To not want a Christmas Day baby

[Sweetpeach3]

I just feel soooo guilty "what if I'm not here Christmas morning for the kids"

Baby's due tomorrow. Iv had 2 sweeps, got kidney stones and on antibiotics (all should induce labour) but Seriously no bloody sign of an arrival. Doing everything I can but I feel perfectly fine in myself I can't sit still and bump is still pretty high

Baby number 3- first was 2 weeks late , 2nd was a week early so yea was no telling what way this will go
I'm just dreading it being over Xmas eve or Xmas as their such a special magical time I don't want to miss with my other 2 baby's. This is such a big gear and i know baby's coming when baby wants to come theirs no waiting lol

I just don't want to get everything set up Xmas eve for Xmas morning then go into labour through the night then they will see what Santa's brought and me and their dad miss it as we won't be here.

I sound so selfish I just don't like missing any time with them?? their always with me and doing things with me. I only have a break when they go nursery 3 days a week an that's only 1-6!! Then I don't want the baby being born on Christmas Day as people keep sayin "it'll save us a fortune buyin one present for 2 occasions if baby's born Xmas day""
I don't agree with that at all and I have said if baby is born Xmas day the birthday will be celebrated either before or after like a proper birthday
Just feel shit iv clearly not planned the dates well here ??

Wow! A new baby on Christmas Day would be such a beautiful gift - something they will treasure and love forever - long after all the stuff is gone! I would actually LOVE that for the other two dc but it’s not the best birthday to have when baby is older.

YANBU. I'm a Christmas baby and it sucks. Have a serious talk with baby and tell him to either exit now or stay put for a couple more days xx

I have a Christmas Day baby, he was due 17th December, having bigger babies I did ask to be induced but was refused, I went into labour at 7.30am Christmas Day morning got to the hosp at 7.45am & he was born at 8.20am (my 4th child) I was home by 2.30pm with glass of wine in hand & my kids opening the rest of their presents, they had to go to my parents when I went to hospital.

We now have Christmas in the morning & his birthday in the afternoon he also has a birthday ‘weekend’ before Christmas where he goes ice skating or the cinema, he is 9 this time & doesn’t seem to bother him in the slightest!

Likely you'll be late. But yes, YABU, if baby gets here safe that is the main thing. Very few babies arrive on their due date. Enjoy your Christmas and good luck for a safe arrival... Whenever that may be.

My 5th was three weeks late and arrived on the 22nd Dec. it's always been a crap time to have a birthday. Serves her right for being so tardy!

@PastelRainbows I was born by ELCS, because Christmas day was my due date. My mum was 43, so classed as high risk and she managed to wangle herself a c-section 3 weeks early because her consultant was flying off to spend Christmas in the Caribbean.

The 80s were a different time...

Dd was due Xmas Eve. Legs managed to stay crossed til New Year's Eve!! 10. 30 am.

I had one due on Christmas day, I had a planned home birth so wasn't worried about missing anything. I think you could still opt for a home birth, yet joining the homebirth UK Facebook group for advice. It is your right, if staff are available. It was really nice having a birth pool next to the Christmas tree.

Having said that, even if you do go into labour Christmas night/morning, all is not lost. You have several options. Whisk the kids to whoever is looking after them before they see the presents. They don't need to know it is Christmas yet, and if they do, say presents will be opened later. Chances are baby will be born quickly like your second and they will let you leave within hours. If it's too late to open presents they can have them on boxing day. It could be a new tradition of you have a Christmas birthday to celebrate each year!

You don't have to worry about missing them opening anything, they are young enough for everything to be slightly postponed.

We do one room in the house with NO Christmas decorations just birthday related cards etc

I think a woman's body is very intuitive to what's going on. With my 2nd I was worried about who would look after my son (nearest relatives 2hrs away) and various other things. Once that worry was taken away (& a family funeral also got through) then my body was ready to let it happen. Good luck and what will be will be

You can do Christmas the next day if you go early I'm sure the children will be happy with presents while you are in having the baby and then you can give them other presents the next day

I used to be a midwife and have helped a fair number of Christmas Day babies into the world. My record was 3 in one day...all boys. I was calling them the Three Wise Men

But no YANBU I can understand quite why you wouldn’t want a baby on that day.

