To not want a Christmas Day baby

[Sweetpeach3]

I just feel soooo guilty "what if I'm not here Christmas morning for the kids"

Baby's due tomorrow. Iv had 2 sweeps, got kidney stones and on antibiotics (all should induce labour) but Seriously no bloody sign of an arrival. Doing everything I can but I feel perfectly fine in myself I can't sit still and bump is still pretty high

Baby number 3- first was 2 weeks late , 2nd was a week early so yea was no telling what way this will go
I'm just dreading it being over Xmas eve or Xmas as their such a special magical time I don't want to miss with my other 2 baby's. This is such a big gear and i know baby's coming when baby wants to come theirs no waiting lol

I just don't want to get everything set up Xmas eve for Xmas morning then go into labour through the night then they will see what Santa's brought and me and their dad miss it as we won't be here.

I sound so selfish I just don't like missing any time with them?? their always with me and doing things with me. I only have a break when they go nursery 3 days a week an that's only 1-6!! Then I don't want the baby being born on Christmas Day as people keep sayin "it'll save us a fortune buyin one present for 2 occasions if baby's born Xmas day""
I don't agree with that at all and I have said if baby is born Xmas day the birthday will be celebrated either before or after like a proper birthday
Just feel shit iv clearly not planned the dates well here ??

Yanbu to want to be there to see the dc open their gifts - it's only natural. Buy if by any chance you do; then it's just one year.

How old are your other dc? Could you avoid even telling them when Christmas is? Heck; do Christmas on Monday if you can! Then it's out of the way just in case.

Best Christmas Present Ever!

Then celebrate their birthday in June, at least for school friends/parties and probably wider family too.

Otherwise be very clear that 2 presents are expected, and 1 will be wrapped in birthday paper. Don't put up decorations until after the birthday (unless on Christmas Day).

Hope all goes well.

If they are you f enough to be at nursery the. They are you g enough for Santa to move dates as Mummy is in hospital! Santa can leave a small present on the day and leave the rest for Mummy being gone? Don't worry about it.

1. People are joking when they say you only need to buy one present. Nobody really thinks this.
2. Your children will survive a Christmas Day without you and will be delighted to show you what Father Christmas has brought them when you come home.
3. Your baby might not arrive on Wednesday.
4. There's FA you can do about it so just enjoy the run up to Christmas with them!

How old are the older children? Could you just do Christmas early?

Thank you all. Least I know I'm not cracking up. Their only 3-2
Well I was thinking of just getting up early Xmas morning to do the presents so my minds at ease that baby hasn't came over night and I won't miss anything
If baby comes during Xmas eve night I guess Christmas Day can wait until we get home! They've 2 sets of Xmas eve pjs so it's fine lol plus They don't know any different so I'm lucky I'm at this age with them xx

You get what you get OP

Don’t stress though, it’ll be fine. Xmas day can be postponed.

What will be, will be! Either way you will have a gorgeous snuggly new baby very soon.

On the scale of things, it doesn't really matter what day the baby arrives, it's a joyous occasionand I'm sure your other DC will always remember this as a very special Christmas.

I'm the mother if a Christmas eve kid here.

There is absolutely nothing you can do about when the birth happens but you can think about his to adjust Christmas day di you can enjoy it with the kids too. If the hospital staff can get you home asap they will, so even if you miss the morning you may be back by the evening.

Who is going to watch the kids? Ask them to keep back some if the presents so they can open them with you (on boxing day if necessary!) If you are in all Christmas day send your partner home for a bit so he can take pics for you and do some of the routine bits with the older ones.

Everything will be okay. Christmas babies are very special. And you can tease everyone that you've named ths baby Jesus.

Tell them you’re re enacting the nativity?

There is nothing you can do so I’d just carry on as planned until you can’t.

Just don't be giving DH any Christmas treats

My daughter was born Christmas Eve and it's very much about her until night time then we do the Christmas/Santa stuff. Babies come when they want no point in stressing about it.

Ah I was in a similar situation this time last year... baby eventually came 2 weeks late on the 8th Jan! Wish I hadn’t spent so much time stressing about it, as I couldn’t change the outcome anyway.

