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AIBU?

Anyone else sick of their DH?

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 15:35

Or is it just me?

He’s behaved like such a knob over Christmas seriously considered leaving him.

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littlepaddypaws · 27/12/2019 16:46

plump a sweeping statement, but plenty of us have a good and decent dh, not all men are dicks.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 16:47

The ones in this thread are.

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RexDangerVest · 27/12/2019 16:50

Yep, done with him. Selfish twat.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 16:52

I don’t think I would rush into a new relationship if I ended this one.

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YouCannotBeeSerious · 27/12/2019 16:58

"plumpmom

Men are dicks and I’m not really sure why any woman bothers with them. We’re quite capable of having kids without them (thanks IVF). Not sure what the point of them is. "

I guess you didn't do biology at school then....

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 17:00

Eh?

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Butterymuffin · 27/12/2019 17:03

I would be pleasant to the kids when they arrive but just ignore him as much as possible. And I would start making plans to separate. I get what you're saying about divorcing again but it's got to be less bad than this, surely?

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Oblomov20 · 27/12/2019 17:07

I'm sick of mine. He too is sick of us all and went to work today thank goodness.

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justdoityourself · 27/12/2019 17:09

Your thread title made me laugh out loud, l almost started one with the same title two days ago.
Mine has also been a right knob. Trouble is he thinks it's fine to act like a knob and be horrible to everyone because he's in a bad mood, but will then perk up and wonder why nobody wants to have much to do with him!
So no, you're not the only one.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 17:11

@justdoityourself

Thank god!!

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chugmonkey · 27/12/2019 17:19

Yep, kicked mine out yesterday finally. Christmas is a time of heightened emotions, I know, but he'd ballsed up so badly lately and really let the kids down. We dealt with that and tried to move on but he just wasn't interested in building bridges with the children.
I'd just finally had enough and realised that if he stayed the kids would just resent him more and more. I'm hoping he might be a better dad 'part-time'. I just want my kids to have a good relationship with their dad in whatever form that can take. My dad was a (very charming) useless, neglectful absentee and it left me with immense sense of abandonment.
We're all alright about it, my kids are all young teens and understand completely. They love their dad but he is such a dick sometimes.

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Ninkanink · 27/12/2019 17:22

Honestly why on earth are you still with this awful man? Dump him and start 2020 as you mean to go on! I’m being serious. You need to LTB.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 17:23

@chugmonkey

Hope you are ok

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drinkygin · 27/12/2019 17:24

Sorry op he sounds awful...please don’t put him before your children. They’ll really grow to resent you for it. You deserve better than someone so nasty

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PooWillyBumBum · 27/12/2019 17:26

Why are you with him?

I’ve been enjoying a lovely few days with my mild mannered DH who usually works and commutes over 12 hours a day. Don’t want the office to have him back!

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PooWillyBumBum · 27/12/2019 17:26

Also echo other posters to put kids first, or they will never forget this.

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 17:27

He resents the close relationship I have with them

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 17:28

I do put them first and we talk about it (the kids and I).

They don’t resent me, they feel sad that he doesn’t care about having a relationship with them, which ultimately will end our relationship.

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Uptheshard · 27/12/2019 17:30

Ach..xmas.brings out the worst. Mine was such a twunt last xmas I was determined itd be our last being married. In fact this year has been bloody great. Peaceful.. no stress.. . Just imagine the xmas shebang without that... bloody heaven on a stick

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BoxOfBabyCheeses · 27/12/2019 17:30

You haven't said what the arguments were about. Yes he is completely childish to block them, but you mentioned your daughter swearing at him. So what caused the argument?

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MitziK · 27/12/2019 17:31

If he has to be treated like JC because he was born on the 25th December, doesn't that mean you get to nail him to a tree and then hide his body in a cave over the Easter Weekend?

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CalleighDoodle · 27/12/2019 17:32

If your kids are always first target, why the duck are you still with him?!

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RickOShay · 27/12/2019 17:39

@Iwasneveragoddess
So sorry. Can you talk to him at all, or is he too defensive?

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Iwasneveragoddess · 27/12/2019 17:48

Sometimes we can talk.

He’s just turned up and I texted him and told him I hadn’t cooked dinner.

He’s pissed off that I haven’t made his DD a birthday cake WTAF?

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Yetanotherwinter · 27/12/2019 17:56

Thankfully never. He’s my best mate. Married 23 years.

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