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AIBU?

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What would you do if your 25 year old came home with a 61 year old?

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glitterytrainers · 22/12/2019 13:26

I'm talking about Madonna and her "new" toyboy lover. Apparently they have been seeing each other for a year and are planning a future together. AIBU in thinking I would have her arse kicked?

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glitterytrainers · 22/12/2019 14:07

ThatssomebadhatHarry I think we should start a free Deirdre from Greggs campaign - worked there her whole life selling meat products and now she has to sell vegan sausage rolls. It's a travesty! Lucky she's got a 25 year old boyfriend - but he might just be in it for the steak bakes

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FruitcakeOfHate · 22/12/2019 14:08

I'd think it was utterly rank and I'd be gutted that he was giving up ever having kids for some old perv. I'd be equally crossed out if it were my daughter with a man that age. It's disgusting.

TheQueef · 22/12/2019 14:09

I would not be happy.
Madonna or the original Mary for that matter.

MsChnandlerBong · 22/12/2019 14:09

Should I get a job in Gregg's? I'm not 61 but I'm in reasonable nick for my age, and could bang like shithouse door in a gale, given the opportunity

Oh my god Best thing I've read on here in ages.

feelingverylazytoday · 22/12/2019 14:11

AIBU in thinking I would have her arse kicked?
Yes of course you're being unreasonable.

absopugginglutely · 22/12/2019 14:16

Very weird indeed.
If DD age 21 came home with a 61 year old I’d be bloody gutted.

LesLavandes · 22/12/2019 14:20

A 25 year old may be classed as an adult but they are still young and immature. Life really hasn't hit them.

I think it's wrong but Madonna can do anything she wants.

This will go nowhere other than shagging and showing him off. Watch this space

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 22/12/2019 14:22

Until recently I'd probably have said that I'd be furious. However, an old friend of mine recently got engaged to a woman who is at least 30 years older than him. The do look a little unusual together, but they are so obviously in love and happy that I just can't find it in me to judge either of them.

People in their 20s frequently make foolish decisions, or form unsuitable relationships. This young man is likely to come out of the relationship with Madonna with some really cool stories to tell, a wealth of new life experience and he'll probably have travelled a lot and met a lot of people who may help him later in life. It's not like she'll steal his wages, give him the clap and then fuck his brother (although I dunno so much about the last one, does he have a brother?).

Winebottle · 22/12/2019 14:22

She'd not be welcome round mine. Wouldn't have much of a problem with him shagging madonna but it is weirder to treat it like a proper relationship and bring her home like it is going somewhere. Do what you want but keep it away from me.

Evilmorty · 22/12/2019 14:22

I’d cringe. But I suppose I’d have to go along with what they wanted.

DingDongSchadenfreudeOnHigh · 22/12/2019 14:23

Hey - there's advantages to going out with Deidre from Greggs.

You know she can get sausage rolls at cost, don't you?

Charlottejbt · 22/12/2019 14:25

All this aside , it must be a bit strange if your dcs latest is older than you.

My mum doesn't like being younger than my DP. I don't like her being judgemental and making things all about her. But yes, it must feel strange.

Devereux1 · 22/12/2019 14:30

Little more than a sex worker and his client.

NoseyBuggerMummy · 22/12/2019 14:33

It depends on the 25 year. If I felt they were vulnerable I would absolutely take action. If not I would probably still not be overly pleased but it's a consenting adult and there would be nothing I could do about it. The fact is being beautiful, young or incredibly rich and successful all make you more attractive and give you a broader choice of prospective partners.

Jimdandy · 22/12/2019 14:34

I would y be happy but she can offer the lifestyle and the money

DramaAlpaca · 22/12/2019 14:37

I've a 25 year old DS. If he brought home a woman older than me I'd be quietly appalled, quite honestly. I wouldn't normally dream of interfering in his relationships but in such a case I might not be able to keep my feelings to myself. So in fact not so quietly appalled, probably.

FesteredFairy · 22/12/2019 14:38

Hmm well I am 61, just slightly younger than Madonna, but without her wealth. My toyboy is 54. I don't think I would be interested in a 25 year old. No experience of anything!

StinkyXmasCheese · 22/12/2019 14:39

Hmmm, I wouldn't be thrilled.
But as long as my 'child' was happy then I would keep my reservations to myself, 25 is an adult after all, I was married younger than that.

Biscuitsdisappear · 22/12/2019 14:40

It will certainly open his eyes and blow the wax out of his ears if she does bang like a shithouse door in gale

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glitterytrainers · 22/12/2019 14:42

Maybe IABU in wanting to kick Madonna's arse - it looks really bony -I might break my foot!

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millimollimandi · 22/12/2019 14:43

Looking at it from another angle - what in hell's name does she see in him? Yeah, I get that bit, but there are plenty of 30 somethings that would still be up for it and a lot more mature. Personally, as someone of a similar age to Madonna, a guy the same age as my son wouldn't even register on my radar. I have 2 kids, I wouldn't want another... And no, not even for the sex...

Clawdy · 22/12/2019 14:43

DS has a best friend whose wife is the same age as his mum. They've been together for years now, so it's obviously worked, but he did confide that he sometimes felt sad to know he would never be a dad.

ChristmasCroissant · 22/12/2019 14:54

If this is some kind of recruitment campaign by Greggs, it is inspired!

Charlottejbt · 22/12/2019 14:55

That's a really good point. Of course, your DS' friend could end up as a young widower and old first-time dad, but I think your point still stands. He will, at least, have sacrificed many decades of family life in order to have remained married to a much older lady. It's a difficult tradeoff, but had he chosen differently - ended the relationship with the older woman and settled down with a woman of childbearing age - he might have always wondered what could have been. In an age gap relationship one can't afford to wait and see, because the older person won't be around forever in good health.

mumwon · 22/12/2019 14:57

I would be concerned about the effect of her lifestyle (as pp exposure to drugs, alcohol, life style & excessive spending, & changes in viewpoint about relationships) what happens after/when it finishes. Everything afterwards would be dull & I can imagine them losing their way & their perspectives.
On a lighter note (read some of these funny comments to dh!) he says he would hit ds on head race after himself - Yup sez I - & she would be interested? Although I think my ds is lovely I don't think this is likely to happen.

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