's success. Yanbu.

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Glitteryone · 27/12/2019 15:51

God that sounds awful OP.

I’m sorry but I would LTB. Also, good on you for being the bigger person and treating his kids with more decency!

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:52

@arethereanyleftatall

Good for you Wine

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GreenTulips · 27/12/2019 15:52

Where are your kids?

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goingtoneedabiggercar · 27/12/2019 15:52

I'm not going to bore you with the details but yes, I'm sick of mine.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:53

My children are all really lively people too.

DD even apologised for swearing at him, she’s more mature than him.

He also then fucked off for a drive for 2 hours because he “couldn’t cope”.

He doubles his medication the 4 days a month he has his own kids.

He’s pathetic.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:54

Two have left home my DS2 is here (he’s 17 nearly 18).

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:54

Lovely not lively ....

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littlepaddypaws · 27/12/2019 15:55

mh issues don't have to make you a twat, i'd be reconsidering this nonsense in the new year tbh.

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Geometricprince · 27/12/2019 15:56

Yep, he's in the kitchen right now huffing and puffing presumably because there is a pan left in there soaking. I did all the cooking and cleaning Xmas eve, Xmas day and boxing day. I have also done most of the dogs walks whilst he has been playing computer games or going to his snooker club. He's obviously sulking now because I'm having a rest today before going back to work tomorrow.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 16:07

DH thinks because he arrived on Xmas day (earlier than expected) it should be treated like the second coming.

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1forAll74 · 27/12/2019 16:18

I keep reading,that more people than ever,go to Relate,or phone the Samaritans after Christmas,and into January.. Too much stress and strife everywhere !!

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 16:23

Yeah apparently January is divorce lawyers busiest month Sad

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 16:26

I have already been divorced once though, wasn’t really planning on doing it again.

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Blacksackunderthetreesfreeze · 27/12/2019 16:38

He sounds awful!

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plumpmom · 27/12/2019 16:41

Men are dicks and I’m not really sure why any woman bothers with them. We’re quite capable of having kids without them (thanks IVF). Not sure what the point of them is. If they can’t be decent then dump!

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 16:45

I agree, they are wankers.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 27/12/2019 16:45

Yes. We have been shouting at each other a lot. Both now getting over flu so it’s been a tough Christmas.

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