To be cross that childminder won’t take DD because I’m ill?

[Rainallnight]

DS had hand, foot and mouth recently. I have it just now. DD and DP seem perfectly fine.

Other parents have put pressure on our childminder, saying they’re worried about hand, foot and mouth because of DD (who is well!). Childminder has said she won’t take DD this week as a result.

I can absolutely see that people might be worried so close to Christmas, but I think not taking a kid who is perfectly well is really a bit much.

I think I’m just upset because I’ve been poorly, my DM is seriously ill, I’m behind on Christmas and we have zero family or any other support so my childminder is it. I think I feel a bit let down.

AIBU?

When I had hand foot and mouth as an adult the doctor quarantined me at home and said I couldn’t leave the house for a week

He did that contrary to NHS advice.
The OP’s DD doesn’t have hand, foot and mouth anyway. So no need to quarantine.

TBH, this is why I have always used nurseries, I cannot be doing with one person making up shit like this on a whim.

Not sure about that, nurseries and indeed schools can be entirely whimsical about exclusions - DS’ primary school refused to have him in with conjunctivitis, even though he was entirely well and the PHE guidance is no exclusion necessary. (I assume this is very normal, since the GP - in a busy London practice where DS could quite feasibly have attended any one of 10+ schools locally - warned me that the school would probably refuse to have him in.)

OP - YANBU, and in combination with the lack of contract I’d probably be looking around for a replacement. Probably. Would depend also on what the available alternatives are though, and also how my child was otherwise settled with the childminder - I wouldn’t move a happy, settled child unless I was very certain it was necessary. Reliability of childcare is important, yes (because otherwise what’s the point), but a good relationship between child and caregiver is the most important of all IMO.

Not sure about that, nurseries and indeed schools can be entirely whimsical about exclusions - DS’ primary school refused to have him in with conjunctivitis, even though he was entirely well and the PHE guidance is no exclusion necessary. (I assume this is very normal, since the GP - in a busy London practice where DS could quite feasibly have attended any one of 10+ schools locally - warned me that the school would probably refuse to have him in.)

A quick call to the school nurse, and pointing to PHE guidelines, and the illegal exclusion for your child from his education should sort that for you. Whereas with an individual, you have no higher authority to appeal to (for sense).