'You lost, get over it'.

[KnowBetterDoBetter]

Has anybody ever said this phrase and not been a complete and utter dickhead?

I mean, would any civilised person ever use it in any other situation?

Your DH is upset as they didn't get the job they'd hoped for.

"Honestly DH, you lost. Get over it".

A friend lost out on a house they'd set their heart on.

"It's been a week now. Stop crying, and get over it, honestly".

Your kid came last at sports day.

"LOSER! Get over it, for goodness sake".

It's just so rude. Either join in with the discussion, or ignore it. Even my 4yo understands that it's rude to gloat about winning, and people won't want to play with you if you keep doing it.

I always imagine people saying it in real life, then sticking their tongue out, putting their thumb on their nose and wiggling their fingers (is there a name for this action?), proclaiming 'na na na na naaaa'.

Any other phrases that are particularly irritating to you?

NB: I know I'll get 100 posts saying 'turkeys voting for Christmas', which I guess is the equivalent stupid phrase favoured by the left. But at least they get taken the piss out of when they use it. 'You lost, get over it' seems to be a completely valid contribution to debate on MN these days.

It's rude. But the General Election is over and therefore any further debate or hand wringing is fruitless and I can understand people not wanting Labour supporters still wishing to argue about it. I voted Labour btw.

I have never used 'turkeys voting for Christmas'. You might as well say 'you're as thick as pig shit' to someone, which is at least simply rude - rather than patronising as well.

“Its just one of those things” people seem to love to say this about our fertility issues. I find it dismissive and hurtful

“Its just one of those things” people seem to love to say this about our fertility issues. I find it dismissive and hurtful

That's such an insensitive thing to say.

My ex said this to me.

I just said its not a game of football. It is peoples lives so shut up.
Thankfully he did.

He also thought 46 million people voted Tory and was shocked when it was only 300k more gained votes. So hardly a landslide.

I think it's silly simply because it wasn't a competition. It isn't quite as simple as getting over having 'lost'. The wider implications mean that the 'loss' continues to impact people. It's those impacts that people are complaining about. Not just the original 'loss' but the new worries and issues that come along side it.

Thanks @KnowBetterDoBetter It’s not like we have lost the spare key for the garage or are ill on holiday. It’s a bit more than that! Especially as doctors can’t even work out the issue

It's rude. But the General Election is over and therefore any further debate or hand wringing is fruitless and I can understand people not wanting Labour supporters still wishing to argue about it. I voted Labour btw

This. With BELLS ON

You lost, get over it is indeed crass, insensitive and arrogant. And very unconstructive. I wouldn’t say it to an enemy.

Oh the other hand I think some of this is driven by a certain amount of foot stamping denialism on the left (as in the #corbynwasright thread. If Corbyn supporters were more willing to acknowledge that they called the electorate very very badly wrong and be more constructive and less prone to shouting about how all Tories want all disabled people to starve etc the “told you so” rhetoric may quieten down somewhat...

@refraction that’s a bit awkward. Where did he get 46 million from?!!!?

As an observor, I often see anyone who argues for a softer Brexit than a no deal Brexit, suggesting things like a customs union, or common agricultural policy, or coordinating fishing quotas accused of being “a remainer” (or traitor) and told how they “lost the vote”. The vote was simply to leave, not the hardness or softness of Brexit. That’s for the UK Parliament to decide.

I have never said it and never would, now can we move on and make things better

He is American so maybe that screwed his view on the numbers. I think it's because he heard 2/3 of the votes were Tory and he did some dodgy Maths in his head including children, non British citizens and assuming everyone turned up to vote.

Either join in with the discussion, or ignore it.
What's to discuss? Some people are posting as if they were the first party ever in the history of democracy to lose an election. They are behaving with very bad grace.

It's rude. But the General Election is over and therefore any further debate or hand wringing is fruitless and I can understand people not wanting Labour supporters still wishing to argue about it. I voted Labour btw.

Yeah, I guess. But I just don't see the point. If people still want to talk about it, but you (not you, but in general) think it's fruitless, why not just scroll on past, instead of bothering to write such an inane and childish contribution - copying the 15 people who have written it before you?

It's so overused, on twitter too, when people are trying to have reasoned discussion. And I wouldn't say turkeys voting for Christmas either, that's cringey too. Makes me think that the poster thinks that they're soooo unbelievably witty, when they're just coming over as somebody who can't articulate their thoughts without the use of overly simplistic metaphors.

