People arriving unannounced at your house

[SellMySoulForMoreSleep]

I am wondering if AIBU but a neighbour knocked at my door this afternoon and asked herself and her daughter in. I hate this, my house is often messy and it was no different this afternoon as I was trying to sort some Christmas stuff. I couldn't say no because it was cold and they were waiting for someone with keys to arrive at their house plus I'm not that rude to refuse them.

Just for the record if this was a close friend or family they would be totally welcome.

I think that you'll find that most "small villages" are much more sociable and community minded than a large city, so it just doesn't ring true.

Well I live in a massive City, and have always been neighbourly myself, and received "neighbourly-ness" from my neighbours wherever I have lived. Like others, a knock on the door automatically triggers putting the kettle on here, and I am really shocked at the numbers on MN who wouldn't help a neighbour out (or a stranger), if the need was there. What a sad world some of you must live in.

The main reason people are against someone popping in without notice is in case the person judges their mess, however they are much less likely to judge you harshly if you are doing them a favour by letting them shelter while locked out. It will be more likely they judge you favourably as a kind person.

I have a lovely pub at the end of my road open from 10 am to 11pm 7 nights a week. I or any of my neighbours would wait in the pub if there was any problem getting getting in as half the street would be there anyway!

Anyway I don't much care for people popping in but can't get worked up about it. House is a mess and I'm in my pjs but oh well.

I despise people turning up unannounced. It happens of course and I can’t be rude but I’m so peed off about it in my head.

I like to be organised if people come over. Generally people turn up unannounced when the house is looking the worst here. Or when I have groceries everywhere or something.

Mil has a different view. she doesn’t mind people turning up at her house which is fine but she thinks she can do the same to us, turning up. It causes me so much anxiety.

I don't mind helping out a neighbour when she forgets her keys and needs to wait for her son. But she has pelvic floor problems and pees on my settee as well as the up and down to the lav. Then doesn't tell me. The first time I sat in it before I realised.

I'm looking for the perfect way to politely put something under her before see sits down if anyone has any ideas.