To not want a Christmas Day baby

[Sweetpeach3]

I just feel soooo guilty "what if I'm not here Christmas morning for the kids"

Baby's due tomorrow. Iv had 2 sweeps, got kidney stones and on antibiotics (all should induce labour) but Seriously no bloody sign of an arrival. Doing everything I can but I feel perfectly fine in myself I can't sit still and bump is still pretty high

Baby number 3- first was 2 weeks late , 2nd was a week early so yea was no telling what way this will go
I'm just dreading it being over Xmas eve or Xmas as their such a special magical time I don't want to miss with my other 2 baby's. This is such a big gear and i know baby's coming when baby wants to come theirs no waiting lol

I just don't want to get everything set up Xmas eve for Xmas morning then go into labour through the night then they will see what Santa's brought and me and their dad miss it as we won't be here.

I sound so selfish I just don't like missing any time with them?? their always with me and doing things with me. I only have a break when they go nursery 3 days a week an that's only 1-6!! Then I don't want the baby being born on Christmas Day as people keep sayin "it'll save us a fortune buyin one present for 2 occasions if baby's born Xmas day""
I don't agree with that at all and I have said if baby is born Xmas day the birthday will be celebrated either before or after like a proper birthday
Just feel shit iv clearly not planned the dates well here ??

I know how you feel OP.

I am not due for another few weeks but have had complications so baby could come any day now.

I feel sorry for people who have a birthday on or near Christmas because people don't seem to make the same effort. I have a couple of family members who have Christmas birthdays and they get birthday presents wrapped in Christmas paper. They get one gift instead of two. If they do get two the birthday present is always a gift where no thought has gone into it.

To be on the safe side I’d just do Christmas Day tomorrow, they don’t know what day it actually is on and at least then you’ve had Christmas with them.

My second was due on 22nd and came on 29th - what will be will be x

DD2 is a Christmas day baby and I too worried about missing Christmas with DD1 who was 3 at the time. I had grandparents and Aunts geared up to look after her and knew they would hype her into the proper frenzy for present opening so special for her, but selfishly worried I'd miss it. As it turns out, had a Home Birth and DD2 was born shortly after midnight on Christmas Day. By the time DD1 woke up and came bouncing into our room shouting that Father Christmas had been, we were in bed with everything cleared up. DD1 never realised she had a baby sister till half hour she woke up as she was so excited about her stocking. Meant that I ended up almost neglecting my newborn the whole of Christmas day as I was so concerned about DD1 not being left out as ALL relatives came visiting

Just relax, it'll happen when it happens, and enjoy the excitement of your children at Christmas. If you do go into labour, concentrate on having your new baby and then afterwards worry about how quickly you can reassemble your newly extended family together.

Oh, and if the baby does come on Christmas day, never NEVER think you'll be able to make and decorate their birthday cake on Christmas Eve...

I posted a similar thread last year on Christmas Eve, except I was in labour. Was due on Christmas Day, and was worried that we’d be in hospital and I’d miss out on my three-year-old twins waking up to see Santa had arrived. In the end, labour progressed very quickly and the baby was born just past 8pm in our bathroom, caught by my husband. The paramedics came and took us to be checked over at hospital. We were home by 2.30am, and enjoyed a lovely, very relaxed Christmas as a family of five. Now we’re all getting ready to celebrate the baby’s first birthday. The baby will come when it comes, and actually, having a Christmas baby is kind of magical. Good luck!

My eldest is 18 today. We don't really get Christmas food out etc until after today and then it's Christmas. It is hard for her because all her friends are busy doing Christmas stuff but she has never really complained (she was very late though so it is her own fault!)

I was in your position 4 years ago, v heavily pregnant over Xmas, I actually started having contractions Xmas eve, luckily he held on another week and came 2nd Jan. I really didn't want a Christmas bday, but he was our first child so I didn't have the worry of missing other children on Xmas day.

My children are 3 and 2, well v nearly 4! I would just move the day if I was you, they have no idea what date it is so just do Xmas day on Xmas eve if you are still ok then.

What a lovely Christmas present! My youngest is tomorrow. I remember the fear but actually it’s so special! The older dc thought he was a gift from santa (they don’t think he’s a gift now!).

I totally understand you wanting to be around on Christmas Day for your other DC.My DC2 was due on Dec20.I did not want a Christmas Day baby.My DC1 was then 3years old and I didn’t want to miss them opening their presents.DC2 ended up being born on the 23rd.We got home Christmas Eve in the snow and had a lovely family Christmas together.DC2 is now almost 26 and has never had a joint birthday and Christmas present from any family or friends .Everyone has always given 2 presents.

