Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

[Beebeezed]

Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

That sucks OP.

Trash. Every last one of them.

I am thinking of you at this heartbreaking time.
You have had some good advice, take your baby and stay at your mums and work out how to deal with this prick. Take his iPad and gather evidence.
Take all important documents with you.
Let him stew.

Be very gentle with yourself and try not to get overwhelmed.

Sorry that’s clearly aimed at Barchester

Wow these lovely comments have kept me going. Thank you all.

I didn’t want to leave last night because my baby was asleep and I didn’t want to wake him and unsettle him. My mum came over and we talked and cried until the early hours. He came back at 3am, drunk and went straight to bed in his suit. Me and Mum were on the sofa but he was so drunk didn’t realise I wasn’t in the bed. I started packing my things at around 4, my son woke up at 5 and we left. I’m now in my mums car on the way her house. I left the iPad next to my ex boyfriend with a post it note on the screen saying ‘I know’ so when he wakes up he knows why I’ve left. I’m glad I didn’t confront him last night as I would have been emotional and I want to be clear headed when I do deal with him. Obviously he will be seeing his son and my mums agreed to be the middle person. I’ve got all the screenshots and the OW number. Searched her number on WhatsApp, she’s pretty. Unsure at the moment if I’ll message her I think I’ll wait a few days. I’m not sure why but today I feel calm. I’ve not slept so my mums going to take baby when we get to hers and I’m going to try to.

I can’t thank you all enough.

Sending lots of love OP. So sorry you're going through this shit.

❤️ you're so strong and will be such a role model to your child. Well done you.
Get some rest. You have a lot of support and thoughts here xx

Ahhh op keep strong lovely. You deserve better

You've handled that perfectly OP. Sending you lots of strength.

I’m so sorry op you have done amazingly well to keep it together. Let your mum look after you and take care

Op that's just awful , I'm so sorry your going through this xx

So sorry you’re going through this OP. Stay strong and take care of yourself

Just remember when he comes crawling back saying how sorry he is - he is sorry he got caught.

🙁 I really feel for you OP. What a bastard. You and your baby don't deserve this. You've done the right thing x x x

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Your Mum sounds lovely. Stay strong x

What has he been texting her on. When I'm out my text messages don't sync on my iPad until they are on the same WiFi network so interested how you were seeing his? Has he been using a different app?

Also...he has been amazingly careless leaving all his messages for the last 18 months on there. Do you think he wanted to get caught or something?

This is awful , you must be heartbroken . I'm glad you have found out now though, before your child is old enough to notice his father leaving the home. That man doesn't deserve you.
As broken as you feel now, with time you will move on and find happiness again. With a decent loyal man.

So sorry OP , stay strong and look after yourself.

@MarieG10 that will just be your settings. my husband's texts all come through to the family iPad whilst he's at work. Fortunately he leads an extremely boring life.

Well done lovely. Hope you can get some rest today.

@Beebeezed well done you for being so strong and well done to your mum for being such a loving support.

Best wishes for your future for you and your little man. I’m positive it will be much brighter without that absolute dickwad 💐

Well done, you did the right thing and handled it well. I hope you manage to get a little sleep today xx

@Beebeezed you have dealt with this perfectly. Please try and sleep. Sending love. Be strong. ❤️

Well done for staying calm, get some rest and take it a day at a time. Or an hour at a time, if that’s what it takes. Your mum sounds amazing

Amazing OP: you've been so calm and together. You rock.

So sorry you're going through this but you sound absolutely badass and you are totally doing the right thing.

Sending you strength to get through the next few tough days. Please don't cave in when he starts laying it on. You have a great future without this piece of shit.