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He wont have tory voting grandparents over for xmas

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Smilebehappy123 · 14/12/2019 23:35

As it says in the title
DH refusing to have my grandparents for xmas dinner, says he cant stand to have xmas dinner with them as they shared with us yesterday that they voted tory , we are both very left wing and have always voted labour
Not only does he not want to have xmas dinner with them he doesn't want to socialise at all with them.
What can I do ? Grandfather is very political so this topic will be brought up
Dh says he cant stand the selfish old bastards and doesn't want to know them

OP posts:
LovePoppy · 15/12/2019 12:06

@LookingforLemons Family is more important than politics. perhaps you’d like to explain this to the grandparents?

Unusualusernames · 15/12/2019 12:09

I don't blame him at all.

CrossingTheAlpsInOtley · 15/12/2019 12:10

There is a movement afoot to swamp the Labour Party with new members-proper Labour Party supporters.

The aim of this is to make sure that members vote in a proper Labour Leader, not a Momentum Cult leader, which will wipe Labour off the face of the political map.

Anyone who hates the parasites who have taken over this great party, used it for their own ends and, in the process, made it suffer a humiliating defeat, should join the Labour Party and help to outnumber these champagne swilling, 'woke' Islington overgrown teenagers.

AllideasAndNoAction · 15/12/2019 12:11

OMG RTFT people

Why? What difference would it make? The OP stated very clearly in her first post that her DH didn't want to host them because 'they shared with us yesterday that they voted Tory.'

It sounds as though this information wasn't entirely expected, so it's hard to see it as anything other than her DH throwing his toys out of the pram in an angry huff.

If they've always been been insufferable, obnoxious bigots then that's a different matter altogether, but she really should have said that at the beginning. The fact that they just arseholes has been drip fed after being told that her DH was acting like a spoilt child.

Question is, if they were arseholes who'd voted Labour do you think the DH would be kicking up a stink about them right now? I doubt it somehow.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 15/12/2019 12:11

I don't blame him.
Who wants to have some bigoted twats spouting on about feckless poor people, and twatting on about the current situation being a "good thing that they voted for" on Christmas Day?
Way to ruin what's supposed to be a happy family celebration.

If only they could be relied on to STFU then it would be a different story but it doesn't sound like that's the case, so I cannot blame him for not wanting them there.

SarahNade · 15/12/2019 12:12

@CrossingTheAlpsInOtley

Wow. People who were concerned about how they would survive, and how their disabled children would survive (of COURSE they were interested in their own survival!), wanted something for 'free'. Really, they only want to SURVIVE! The rest of your post is pure spite, hard-hearted ignorance and hateful extremism, ultra far right conservative extremism characterised by the tell-tale sign of 'woke agenda'. It's obvious how dangerously extreme you are. You and your ilk of hard-hearted, nasty, spiteful and unChristian people are the very reason the tories and the leavers have the bad reputation you have. You demonstrate the true evil essence perfectly. As I said, too far gone. Your post makes you sound like the lunatic.

I feel sorry for you, it must be lonely being you. I wonder what makes a person so hard-hearted, so cruel, so spiteful and gleeful in the fact that the poor and the disabled will lose out. That just to SURVIVE, is apparently 'wanting something free'. You are too far gone to debate with, your mind is closed, your heart is closed. Like 99% of tories. Bye.

CrossingTheAlpsInOtley · 15/12/2019 12:16

@SarahNade.

Time for you to stop, being hysterical, resorting to hyperbole, made up statistics and grow up a little.

Are you a secret Tory? I think you might be because you-and others liked you-handed Boris the election on a plate.

…..And you know you did, hence the screams now.

PunkAssMoFo · 15/12/2019 12:17

Not RTFT, but I always think that it’s quite ironic how extreme lefties are so intolerant of people having different opinions. Very closed minded.

He obviously has no respect for them or the fact that they have lived in a different generation and have life experiences which are of another era. In your shoes I would tell DH that grandparents are coming, but he is welcome to go out if he is not feeling charitable to the elderly.

SarahNade · 15/12/2019 12:18

I never mentioned any 'statistics', made up or otherwise. You are now sounding truly unhinged, and need to grow up. Someone who thinks there aren't poor and disabled people truly scared right now and who dismisses it as 'hyperbole' is not living in reality and living in their own make believe fantasy.

tinkerbellla · 15/12/2019 12:20

I've heard it all now. He sounds like a bit of a knob. I vote differently to my husband and his family, we just keep our views to ourselves. It's not that hard, especially for one day. Your poor grandparents! Xx

ZandathePanda · 15/12/2019 12:22

We stopped communicating with an elderly aunt and uncle. She had a brain tumour and a facial disfigurement. They lived alone and had no children.

