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Have been very very badly hurt by now ex boyfriend.

I want him to suffer in the way I have and am suffering.

People always say 'oh karma will catch up with them,' in such situations but I have never ever seen that happen. Bad people always seem to get away with things, damage others and suffer no consequences.

I also do not believe that you get revenge by 'living your best life' which is an often trotted out line.

So this is not about whether I should or shouldn't seek revenge, I know for sure I want to; I'm just looking for inspiration from others who have done likewise who can share inspiration.

He does not have a car here so cannot key it and are not in the same house so cannot put tuna in the curtains or whatever it is, so just looking for other ideas.

(Name change for obvious reason; I can assure you my post is real.)

Swap all shower gel for the extreme mint variety, of course you camo the bottles. No one likes super fresh tingly balls op!

Hangin

We're not living together so rules that out, thanks for suggestion though.

Meh. You can send him a literal pile of shit in the mail or paint his house windows black or steal his cat. It won’t make you feel better though. In fact in a year or two you’ll feel like shit for doing it.

Best revenge is to get over him as soon as possible and find someone better.
I’m saying it as someone who got revenge on 2 exes by getting them back and dumping them in the most cruel way. They also both now dead of heart related problems (1 died at 32, the other at 49, so not exactly time yet) and I’m angry that I even bothered. I wasted at least 2 years of my life plotting this shit.

Just don’t, seriously.

People can get hurt in relationships. I agree with leaving it a year, but I really hope in a year's time he is just a distant irrelevant memory.

That should say ex partner

Why don't you explain what he did and then people may give better advice

Op, he won't give a shit.

Move on

Dog poo in a paper bag. Put it on his doorstep (not too close!) and set it on fire, then ring the doorbell and run. When/if he tries to stamp out the fire he gets dog poo all over his foot.

@BrickTop999 how did you get to be a millionaire?!

I know what it feels like to be massively unfairly hurt. But I think it’s a dark nasty path to plot revenge. No matter how justified
and how do we know you are justified?

I don’t know, I’ve been on the receiving end of my husband cheating on me for ‘revenge’ on me, because I’d dared to have an opinion on something. He felt totally justified. It’s incredibly damaging!

This:
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You'll never see the result, but you'll know it happened

I was in a similar situation, many years ago.
He was very vain about his hair.
So I put a certain brand of hair remover in his shampoo bottle.
Not proud of it but, in my defence, I was very much younger.

I know where you're coming from. It's been 10 years and I still will not be face-to-face with my ex.

I could have wreaked revenge in multiple ways, and I didn't. This is because not having anything at all whatsoever to do with him is much better for my head, and always will be.

Obviously I don't know, but I'm guessing the same would be true for you OP.

Plan your revenge to the last detail, write it all down and then burn the paper. There's something very cathartic in the act of writing while burning the evidence not only protects you, it symbolises getting rid of your pain and anger. Just don't burn yourself! Take a metal waste paper basket outside, well away from anything flammable, put your MS in and watch it burn! 🔥

Why invest so much of your thoughts and energy in someone who doesn't give a fuck about you?

Warmfire

You don't naturally.

He has treated me very very badly. Even others have said so. It has torn me apart and it is not fair that he carries on as though nothing has happened. I admit my flaws but I have never ever been so cruel as he has to me. I would have done anything for him.

You might believe, me you might not.

Sign him up for every flyer/catalogue/ you can. To his home not his email, lots of emails sort spam so he probably won’t see it. Also sign him up as being interested in credit card offers. Also sign him up for loads of carpet and tile samples but I’m not sure if you may have to pay shipping. It sounds weird but if u repeatedly send tile samples it gets to be quite annoying.

People always say 'oh karma will catch up with them,' in such situations but I have never ever seen that happen. Bad people always seem to get away with things, damage others and suffer no consequences.

I can assure you that is not true, people do suffer because of what they have done, sometimes even quite small issues, later on in life. Things come back to haunt them. I've actually witnessed this with several people as they've grown older.

However, you're asking about revenge. I don't believe in revenge because that could easily make the person seeking revenge far worse than the other one. It also means you're hanging onto stuff and in your case, the man still has some control over you.

Just because I don't believe in it, doesn't mean I don't understand how you feel; it's natural to burn up inside like that for a while but eventually you have to let it go for the sake of your own mental health.

You will move on, question, chin up, better days really are ahead.

What did he do to you?? Been thinking of ways I can get revenge on my ex since we split a year ago, however, trying to keep things civil for DD sake 🤷🏻‍♀️

OP don't make a fool of yourself. Rise above it and move on. To someone that deserves you.

Also interested to know what he did.
I can understand the feelings in wanting to seek revenge but as others have said it's probably better for you to not do anything and just try to move on.

If you did seek revenge would he know it's by you/could he turn nasty?
I like the suggestion up thread about writing it all down and burning.

How about this?

And what happens when he retaliates? You cry and claim to be a victim?

I also do not believe that you get revenge by 'living your best life' which is an often trotted out line.
But it is true. I had an ex boyfriend who treated me very badly, I bumped into him quite recently and his life is just so so shit, yet mine is so happy. I felt sorry for him, because despite how badly he behaved, he really does have the most boring, nothing life. I don’t believe in karma, but I know that after he treated me badly I knew I didn’t want revenge, just happiness, otherwise you get consumed by bitterness.

I totally understand wanting revenge.

An ex boyfriend of mine physically and mentally abused me, to a huge extent, I am still in therapy because of the abuse that went on for 7 years, and have pins in some bones holding them together from terrible breaks (so no one reading this feel too sorry for him!) When we finally split I didn’t seek revenge, but 2 things happened which made me feel karma had got him and it was inadvertent revenge. I did feel vindicated and better for the knowledge of these things. We had no children.

The first thing was that after the split he was dating someone else but still harassing me, he turned up at the house being threatening, chased me when I drove to the police station and tried to run me off the road, phoned constantly and threatened to kill me. I reported it to the police and they arrested him at his home address - in front of the girlfriend he had moved in with. It hadn’t crossed my mind before hand but the fact that she left him because he had been still hounding me constantly and she found out because I pressed charges did make me feel better. In the end he was let go with a formal warning and a none molestation order but he lost his new girlfriend and hopefully she escaped the way he had treated me which would have happened eventually.

The second thing that happened is I bought him
Out of the house we owned together, and he stupidly took a very low price. I offered the exact lump sum that he had put in when we bought the house, but the house was worth about 4 times that. When he accepted my offer it didn’t seem to cross his mind that he had also been paying the mortgage for 4 years (he paid mortgage and I paid all other bills) and the house had increased in value massively in that time too it almost doubled. I got the mortgage sorted and we completed the buy out within about 4 weeks and it didn’t take him long after completion to start complaining that he had taken too low a price. He had called me stupid for years but it was him that was not too bright in the end. He thought he was getting a good deal because he didn’t have to pay estate agents to market it like he would have if it went on the open market, and I also paid for both our solicitors and legal costs with the buy out. To put it in perspective, I think I spent £1.5k on the legal costs, and he took about £180k less for the house than he would have if he was smart. Revenge felt sweet with that one 👌.