I don't think it's that, obviously everyone has the right to be upset about not achieving what they would like.

They also have the right to vent that opinion too, I think the issue is that yes it's not what you wanted, maybe you're right maybe you're wrong. But continuing to repeat add infinitum is when others have the right to show their tedium towards you.

Do they have a right to be rude, no but I can empathise their lack of patience after a while.

My friend was successful gaining a training position over me, if I was still banging on about it today I'm sure she would have been rude to me by now some 7 years later. As it is I was graceful in defeat and accepted what is meant for me won't pass me by; and history has shown it hasn't.

It's not a brexit or general election thread just a general comment on people with no empathy. It's a comment which shows little regard to the others feelings.

*But continuing to repeat add infinitum is when others have the right to show their tedium towards you.

Do they have a right to be rude, no but I can empathise their lack of patience after a while.

My friend was successful gaining a training position over me, if I was still banging on about it today I'm sure she would have been rude to me by now some 7 years later. As it is I was graceful in defeat and accepted what is meant for me won't pass me by; and history has shown it hasn't.*

But... it's been a week? If people are still posting about it in 2026 then I might then be saying 'we lost, get over it' (probably not, but I'd be able to see your point).

I guess people are shocked by the landslide, they're scared for the future, already things seem to be hitting the fan this week re comments on strikes/ the NHS etc. Are no labour supporters allowed to discuss politics on MN anymore, because they lost, and therefore need to keep quiet?

I suspect social media is to blame to some extent. Pretty sure people have always been upset or annoyed if the party they voted for didn't get a majority, it's just we never heard about it so much in the past because we didn't have the opportuinity to see so many other peoples opinions.

Certainly where I grew up people were pretty devastated in 1992. No idea how Tories felt in 1997, I didn't know any then. In 2010 I did know some Conservative voters and they were pretty smug about Labour losing. People on all sides are as bad as each other essentially.

Yes it’s rude, and yes I have said it, on this forum only. Why? Because I am sick of people, normally rabid Labour supporters or Remainers banging on and on and on about how they are right, how voting for the Torys is voting for turkeys at Christmas, how voting for Brexit is going to ruin the country, ruin the future for future generations, how anyone voting for Brexit is thick racist and so on

If Labour supporters want a discussion then fine, however looking at the posts they don’t, they just want to shout, scream, thrown tantrums and be rude to anyone who didn’t vote Labour.

In the end my frustration shows, they won’t entertain any discussion, they are right and so you have to point out Labour lost the election.

Brexit Remainers: "You lost. Get over it."

Funnily enough, that never goes down well

It's a favourite expression of Isabel Oakeshott, isn't it? Why they keep having the rude cow on Question Time, I'll never know.

'It could be worse'

when they have no idea what is wrong.

Yeah, it could be worse than one parent with rapidly advanced dementia and delusions who tells me (not knowing it's me) how much I hate her and how horrible I am to her and the other with cancer.

People aren’t just talking about it though. They’re being actively rude. Calling BJ a c**t and applying the same term to Tory voters. Saying stuff about turkeys voting for Christmas and wearing jackets with the slogan “Kill all Tories”. Protesting the fair and square result. The bizarre god-worship of JC which fails to acknowledge the problems with his socialist policies. “Thanks for giving us hope JC”, “JC we love you!”. Saying they voted for the poor, sick and weak, and any form of self concern or self preservation is disgusting. They’re being sore losers and it’s not very nice. I doubt Tory voters would be so rude and unaccepting of a democratic result if the shoe were on the other foot.

*'It could be worse'

when they have no idea what is wrong.

Yeah, it could be worse than one parent with rapidly advanced dementia and delusions who tells me (not knowing it's me) how much I hate her and how horrible I am to her and the other with cancer.*

It could be worse is such a nobbish phrase. Obviously it could be worse. So nobody is ever allowed to be upset about anything because something else even more catastrophically awful could also go wrong, so they should feel... grateful?

Yeah, I hate that too.

Yeah, I mean we all know it could be worse but when the shit hits the fan it's irrelevant really that it is worse for others, I mean I know it's worse for the families of the people injured/killed at Whaakari but it doesn't stop the shit in my life being bad. I'm sorry for what other people are going through and wish they weren't but it couldn't get much worse for me with my parents right now.

I'm not explaining this very well.