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questionquestion1 · 13/12/2019 23:48

Have been very very badly hurt by now ex boyfriend.

I want him to suffer in the way I have and am suffering.

People always say 'oh karma will catch up with them,' in such situations but I have never ever seen that happen. Bad people always seem to get away with things, damage others and suffer no consequences.

I also do not believe that you get revenge by 'living your best life' which is an often trotted out line.

So this is not about whether I should or shouldn't seek revenge, I know for sure I want to; I'm just looking for inspiration from others who have done likewise who can share inspiration.

He does not have a car here so cannot key it and are not in the same house so cannot put tuna in the curtains or whatever it is, so just looking for other ideas.

(Name change for obvious reason; I can assure you my post is real.)

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Butterflycookie · 13/12/2019 23:51

Dump a a great huge pile of manure in front of his house.

toodlethenoodle · 13/12/2019 23:52

Is this post serious?

He must be glad you have split up. You sound absolutely mental.

youcancallmequeenE · 13/12/2019 23:56

Don't do it. It won't make you feel any better. It will just prolong the negative and bitter feeling you're harbouring.

toodlethenoodle · 13/12/2019 23:57

Go ahead and plot whatever revenge you want but when your caught on CCTV/dash cam or suspected as having acted out your reputation will be over. If an ex was this petty and childish with me I would come down on them with the full force of the law behind me as my revenge.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 13/12/2019 23:58

I know you're hurting but it's really not the right thing to do.Te PP is right - it will prolong the negative feelings.

Concentrate on yourself and getting past whatever he's done.

ScreamingValalalalahLalalalah · 13/12/2019 23:58

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Wait a year and see if you still feel the same.

HamAndPineapple · 13/12/2019 23:58

Live well and heal, of course. Yeh yeh yeh.
But, throwing a sandbag overboard in the meantime helps.

I suggest a postcard to his work. Something embarrassing. What is he sensitive about?

Thank you for joining AA, weightwatchers/ gamblers anonymous/living positively+
Whatever will embarrass him.

PawPawNoodle · 14/12/2019 00:01

Shag his dad.

Dazedandconfused10 · 14/12/2019 00:01

Shopped my ex to the police for growing cannabis.... so I bloody love revenge.

VanyaHargreeves · 14/12/2019 00:02

My sister has been on the receiving end of post break up extreme prank nastiness. She had to call the police it was so extreme.

It's a really intimidating thing to do to someone.

Let it go. Ill wish him if you must but don't do something that could backfire on you.

BenevolentEzza · 14/12/2019 00:02

I've often wondered where the likes of Take A Break, Best and Real Lives! etc... get their stories from.

Now I know! They troll forums with ridiculous scenarios and sit back and wait for real people to post their experiences.

Lazy, but it sells terrible magazines I guess.

justilou1 · 14/12/2019 00:04

Find someone fitter, younger, richer, with a bigger dick. Have fabulous, multiple orgasms. You will look happy and radiant and you will forget all about the fucker. People will comment about this and he will hear about it and feel like shit.

pigsDOfly · 14/12/2019 00:04

You can't make him suffer in the way you are suffering, or hurt him in the way he has hurt you because clearly you are hurting emotionally; he has clearly withdrawn from you emotionally.

How do you think it doing something nasty to him is going to make you feel better or help you to move on? It won't.

You might think you're getting revenge but you could end up hurting yourself far more than him if you end up in court.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop obsessing about him.

SillyMoomin · 14/12/2019 00:05

Send a Glitter bomb

www.glitterretribution.co.uk

But equally... honestly op, walking away with your head held high is the better option, no matter how trite it looks written down

sugarplumtum · 14/12/2019 00:05

He has to care about you for it to work, otherwise it's just proof that you are crazy and he was right to dump you.

cabbageking · 14/12/2019 00:24

The best revenge is to move on and make your life a success in another avenue. Make something positive come out of it. Show him what he is missing out on.

Revenge just confirms he made a wise choice ending the relationship and that you are petty and mean.

Rezaminelli · 14/12/2019 00:28

Don't do it. If you must, just send a glitterbomb as already mentioned.

Be grateful he can't hurt you any more and give yourself time to heal.

Let him be someone else's problem and hope he finds someone that treats him how he treated you.

questionquestion1 · 14/12/2019 00:32

toodle

Gosh you sound as 'lovely' as him.

Yes, I clearly stated that this was genuine.

I am not 'mental' - I am deeply

People not being allowed to do bad things is a basic of society.
But doing bad things aren't always just what is against the law. On forums here I see over and over threads such as 'My husband cheated on me 4 times whilst I was pregnant' or such. No it's not illegal, but it's certainly not right.
Why should people always get away with doing bad things just because they are not illegal?

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questionquestion1 · 14/12/2019 00:33

Sorry, typo,
That should say, I am not 'mental' - but am deeply hurt.

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gypsywater · 14/12/2019 00:34

Get loads of gay porn sent to his house or work

Golightly133 · 14/12/2019 00:36

Don’t lower yourself honestly you will end up looking like a crank. Chalk it up to experience and move on enjoy your life x x

Time40 · 14/12/2019 00:36

Revenge is a dish best served cold. Wait a year and see if you still feel the same

It's absolutely true. It really is. This is good advice, OP.

BrickTop999 · 14/12/2019 00:38

Ive never ever sought revenge on any ex boyfriend or husband. Never could be bothered tbh - whats the point !!!
Live for today and enjoy life
But I sought revenge on an ex employer and it made me a millionaire Grin

questionquestion1 · 14/12/2019 00:39

gypsy

Oh I like that one.

Thank you for making me smile.

That would def ruffle his feathers.

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InnisandGunn · 14/12/2019 00:39

Not ashamed to say I rubbed my partner's toothbrush round the toilet seat, that was right at the end. When I just found out he was cheating I locked him our of his Facebook, wrote a status and tagged the girl in it. Let him back in after an hour or so, once enough people had seen it. I was an awful lot younger, but I really do not regret that one in the slightest. The least the dickhead deserved.

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