I'm worried about the same. I have a c section booked for Monday, but have some mild contractions already. If it does start properly it'll still need to be a c section so i have little to no chance of getting home for Xmas day. Plus a 4 year old who has been counting down the sleeps to Xmas and will know it's Xmas day! I'm trying to not stress about it... but I'd really rather the baby didn't have a Xmas day birthday!

I was due on Boxing Day and we had a dry and quiet Christmas! But by 29th he hadn’t come so I had to go on a long brisk walk to get him out before nye!
You’ll make it work whatever happens. If you feel fine and energetic now it might take a few more days for baby to come... by which point you’ll have had your Christmas with your kids.
We have Christmas and then clear it all away straight after and then it’s his birthday.
Hope it all goes well xxx

Yanbu to not want it to happen but you can't control when it does. You can control other things though such as when presents happen etc so I'd concentrate on that.

My own Xmas Eve baby was born six weeks early while we were at my mum's for Xmas. Ds1 was 20 months old, woke up at two am on the 24th, announced he felt sick, I went to him, he puked all over my face and the bed he was in, as I was cleaning it up my fucking waters broke, I'm yelling for DP that I'm in labour and there's puke everywhere, now the whole house is awake and everyone loses their goddamn shit, rush to hospital, ds2 born later that day, ds1 is still puking so he can't even come to the NICU, the whole thing is a complete fucking disaster really but you know, my mum was the 2nd person after me to hold ds2, santa came to hospital on Xmas day and actually he's still my special xmas baby who I remember sitting with looking out at the frosty nights etc, it all has a way of working out even when it doesn't work out. And the next Xmas was fantastic!

My stepson is a xmas day baby (he’s 20 on Wednesday) my birthday is the 15th and our youngest was due also on Xmas day - luckily she came early - the 22nd - but it’s still pants having your birthday around Xmas. That said - we have a family party for youngests birthday and it doubles as our Xmas family party 😂😂 also, with her being a week after mine it means I can pretty much ignore my birthday thankfully!!
I cooked Xmas dinner for 12 when youngest was three days old 😂😂

Haha thank you all for the tales. It is going to be what it's going to be. You can't plan a baby they have a mind of their own!
I just can't keep still im full if beans so I'm just hopin baby hangs in their until Christmas dinner is out the way atleast !!
Doing laps of the shopping centres and super markets then hitting the house top to bottom. I'm loosing my mind just keepin busy lol xx

Erm... has anyone forgotten what happened on the first Christmas day? Yes! A very special baby was born. What a wonderful way to introduce your older children to the real meaning of Christmas. Please don't let this be about presents. I should have been born on Christmas day but was late. I arrived on 4th Jan. I have survived 65 years without mental impairment from missing out on the presents folk are too broke to buy me after Yuletide.

Erm... has anyone forgotten what happened on the first Christmas day?

Something pagan which then got appropriated to suit a fairy tale?

Hey OP!! I'm a Christmas Day baby, it's not all bad!
I've never missed out.
Even 40 years ago the nurses made a fuss of my mum in hospital and made sure she got a proper christmas dinner etc!
And your other DCs will be amazed at the amazing present, totally u sure whether baby was delivered by Santa or the Stork

You want a healthy baby.

The First Christmas Day 🤣

A young pig was sacrificed on the doorstep of Roman temples for the pleasure of the God Of Saturn, Lord of Misrule

Roman censuses primarily occurred in the Spring, so it is believed that the man known as Jesus Of Nazerene was born in April

As any Jehovah's Witness will tell you, the reason they celebrate neither Christmas or Birthdays is because Jesus wasn't born on December 25th and has no recorded birthday in the Bible.

One of my DC is a Boxing Day baby. Only thing I find is no one is free for a children’s party so we have a “summer party” in June instead. We say like the queen they have Two birthdays. Good luck op whenever little one arrives it is a blessing. 💐

DS2 was due Boxing Day, ended up being born on 2nd Jan. Now that really is a rubbish day for a birthday, everyone usually goes back to work that day and no one wants to party! For a long time we had a birthday party early December or mid-Jan. Even though it's nearly 19 years ago I remember feeling like you - desperate for him not to be born on Christmas Day!

how horrible to say to you well at least you only have to do one lot of presents -its not the babies fault when its born i hate that mentality

anyway good luck hurry up bubs!