To not want a Christmas Day baby

[Sweetpeach3]

I just feel soooo guilty "what if I'm not here Christmas morning for the kids"

Baby's due tomorrow. Iv had 2 sweeps, got kidney stones and on antibiotics (all should induce labour) but Seriously no bloody sign of an arrival. Doing everything I can but I feel perfectly fine in myself I can't sit still and bump is still pretty high

Baby number 3- first was 2 weeks late , 2nd was a week early so yea was no telling what way this will go
I'm just dreading it being over Xmas eve or Xmas as their such a special magical time I don't want to miss with my other 2 baby's. This is such a big gear and i know baby's coming when baby wants to come theirs no waiting lol

I just don't want to get everything set up Xmas eve for Xmas morning then go into labour through the night then they will see what Santa's brought and me and their dad miss it as we won't be here.

I sound so selfish I just don't like missing any time with them?? their always with me and doing things with me. I only have a break when they go nursery 3 days a week an that's only 1-6!! Then I don't want the baby being born on Christmas Day as people keep sayin "it'll save us a fortune buyin one present for 2 occasions if baby's born Xmas day""
I don't agree with that at all and I have said if baby is born Xmas day the birthday will be celebrated either before or after like a proper birthday
Just feel shit iv clearly not planned the dates well here ??

www.history.com/news/why-is-christmas-celebrated-on-december-25

Congratulations on your baby OP, whichever day s/he puts in an appearance

We have several birthdays in the family at Christmas time including DD1. They all get separate presents, think it depends on the family (DHs family have sent no birthday presents to DD1 yet again, apparently it's too hard to buy a child 2 presents in the same week ).

DSis was born a few days before Christmas, she's the youngest of 4 and I'm the eldest. The year she was born it was very exciting, we all thought it was fab and I remember going into hospital to see her. Mum got home 'early' for Christmas (it was the 70s, she was expected to spend a week in hospital) on Christmas Eve.

I am a Christmas baby and it is fab . Much love

NC for this because I'm just so horrified, and also because I know they'll be a pile-on within a few posts.

But, oh blimey - there (place) their (possessive) and they're (they are) are all different, and one size does not fit all! And honestly, Iv (I've - do the extra strokes really kill you?), belive, guna and havnt (havn't, really? When you put the apostrophe in 'dont'?) not to mention numerous other howlers. I despair of the state of UK education today. And people who think text speak (or is that txtspk? ) is ok as a normal thing.

I have a Boxing Day baby it’s rubbish x

LordsPice32 oh what larks. Did you mean Lords'Pice, assuming Lords is plural and not singular .

LordsPice32 yes the lack of basic grammatical knowledge is not brilliant, but sadly common.

DS1 is a Boxing Day baby - I went into labour Christmas morning, he came the next evening, 4 days late. It's fine - he's always had a half birthday on 26th June for friends - real birthday was family. He's 27 this year, still do the half birthday .
The only thing that used to utterly piss me off was family buying joint Christmas/birthday present - if his birthday had been at any other time they wouldn't have lumped it all in together. I certainly never expected anything expensive, just an acknowledgement that it was his birthday - birthday wrapping etc.

I'm due shortly and also don't want for baby to be born xmas eve or xmas day ( as I'll be kept in for 24 hours due to some health complications.) It really wouldn't matter if it was my first, but this year DC1 understands xmas and I want to be with him. Also my parents have xmas plans (not with us) and they are my childcare. We are meant to be going to DH's family in the afternoon xmas day, but they seem to think I'm helping with cooking, so no chance of a rest.

Aw I feel you. My youngest was due on Christmas Eve (10 years ago)! I was so worried bout missing Christmas with the older two who were older toddlers (4). He ended up arriving Jan 7th! Good luck to you x

LordsPice32 there’ll be a pile on or they’ll pile on

I know they'll be a pile-on

Oh the irony.

Mine was due 24th Jan. Arrived 25th Dec. Requires organisation but v v lovely. He's 25. Third name is Caspar after one of the wise men (the one who brought the gold).

DD has a birthday on top of Christmas and it’s a PITA organising a party along with everything else.

However, she loves December! And loves having her birthday in the same week as Christmas.

