He wont have tory voting grandparents over for xmas

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As it says in the title
DH refusing to have my grandparents for xmas dinner, says he cant stand to have xmas dinner with them as they shared with us yesterday that they voted tory , we are both very left wing and have always voted labour
Not only does he not want to have xmas dinner with them he doesn't want to socialise at all with them.
What can I do ? Grandfather is very political so this topic will be brought up
Dh says he cant stand the selfish old bastards and doesn't want to know them

To themselves, obviously.

They should still come but could you request that nobody discusses politics on Christmas Day (I’m sure lots of people would thank you!)

I would uninvite them - tell them the whole family is going to volunteer at a homeless shelter and they are welcome to join you there

Sounds like you already agree with your dh. Nope it's childish. People have the right to vote for whoever they wish, it would be ridiculous to not invite them because of that In my opinion.

How sad :( I understand disagreeing with someone and feeling strongly about not voting Tory but they are still your grandparents. As an adult you are so lucky to have grandparents even if they do hold some sad view ie their comment about poverty and homelessness. We are all entitled to vote how we want to vote and they did what they thought was best. Christmas is a time for family,

@RedWineIsFabulous: seriously, RTFF, or at least OP's posts. Is OP's DH really behaving like a cunt not wanting people as objectionable as this ruining Christmas for everyone?

Tell him to grow the hell up. Is he 15? Others not allowed to have a different opinion? What an idiot your husband is.

I haven't read the full 16 pages but I'm assuming you won't accept any inheritance from these wealthy old grandparents, should any come your way?

My guess is that DH realised your grandparents are probably going to spend Christmas gloating about the election and goading you both, given your GF’s previous behaviour, and he can’t face a Christmas like that.

I don’t blame him, your GP sound rude and nasty. However, it’s pretty late to disinvite people. How about setting clear boundaries of No Politics and that you will drive them straight home if they start. And follow through.

Failing that, as a PP suggested, tell them you’ve decided to have a vegan Christmas Day, do they still want to come? That should frighten the buggers off

YANBU to not invite them if they will discuss politics and ruin Christmas Day- I.e. are not reasonable people.

I wouldn’t refuse to have people over just because they voted Tory but to be forced to hear ignorant cruel and probably racist views wouldn’t be something I could handle.

Your DH sounds like a idiot! LTB

Sorry but I'm on his side - having to sit with someone who laughs at Iceland adverts and genuinely thinks poverty is self inflicted. Nah.

Did you have wasps for breakfast?

Love this!

If this is for real, then I’m horrified that the OP can’t make her own mind up and why did she invite such very rich horrible people for Christmas? Your title and opening post are deliberately goady with a massive drip feed about how awful your very well off and nc with the rest of the family gps are. Tell me again why you invited them in the first place? 🤔

Tell him to grow the hell up. Is he 15? Others not allowed to have a different opinion? What an idiot your husband is

Do try reading the OP's OP. That would be the one where the GP will be up for it.

@midnightmisssuki : growing up might also include reading all OP's posts before responding. It clearly isn't just a matter of having different opinions.

So there! 😝 Just read that back and see if you can see how pathetic and childish that sounds.

Yes. It's not usually my style to gloat but after three years of being called a thick, small minded racist who is too ill educated and economically illiterate to understand what I voted for, I'm a tad weary.

Gosh, some people really don't like their views being called into question, do they?

I don't mind that at all. I welcome challenging debate. I would just appreciate it if Labour voters and Remainers could learn to do it without dismissing and patronising the working classes and the older generation. I'd like them to debate without sneering, name calling, insulting, shaming, slurring and villifying the rest of us.

I've listening quietly and politely to it for too long. I'm sick to the back teeth of it now. I think that if this week has taught you anything, it's that your arrogance repels people and your faux moral superiority doesn't stand up to scrutiny. Listen to Caroline Flint. She gets it. You've offended and insulted millions of decent, ordinary people who care deeply about the future of their country. You lost. You lost spectacularly, and it's time for you shut the fuck up, sit down and have a quiet think about why.

I quite admire your DH - there are consequences to all behaviour and being Tories and all that implies - racism, sexism, complete lack of empathy for vulnerable members of our community etc. - would exclude anyone from my Christmas table too.

Very juvenile of your DH, OP.

I expect he'd like the inheritance though?

I don't understand what's happening in this country. It's almost as if the game plan was to divide and conquer... and we're seemingly too stupid to overcome the nastiness and just look after people as we individually, and as groups, always have.

No wonder we're a laughing stock.

'have rules now for Tory family members- if you raise politics then don’t be surprised when I tell you exactly what I think of your behaviour (don’t raise it and I won’t)-Don’t bring the Daily Fail into my house'

Do people really live like this. Is The Sun and The Mirror ok? Do you check who they like on twitter too, vet their FB likes?

You should learn to respect other people's views and if they 'bring it up' talk about it like a grown up. I know both Labour and Conservative voters, I couldn't imagine ever being so ridiculous as to have these 'rules'.

Both your grandparents sound awful. I would not want them spoiling my Christmas Day either. I feel sorry for your DH

Is there someone on GransNet worrying about spending Xmas with their intolerant, humourless, leftie grandson-in-law?

You’re focusing on the wrong thing. Your thread title should be “He won’t have rude opinionated bigoted people in our house at Christmas”

It’s nothing to do with them being Tory voters. My PIL and half the siblings-in-law voted Tory and Leave. BIL and his wife are Lexiters. We’re left-ish remainers and currently devastated by the outcome of the election.

However all these people are lovely and kind and we have far more in common than divides us, so spending time together at Christmas is a highlight of the year. We don’t ignore politics, but we tread softly.

To be honest I can’t understand why you are happy to have these people in your life. They sound very unpleasant.