My 11 year old DD is a Christmas Eve baby. She likes it, everyone is in a good mood, all parents are happy to have their kids come out for her birthday (especially if it's the morning of Christmas Eve!) and has always had separate birthday and Christmas presents.

My eldest was born on Xmas day. Like you I said all along I didn't want him to come that day.
We have a half birthday on the 25th of June this is when he gets his party and we also buy him birthday presents and treat it like his actual birthday. Even the school and childminder are involved in this.
On his actual birthday he gets a cake (any excuse for a cake in my house) and a token birthday gift.

With dd she's a feb baby but the Xmas eve/day I was pregnant with her I ended up in hospital over night. He was 4 that year and he coped really well. I face timed him in the morning as he opened his stuffs, I just used headphones and made sure it wasn't stupidly early.

@Sweetpeach3 I'm a Christmas Day baby - apparently it was chaos back on Xmas Day in 1990 when I was born (4 days early). Both grandmas had to come over and look after my 2 older siblings whilst my parents were in hospital with me. My siblings also had to wait until I was bought home before they could open their presents (29 years later they still don't let me live this down!).

I can imagine that a Christmas Day baby is a bit of a nightmare but as my parents told me I was the best gift they could have asked for (sweet I know, haha) and it is a nice time of year to have a birthday - everyone is feeling festive, people are off work and it's just generally a lovely time of year.

It is true that some people do give you one gift (for birthday and Christmas) and I've often received a Christmas card with "+ Happy Birthday" written in it. However my mum has always gone above and beyond to make sure my birthday and Xmas are kept as two separate occasions, and my best friend and husband do the same too.

Good luck with your baby!! X

Depends when the three year old turns four but we moved Christmas by two days when my youngest were 1.5 and just turned three as my eldest was in hospital and didn't want to miss Christmas, they still don't know we did that.

Just go with the flow. DS will be 25 on Wednesday . Who is looking after them when you are in labour? They'll need to look after you a bit when you get back.

Family have always been good about his birhday presents. When he was little we had tea and cake at 6ish. Now he opens them just before lunch on Boxing Day.

YANBU to feel like you do but there’s nothing to be done about it I’m afraid 😂

Literally nothing you do will change when baby comes. I’m terrified mine with arrive on April fools day 😂❤️

3 year old is only 4 in April so he doesn't know when Xmas day actually is we havnt done the countdown calendar this year for this reason- we have a Santa game or phone call then a little treat before bed to countdown but not mad it totally obvious incase we move dates!

Thank you all for your advice and your experiences
Either way Iv just got to take it as it comes like iv said when midwifes ask about what's my birth plan- I don't have one you cannot plan for a baby. I have an over all plan but not one set in stone just that I'm going the hospital when I need to an who ever is free depending on the time has the DC lol

Not guna think about it anymore and carry on as normal and make some mince pies soon with the kids !! (Not play doh ones today) haha

Merry Christmas mums! ❤️

A other Christmas Eve mum here. It's natural to worry, who wouldn't? But remember this is only one year. The turkey and presents will be just as lovely a few days later won't they? You can't control this, so all you can do is wait and see OK?

Plus Christmas is a magical time for. A birthday, Ds genuinely believes that excitement you can feel in the air on Christmas Eve is just for his birthday. Everyone is in a great mood and it's just magical.

@CadburyFestiveFriends hahaha oh don't be saying that no one will belive you if you say I'm in Labor come now 😂😂
my oldest is April but he was sooo late but that was a worry when I was due anytime on April fools day! Xx

i think the combining of Christmas and Birthdays is as likely to happen with anyone born between mid December and New Year TBH - that the B'day is christmas eve or christmas day would make v little difference.

Hope it goes ok, whenever baby arrives.
I'd say at 3 and 2 you can certainly make it Christmas on whatever day suits you.

A friend of mine successfully moved her children's birthdays to the nearest weekend each year until they were around 6 to 7 yo 😂. They didn't know their birth date at that point so just accepted it.

Would you consider a home birth? That way it makes absolutely no difference, as you'll be home whether you're birthing or not.