'You lost, get over it'.

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Has anybody ever said this phrase and not been a complete and utter dickhead?

I mean, would any civilised person ever use it in any other situation?

Your DH is upset as they didn't get the job they'd hoped for.

"Honestly DH, you lost. Get over it".

A friend lost out on a house they'd set their heart on.

"It's been a week now. Stop crying, and get over it, honestly".

Your kid came last at sports day.

"LOSER! Get over it, for goodness sake".

It's just so rude. Either join in with the discussion, or ignore it. Even my 4yo understands that it's rude to gloat about winning, and people won't want to play with you if you keep doing it.

I always imagine people saying it in real life, then sticking their tongue out, putting their thumb on their nose and wiggling their fingers (is there a name for this action?), proclaiming 'na na na na naaaa'.

Any other phrases that are particularly irritating to you?

NB: I know I'll get 100 posts saying 'turkeys voting for Christmas', which I guess is the equivalent stupid phrase favoured by the left. But at least they get taken the piss out of when they use it. 'You lost, get over it' seems to be a completely valid contribution to debate on MN these days.

I’ll honestly never get over Brexit, I’ve been furious about it for 3.5 years now and will be until we have another referendum which will happen and we’ll vote to go back in once all the boomers are dead.

I’ve only ever heard it said when people go on and on and blow whatever it is they lost completely out of proportion. More often than not people are rude because they’ve had enough and snapped.

Ok you won- get under it.

@nowaypose maybe you should try living out of the EU for a bit and then see how you feel? The vast majority of people I’ve met who have feelings as strong as you about the EU have never lived in the outside. It’s understandable that you should be so attached to something if it’s all you ever known but seriously, it’s not as big a deal as everyone here seems to think. It just isn’t. There is civilisation beyond the boarders of the outer member states. Don’t worry.

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Bit of a reach grin but OK. I'm against those terms being used just because of the way somebody votes. If people are actually being racist/ disablist etc. then I absolutely do think they should be called out. Not sure what that has to do with the price of fish, though.

Its not a reach at all, You asked for phrases that are irritating.

That is what I have given you.

And more often than not they are used to shutdown discussions, not to call out people's views.

I would say it if someone was being a sore loser about their football team losing. I think that's acceptable.... "well you only won because you've paid off the Ref" deserves "you lost, get over it."

I voted to remain and for labour.
I "lost" in that what and who I voted for didn't get in. My personal opinion, which I generally keep to myself, is that the country has also "lost" a lot - time will tell if I am right.
So in a way I do have to get over it. I don't like it, but it's happening.
Arguing and fighting won't et us anywhere.
There are reasons so many people voted tory/leave, and it can't possibly be because so many millions of people are racist/thick/thoughtless/selfish etc.

I've seen the phrase or variations on it several times today on here. I had a pretty poor opinion of those gloaters already so it's not likely to get much lower. Obviously that isn't going to bother them - I'm merely stating a fact.

Everyone is just sick to the back teeth of the endless whinging about it.

It is done. People do need to get over it. Rude or not that's a fact.

I had a pretty poor opinion of those gloaters already that's largely the problem to be honest. I don't look down on Labour/Corbyn supporters like that, I just dont agree with all their opinions (wjich, contary to popular belief, are not facts).

Which* cant type

If it's said to a glory seeking football supporter such as the average Manchester United follower/tourist from a suburb of Manchester such as Croydon, then perhaps just about OK.

Not OK in connection with the General Election or most things in life.

@MidnightCircus my poor opinion of the posters who I've seen using phrases like this comes from their general demeanor which was all too evident before the election. Plenty of other posters hold different beliefs to mine yet manage to post and discuss without being rude and goady.

If people can’t handle “you lost. Get over it” why are they posting about turkeys voting for Christmas?

Apparantly that's ok.,,

Oh, you meant those that post the phrase rather than Tory voters? Ok, I can get behind that. I think it works for all stripes of political thought though. I don't think it's necessary to be quite so inflammatory, and I've seen Labour and Tory voters be like that. Discuss, can get heated, but no need for abuse

I had a pretty poor opinion of those gloaters already

that's largely the problem to be honest. I don't look down on Labour/Corbyn supporters like that, I just dont agree with all their opinions (wjich, contary to popular belief, are not facts).

I think the poster may mean they don't have a high opinion of the posters in general (not related to the way they vote), and then they confirm their twattyness by parroting the phrase in question.

If so, I must say that I agree. I don't remember many MN usernames, but always notice the same handful who are continually unnecessarily rude and harsh. Like, not usefully critical and robust - but slinging insults or faux-naive digs towards distressed OPs for no reason, that kind of thing.

I suspect these people must have a google alert on any threads mentioning Boris or the Conservatives, because they're first to show up and pipe up.

Correlation, not causation obviously, but I guess if you're an insufferable idiot in general, you will be during political discussion too.

Yes. Obviously the people using it are Tory voters since they "won". Of course I expect people to have voted differently to one another in the election. I just don't like the goading and gloating.

Sorry @ilovesooty, cross post.

*If people can’t handle “you lost. Get over it” why are they posting about turkeys voting for Christmas?

Apparantly that's ok.,,*

You don't have to read the full thread, but maybe the entire OP would be helpful.

I always imagine people saying it in real life, then sticking their tongue out, putting their thumb on their nose and wiggling their fingers (is there a name for this action?), proclaiming 'na na na na naaaa'

My nan used to tell me it was called "fat bacon" and that doing it was Very Rude!

ll honestly never get over Brexit, I’ve been furious about it for 3.5 years now and will be until we have another referendum which will happen and we’ll vote to go back in once all the boomers are dead.

Every boomer I know voted remain - and the only ones who voted leave were in their 20s and 30s. Hell, even my parents in their late 80s voted remain. I agreed with you until the last bit of your sentence.

Getting really pissed off with the casual ageism on here.

I'm also still as upset by the referendum result as I was on the day. I appreciate that there is now no way to avoid leaving. I'm also of the age demographic that might have been expected to vote leave. I didn't. The few leavers I know are on the whole quite a bit younger than I am. Only one of them has behaved obnoxiously since the referendum. I've had to block him as he's set out to goad on social media - my friends he had a go at don't even know him. It was embarrassing.

And yes - "You lost : get over it" did feature heavily in his interactions.

I haven't had anyone saying that to my face, just online. I think it's childish, the kind of thing a bully would say in primary school. But I do keep on thinking 'yes I lost, but what exactly is it that you have won?'

yep

If you lose a race, even if you wont get to run again for a few years, you don't just stop running. You keep training and you get ready for the next one.

Politics doesn't just stop when the election results come in, it isn't about electing people and giving them a free pass until next time. You can be politically active without an election coming up.

If you believe in something, you don't just get over it and stop believing in it when you lose a race surely?

Obviously lamenting/gloating about the election result and namecalling from both sides doesnt really help anything, but that doesn't mean you have to stop disagreeing with people and discussing things like Brexit, the NHS, Scottish independence, reforming FPTP and all the other issues that have come up this election.