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Original poster

What would you do if your 25 year old came home with a 61 year old?

135 replies

glitterytrainers · 22/12/2019 13:26

I'm talking about Madonna and her "new" toyboy lover. Apparently they have been seeing each other for a year and are planning a future together. AIBU in thinking I would have her arse kicked?

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Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 22/12/2019 13:28

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foamrolling · 22/12/2019 13:29

Depends on the 25 year old I suppose and whether I thought they were vulnerable and being coerced. It's not exactly every parent's dream and I'd have major concerns but I don't think I'd leap straight to wanting to beat the crap out of the 61 year old.

Kerberos · 22/12/2019 13:29

It's a big age gap but he's a grown adult therefore capable of making his own decisions. As is she.

Tableclothing · 22/12/2019 13:31

You'll get a lot of YABU, he's an adult, age is nothing but a number, our age gap is bigger and we've been happy together for 20 years....

Personally I would not be thrilled.

nokidshere · 22/12/2019 13:32

I would imagine that for many people, bringing home 61 yr old Mary from round the corner would be viewed a lot different than bringing home a 61yr old international millionaire superstar.

nokidshere · 22/12/2019 13:33

Differently*

Davros · 22/12/2019 13:33

Famous people, especially that famous, are not like us mere mortals. Or so it seems

Lifecraft · 22/12/2019 13:41

I would imagine that for many people, bringing home 61 yr old Mary from round the corner would be viewed a lot different than bringing home a 61yr old international millionaire superstar.

This.

I wouldn't be happy with my 25 y/o son coming home with 61 y/o Deirdre who works in Greggs, but a 61 y/o multi millionaire superstar who looks much younger, bangs like a shithouse door and a gale, and will no doubt take him around the world on private jets for a few months before she got board with him, I'd say crack on and enjoy the ride. He'll come away from it with some amazing experiences, having met loads of interesting people, maybe a Rolex or 2 and a new Porsche, and perhaps the phone number of a few of her 25 y/o dancers!!

BoneyBackJefferson · 22/12/2019 13:47

Interesting to see the difference from some when its a 61 year old woman.

AntennaReborn · 22/12/2019 13:47

Unless the 25 year old is vulnerable in some way, I would back the hell off. If my parents had tried to interfere in my love life at that age I would have told them where to go!

It's not ideal, but young adults need to make their own mistakes, and if you voice your displeasure at their relationships they are less likely to come to you if they need help or support

Original poster
glitterytrainers · 22/12/2019 13:48

Lifecraft - brilliant - hope Deirdre from Greggs doesn't do Mumsnet Grin

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ThatssomebadhatHarry · 22/12/2019 13:49

Starting to feel really sorry for Deirdre from Greg’s. She worked her whole life in Greg’s and nobody looked at her twice, but she joined slimming world after her husband cheated on her. Then she met a 25year old hunk and he saw her true beauty.
They are blissfully happy and she also bangs like shithouse door in a gale. She’s taught him a few things about how to satisfy a woman too....

BoneyBackJefferson · 22/12/2019 13:50

AntennaReborn
Unless the 25 year old is vulnerable in some way

You mean like dating the boss?

Which some people seem to be overlooking

Namethecat · 22/12/2019 13:54

Must be the sausage roll that does it for them Grin !

BitOfFun · 22/12/2019 13:55

I doubt Madonna is going to bring anybody "home", given her parents have long since shuffled off this mortal coil, and she has lived independently since she was a teenager herself.

lljkk · 22/12/2019 13:56

DS is 20yo.

Ho hum, I'd ask him if he understood the terms were imbalanced. The thing about being parent to adults is you allow them to make mistakes. Also, sometimes I'm wrong about what's best for them.

Cz gosh she's rich & could spoil DS rotten. It'd be an adventure. I'd be a lot more worried about the "rock and roll drugs crazy lifestyle paparrazzi harrassment" elements than the age gap.

Lifecraft · 22/12/2019 13:59

I doubt Madonna is going to bring anybody "home", given her parents have long since shuffled off this mortal coil, and she has lived independently since she was a teenager herself.

I think the thread title refers to the 25 y/o bringing Madonna home, I assume to meet his parents. Who knows, he may do, and she might just fall in love with Tamworth, and sell her penthouse suit on 5th Avenue!

MsChnandlerBong · 22/12/2019 13:59

Woahhhh leave Deirdre out of this Grin

I admit I'm biased because I love Madonna but he's a grown up and I can't imagine Madonna is a typical 61 year old. If there even is such a thing.

BeyondMyWits · 22/12/2019 14:01

I would think ewwww. It is a bit creepy really. An OAP with their toy (male or female)

I guess if both sides are having fun and noone is being preyed-on/coerced/vulnerable - it would be ok, but not to me, no.

MikeUniformMike · 22/12/2019 14:03

Should I get a job in Gregg's? I'm not 61 but I'm in reasonable nick for my age, and could bang like shithouse door in a gale, given the opportunity.

Kpo58 · 22/12/2019 14:05

I'm not sure if I had a 61 year old child that id want them to be going out with Madonna either.

Charlottejbt · 22/12/2019 14:05

I wouldn't mind if my DS (18) was dating Madonna! I wouldn't even mind him dating Deirdre from Gregg's Grin if she was kind to him, though I'd think it an odd choice. Men have a pretty long time horizon to marry and procreate so it's not as if he's permanently losing the opportunity by having a fling with an older woman. Perhaps young men in this situation just have something they need to get out of their system.

PlasticPatty · 22/12/2019 14:05

I'm 62. The youngest man to express interest in me was 31 years younger. I have 'looks' from men who appear younger than him.

I'm not in good condition. Madonna, she's a strong, healthy, rich woman. I can imagine she'd appeal to some younger men.

I certainly wouldn't want a younger person for a 'relationship'. I'd hate to be taken to meet someone's mum and find she was younger than me. But for fun... well, that would be different.

missyB1 · 22/12/2019 14:06

It’s all kinds of wrong and if it was a man with a 25 year old woman everyone would be calling him a dirty old man etc... What the hell does a woman in her 60s have in common with a 25 year old guy? Nothing of course! She wants some hot young sex. I’m 51 with sons in their 20s, I would rather poke my own eyes out with a hot poker than be chasing after young men that age!

Namethecat · 22/12/2019 14:07

All this aside , it must be a bit strange if your dcs latest is older than you.