I think at your kids' ages, this will be very much part of the magic of Christmas. It'll be the Christmas that is remembered when all the other memories of Christmas have merged into one

Personally if baby arrives Christmas Eve then I’d do a fake Christmas when you get home. At 2 and 3 they won’t know what day of the week it is. All the best.

I am an older sibling to a Christmastime baby and my mum was still in hospital with him on Christmas Day. Of course, I would have loved to have my mum at home but it is still the most special and magical Christmas of my childhood and going in to the hospital to see my new baby brother on Christmas day really stands out among my childhood memories.

Tip: if you have given them any really noisy toys, remind whoever is looking after them not to let them bring those ones onto the maternity ward. I took the game Operation with me to show my mum and baby brother. My dad was not popular!

My aunt arrived on Christmas day, it was the most celebrated and welcome Christmas gift. On the other hand I had my first in 20th Dec and spent the first Christmas waiting for a midwife to come.

Congratulations and don't forget to hide some presents just in case x

I was born on Christmas day OP, the week before they gave dm sweeps to get things moving as Christmas Day was my due date. But I hung in there. I was to be a home birth anyway. Dm was there to see my older siblings open presents she cooked Christmas dinner for them all and gps and was fine. Put older siblings to bed and started niggling. Df called the midwife and then had to go and collect her as she was on a bike and it was snowing heavily. They got back in time to deliver me just before midnight. Dm said it was wonderful and my siblings were amazed when they woke next morning to find a baby.

I knew there was a chance my daughter would he born around Christmas so we purposely didnt do a christmas countdown with our then 3 year old son just in case, so that we could celebrate christmas day on another day if necessary. In the end my daughter was born the day before my son's birthday. We spent a week in neonatal so I wasn't there on the morning of his birthday. It killed me but he was completely fine about it. They came to see me in hospital and family all made a fuss of him at home. I think being away from them at Christmas and on birthdays when they're so young affects us more than them, we feel the parent guilt.
Also, everyone is under strict instruction from us regarding no joint Christmas/birthday presents (their birthdays are Christmas week - clearly we planned that well!!). When they get older if they ask for a combined present then fine but at the minute we ask for them to be separate because it's not their fault they have Christmas birthdays.

Good luck when the time comes and enjoy Christmas, whenever you do it

@Keepmewarm haha that made my day 😂😂 "they don't think he's a gift now" haha love it xx

Did you not think of this when you planned to get pregnant?

Did you not think of this when you planned to get pregnant?

Well I don’t know about the OP but after two years trying I...
a) didn’t expect it to happen that month and
b) didn’t want to take a break that month in case that month was the lucky month! And it was!

I mine going by sitting on birth all and rotating. While using breast pump.

DH is a Christmas Day baby. His sisters still haven’t forgiven him for the shit Christmas dinner they had to endure, cooked by their dad.

Joking aside, whatever happens your DCs will be thrilled I’m sure.

If they're only 3 & 2 then I wouldn't tell them it's Christmas Day.
If you go into labour early hours of the 25th then don't do Christmas until your home.

But you are really NBU. I can't imagine dealing with all the stress of Christmas and the stress of an impending labour. Good luck

@NoSauce I did think of that when I was TTC and that's why I am not due for another few weeks but DC decided that they want to come early, I had no choice in that.

Well yes, babies come early and late but if you’re planning on conceiving a baby to born around the end of December, you have to be prepared that it might be born on Christmas Day!

One of my siblings was born just before Christmas with my mum still in hospital on Christmas day. Visiting him in hospital is one of my earliest memories. It was an extra special day because of it. It will be fine so don't worry about it

Well yes, babies come early and late but if you’re planning on conceiving a baby to born around the end of December, you have to be prepared that it might be born on Christmas Day!

Not everyone plans to conceive at particular time - for some people conceiving can be difficult, and you just keep trying month after month - thinking of whenthe baby wil be born doesn;treally com einto it. I was always amazed at those who 'chose' exactly whne they would have their babies, - so they wouldn't be youngest or oldest in school year, so they wouldn;t be born at Christmas etc etc - not that easy for lots of us.

OP - my second was due on Christmas Eve - and i too was worried baout her arriving on Christmas Day because I had a five year old who was excited for Christmas. I decide that if it happened, we postpone Christmas until I was home from hospital so we could all enjoy it together, and have one present ready to give him 'from the baby'.

As it happened - she arrived on the 29th, and people have always been pretty good about not doing the 'joint Christmas and birthday present' thing. Although it was often difficult to think of what to get her for birthday and Christmas that would last her a whole year until next present giving occasion.