Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

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And I pondered if my words had been too bold .

Any updates OP?

OP, take the iPad with you, and pack some things, and take you and your baby and the iPad to your mum's.

Leave him a note saying you have found the messages on the iPad and have gone to stay at your mum's

When at your mum's, take photos of the texts on the ipad as I guess you'll have to give it back at some point ..

Sending you hugs and support

Lock him
Out .

Please get some space before you make any decisions. It is SO much harder to leave if you let him talk you round while you're still reeling from shock.

Good luck.

so sorry OP. Nothing anyone can say to make this any better. Can’t believe he’s done that to you and his baby. There are no words. Hope your mum looks after you and that you’ll feel better about things soon, although it’s gonna take time.

Oh OP Sending strength and love x

OP let your Mum look after you for now. You must be reeling from the shock. I agree with previous posters that it might be better to get some space from him for a while it will help you to think more clearly,

He clearly doesn't deserve you, take care

((((Madd Hugs)))) 😥🌼

OP I don't know what you've decided to do but lots of us are here for you.
Don't do anything hasty, plan what will be best for you
I'm so sorry for you.

Not sure the advice to take his iPad and charger is very sensible, tbh. As long as the OP has recorded proof of some kind, that's all she needs, without resorting to theft. OK, a chorus of "it isn't with intent permanently to deprive him of it"; but do you not think it might add fuel to the flames?
It's moot now, as the OP has gone to her mother's.

I'm so very sorry this is happening to you OP

Leave him. If you've been together this long and he's done this. He's a cheat and probably not for the first time.

My boyfriend is outraged and so upset for you. He says your partner is beyond selfish and cruel and the first year of a baby's life is one of the happiest times and he has spoilt it for you all. Hugs xxx

Thinking of you op

Oh op I really feel for you right in top of your Ds first Christmas
I fucking hate some people thought. Why he in a relationship just to cheat I don't see the point

If this was me I wouldn't of acted so calm so I praise you for that I really do

My XP was all over social media talki tongirls numerous times behind my back and he didn't stop it. In the end i found he slept with a girl who was a few years below me in school whilst I was at hospital with our dD
Il be honest I seen red when I got the text from a friend with the prof and telling me as he didn't an sat their lieing to my face being a happy family. So I Punched him in the face and got out his car an locked him out. Clothes out the window an that was it.... in this case I probably would of joined the chat from the iPad as I was packing his bags or something lol
I just hope your okay. Your not the only one going through these kind of things that's why mners are here for you. Your strong and I mean very strong to hold it in and be calm about it. You'll figure out what's best in the end I just hope you do what's best for you and get the answers you want xxxx

Nothing to add but just wanted to say, so sorry you are going through this. Stay around your Mum and family that love you. They will be a great source of support. Xx

At least bigbaubles & barchester have each other.

FFS.

@Beebeezed

Don’t even think about ‘trying to work this out’. Your self esteem will end up ground into the dirt. Any man that can do this for a year, through a pregnancy & new baby, isn’t going to change. You’re far better off facing that now & getting rid, than putting yourself through the hell of ‘trying to make it work’.

Be a little wary...family & friends will often try to keep you together because no one likes change & they want you to go back to how it was. But you can’t, it will never be how it was. It’s hell, don’t put yourself through it!

💐it won’t seem like it right now, but you WILL be ok, you WILL cope and you WILL find happiness again. DS will be fine with his lovely mummy.

We all feel embarrassed, humiliated, ‘not good enough’ because that’s what society told us for years, but it’s not us, it’s them and the sooner we make it abourvtheir inadequacies the better.

Head up - he’s the twat, not you!

Op, thinking of you and sending love and

Have reported Barchester’s deeply obnoxious post.

As hard as it is, try to remain calm. You will need your 'rational head' on. Don't let him know that you know, not right now. Wait until you've had time to think things through and made your exit plan.

Hope you're at your mum's now and she's looking after you.