He wont have tory voting grandparents over for xmas

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As it says in the title
DH refusing to have my grandparents for xmas dinner, says he cant stand to have xmas dinner with them as they shared with us yesterday that they voted tory , we are both very left wing and have always voted labour
Not only does he not want to have xmas dinner with them he doesn't want to socialise at all with them.
What can I do ? Grandfather is very political so this topic will be brought up
Dh says he cant stand the selfish old bastards and doesn't want to know them

There's no more intolerant than those who claim to be inclusive and caring. Your dh sounds like a complete dick and I think if it was my dh it would cause me to love him less and even start to reconsider the relationship

I’m quite surprised by the responses. I’m with your DH. If they make him uncomfortable in his own home on Christmas Day by starting arguments they know will upset him, then I would be uninviting them too.

I think unless they are rabidly racist or anything like that, one has to respect their right to choose who to vote for.

My grandparents could vote for the BNP and I'd still invite them into my house. I'd buy them The Sun or The Daily Mail. I don't give a fuck, they are my grandparents, I'm not going to cause issues with them, I want a peaceful relationship until the pass away with no unnecessary aggro.

we live in a democracy people are entitled to make mistakes & even have views different to your own. Just be a peace maker and say - we won't discuss politics today because it makes me unhappy & its Christmas -lets just be a family together -that's all

DH needs to grow up. Society and family is made up of people with a range of views. That's what democracy is all about. He needs to accept that not all people share his extreme left wing views. This includes people you love as members of your family. He sounds immature and bitter.

I haven't read the full 16 pages but I'm assuming you won't accept any inheritance from these wealthy old grandparents, should any come your way?

What an utter clown 😂

He does realise it wasn't just your grandparents that voted Tory it was the majority of the country right ?

Not true 13 million people voted Tory.
10million Labour
3.5million Lib Dem’s
1.2 million SNP
800000k Greens
Etc

So the majority of voters didn’t vote Tory.

And this is the exact problem with the New-Left.

Total contempt for those with different views to them and an unwillingness to understand others Points of views.

They sound like cunts and I'm with your DH.

Just be a peace maker and say - we won't discuss politics today because it makes me unhappy & its Christmas -lets just be a family together -that's all

@mumwon RTFT. The GPs won't agree to that.

This is interesting, do tell us more...

My parents sound like watered down versions of your grandparents and we will be spending christmas together.

We have a no politics rule. Yes, it can be challenging, but sometimes you just have to suck it up and move forward.

It's interesting that the thread started with him not wanting them around purely as they voted Tory, but as the responses were calling him out they are now extremely vocal with a lot of nasty opinions.

Maybe compromise and go and visit them instead. Then you can leave when you’ve had enough of them. No point risking a big falling out.

I do hope you ALL have a most miserable day - you deserve each other!

What a twat. Politics aren't worth disowning family over, especially if they're older and you don't know how long you have left with them. I did briefly kind of fall out with my stepmum over stuff she posted on FB about Brexit around the time of the vote, I suppose.

It's classic that politics is one of the things family might argue about at xmas- it's only a day/afternoon out of his life at the end of the day. I'll be friends with people with any political views.

If I were you I'd put my foot down and say they're coming.

People slating the DH haven't read the updates. GPs sound absolutely awful.

@GinFizzExtraGin 'We have a no politics rule.'

That sounds like a good idea.

Or fake a contagious illness the day before eg vomiting and diarrhoea, just this once. At least they are together - that way you can still ‘keep the peace’ for the long term while avoiding this Christmas.

Is there someone on GransNet worrying about spending Xmas with their intolerant, humourless, leftie grandson-in-law?

Ah yes, that classic Christmas joke of “poverty isn’t real” and all poor people are drug addicted scum. Tee hee!

The fact that so many of you would happily tolerate hearing this sort of shit over Christmas dinners says far more about you than the OP in question.

I don’t have grandparents to share Christmas with, or parents - that doesn’t mean I go around telling people they shouldn’t go no contact with toxic relatives. I haven’t had any contact with my father for 25 years - if someone told me I should spend time with him because other people don’t have their fathers, it wouldn’t be pretty.

Other family members have cut her GP off for a reason, including their own child.

What a PP said about ‘divide and conquer’ is so true, but blimey these folks do sound hard to love! Often (but not always) people with such startling views are (and this is just personal experience) professed Christians, so you could play the ‘no politics on this holy day’ card. You could gird your loins and offer calm and factual refutations of their assumptions (percentage of fully employed people needing food banks, for example). I wonder, though, unless one of their charms is complete social obliviousness, I guess they see your reaction? Is there an element of them deciding to wield power as the people who might cut you out of the inheritance?

There can’t be a no politics rule because the GPS will flout it loudly at every opportunity.

The hard left and the hard right are as bad as each other. Intolerant, self righteous and lacking in ability to compromise.