They were vile. I got ‘told off’ on mumsnet for a similar post to OP.

Their views were the same as OPs relatives. The final straw was them taking the mickey out of FIL and taunting him for forgetting things and crying (he has dementia).

Why on earth would you want these people in your home? Tell them as soon as possible though so they can make other arrangements.

goodwinter · 15/12/2019 12:22

Yep I think your thread title really buried the lede.

Would I cut out my GP for voting Tory? No, of course not. Would I stop speaking to them if they acted like yours, according to your other comments? Absolutely. They sound vile and imo your husband has had some really unfair treatment on this thread.

MarionberryJam · 15/12/2019 12:24

Oh what drama. But do not despair!!! It's really quite simple... just show your grandparents this thread you created to bash them unmercifully and I'm sure your grandparents will happily do the right thing and never darken your doorstep again. Perhaps highlight all of your comments to be sure they don't miss any of the juiciest and therefore MOST hurtful remarks. What good is it to talk trash about old folks if they don't know about it? Especially your own grandparents. Don't be shy. Be loud! Be proud! Be as hateful as you can be!!! They deserve it, right?

And what better time than Christmas to let them know what you really think of them? Best Christmas present EVER! They are so blessed to have such a kind, compassionate and principled granddaughter.

shinynewapplesonachristmastree · 15/12/2019 12:24

Surely Christmas from as far back as any of us know it has involved family meals whereby elderly and young don't share the same views BUT in the spirit of the season we all bite our tongues, discuss the things we have in common and try to skate over the things we don't .

It's one meal. Your DH needs to grow up. Encourage him to be in kitchen duty so he spends less time in their company.

Getting on with people we don't agree with us a life skill everyone needs to learn as at some point this will come up in a professional situation.

ZandathePanda · 15/12/2019 12:24

...and just before I get slated again the taunting was daily and send FIL into decline.

Trewser · 15/12/2019 12:25

I've only read the OP. It made me laugh. If its true then the dh sounds unhinged.

WotchaTalkinBoutWillis · 15/12/2019 12:25

You are too far gone to debate with, your mind is closed, your heart is closed. Like 99% of tories. Bye

The irony of this statement Confused
I'm not even a Tory either.
Talk about closing yourself off to others.

CrossingTheAlpsInOtley · 15/12/2019 12:26

what is 99 per cent of Tories then....that is a statistic....I know you made it up but you have offered it as a statistic.

Come now, most of what you say is hyperbole and hysterical. I'm afraid it is. That is just a fact.

It does you no good to be yelling at me or anyone. Stop it. You are not s good advertisement for the Labour Party, although you are a good illustration for Momentum and why it has to be stopped.

There is no room for an anti-Semite, aggressive, lunatic Woke movement in the Labour Party.

Trewser · 15/12/2019 12:27

Is there a massive drip feed?

Because Dh says he cant stand the selfish old bastards and doesn't want to know them is hilariously ott

YouJustDoYou · 15/12/2019 12:28

Nasty, aggressive people like your dh are one of the many reasons people were utterly put off voting for such a nasty party. He is extremely immature.

PhilSwagielka · 15/12/2019 12:29

'Woke agenda'? What do you mean? Is this something to do with trans people?

Hoppinggreen · 15/12/2019 12:29

Trewser (and others)
Sounds from subsequent posts that the GPS are generally vile, how they voted is the least of it

tillytrotter1 · 15/12/2019 12:29

I don't blame him at all.

What a comment typical of your kind of person, my way or the highway! Why do you not believe in democracy? Is it such a strange concept to you?

SarahNade · 15/12/2019 12:30

The truth is 'hyperbole and hysterical' for those who don't have to worry about how they are going to survive, how they will feed and clothe their children, how they will handle a child with real disabilities when funding is cut even further. How nice it must be to stick your fingers in your ears and ignore the fact that not everyone is as fortunate as you. A perfect illustration of the type ultra far right extremist who denies the realities of what others have to go through. Hmm

CrossingTheAlpsInOtley · 15/12/2019 12:32

Oh dear.

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