Bonus that NCT group all had their babies then so she has lots of Christmas birthday friends, including one on 25th.

But yes some people do give her one joint present for both. I feel like doing the same for theirs.

YANBU - this was me this time last year! It was my first however so wasn’t the same in the sense of wanting to be with my other children, but I really didn’t want him to arrive Xmas day! I was due on 23rd. My dads birthday is Xmas day and he has always said it’s a rubbish day to have your birthday and as kids, we forgot and would have to be constantly reminded by mum to wish him happy birthday etc. We have a tendency in my family to share birthdays 🙄 so I just thought it was a given he was coming Xmas day. I didn’t want him to because I would feel guilty for him. Poor planning indeed 😂 anyway, he came on the 28th so I can cope with that. Tree is gonna come down 27th each year so I can try make sure they are two separate occasions, I do still feel bad for him though thinking about school age he will never get a bouncy castle in the garden party etc and lots of children won’t make a party as they will be busy but we can’t change that now so gotta make the best of it. Fingers crossed you make it through Christmas Day and good luck!

I'm a Christmas Day baby, and always celebrate my birthday in June, my parents did it before I was old enough to know any different.
I love being born on Christmas Day but equally love celebrating my 'birthday' in June.
Congratulations for when your baby does come!

Felicitations on the impending birth! :) I agree with the others; the older two won't really notice the date at this age so you can do the Xmas stuff whenever timing suits. For the future, it's very common among the moms I know to shift December birthdays to summer and do half-year celebrations instead. (I also agree that it's terrible to try and combine someone's birthday with Xmas! An old schoolfriend is a Xmas Eve baby and we all thought it was dreadful that they only got one set of gifts.)

I remember this time last year I was following a thread where a lady went into labour on xmas eve, had the baby, and then was back home to sort out Christmas for the next day. Probably was one of the most heartwarming threads I have read on AIBU. There isn't many in that category!

Best of luck OP. What will be, will be.

My Christmas Day baby will be 14 this year. He loves it. Still feels it’s a very special day to have his birthday and certainly doesn’t feel he misses out.
I had to go to the hospital at 4am leaving dd (3) with grandparents. That is long forgotten! I still have video from granda of her being told she had a baby brother and her shouting she had butterfly island! I know which one she sounded happiest about.

@MrHodgeymaheg, I think that was me! Have namechanged since. We’re all ready to celebrate the baby’s first birthday tomorrow! Her birth was one of the best experiences of my life and she is just the happiest baby you could ever hope to meet. Her big brothers are almost as excited about her birthday as they are about Christmas and helped me make her cake.

I know dont shag in march or april!

I've had to Christmas babies. One Boxing Day and one New Year's Eve.
I wrap their presents up in Christmas or birthday paper. Sing birthday songs and buy a cake birthday,cards ,balloons ect
Christmas birthdays are what you make them. They can turn out to be rather special and we always do something the kids want to do, go for a meal or to the pictures or something too. X

@allfurcoatnoknickers
Oh dear, lots of similarities there! My due date was actually 1.1 and we decided to do the ELCS 10 days earlier because my consultant was going on a skiing holiday ! Though as mentioned, it was a complex pregnancy and he gave us such a handhold throughout so we really wanted him to personally perform the ELCS. Everything turned out just as planned and I couldn't have been happier. DD didn't have any problems from being slightly early, though she'll have to grow up knowing her birthday was determined by some random doctor's vacation plans :P

Happy Birthday to all the Christmas Eve'rs!

I love someone's idea telling the kids Santa brought us a baby not the stalk! My little boy would be over the mood if I told him this and I think SC would be aswel. Even though oldest is 18 he still is a big kid at heart!
I honestly don't care when the baby comes i just didn't want the baby to hate me later in life if born on Xmas day as I used to be very upset with my parents I was born in December. They named me after a Christmas related bush and I never had a outdoor party like other kids and I also share it with family an sister !!!

I just want to meet this little one and have cuddles. Been 9 months of waiting and don't like waiting on something so special !! I'm gettin so fed up of seeing little baby's all snuggled in their prams whilst out an mines just happy snuggles inside still lol but they have to come out one way or another just now a waiting game but atLeast their healthy and fully cooked. Let's hope for a safe and okay birth ! Xx