To ask for your revenge ideas

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Have been very very badly hurt by now ex boyfriend.

I want him to suffer in the way I have and am suffering.

People always say 'oh karma will catch up with them,' in such situations but I have never ever seen that happen. Bad people always seem to get away with things, damage others and suffer no consequences.

I also do not believe that you get revenge by 'living your best life' which is an often trotted out line.

So this is not about whether I should or shouldn't seek revenge, I know for sure I want to; I'm just looking for inspiration from others who have done likewise who can share inspiration.

He does not have a car here so cannot key it and are not in the same house so cannot put tuna in the curtains or whatever it is, so just looking for other ideas.

(Name change for obvious reason; I can assure you my post is real.)

Is it really worth it, OP?
Could you cope with being charged for criminal damage, harassment or anything else? Would it impact your job or any future jobs you might have? Is he really worth it?

@PhilCornwall1

I highly doubt there is anything legal he could have done.

I had access to his phone as a girlfriend, I didn’t steal it. I also didn’t libel him as what I wrote was true.

Also this was 8 years ago when people cared a lot less about this sort of cyber identity stuff

The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.

He is never going to suffer the way you are because he doesn't care enough about you to warrant it. If he did he wouldn't have treated you cruelly. He is indifferent to you.

Sad but true. You need to think about revenge but not actually do it. Otherwise you are just a sad and crazy ex girlfriend who cannot let the relationship go.

I have a friend whose boyfriend cheated on her and they split up - she took revenge by emailing all of his colleagues to tell them what he had done

See, if I got that email I would
a) not give a fuck about what my coworker did outside of work
b) think it was weird that they were involving me in their drama

Why would anybody care unless they were directly involved?

Tbh this will just make him think thank fuck he's split up with you I know from experience. nowadays I'd just be like fuck ya then...that will probably hurt him more thinking you're not bothered. I do believe in karma as well.
It's easy to be angry as it hurts right now but it will get better, and you can come out of it with your head held high.
Otherwise go smash his car up 😬

@BrickTop999 I’d love to know what you did out of revenge to become a millionaire. Do tell!

You will end up badly hurt and humiliated, OP. Don’t be the ‘crazy ex girlfriend that he had a lucky escape from’.

The best revenge is to block, don’t contact him again, erase him from your life and make sure 2020 is a year you do lots of wonderful things for YOURSELF.

In a years time you’ll be glad you didn’t act rashly.

TreeSwayer Sat 14-Dec-19 11:16:35
The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.
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That is so true.

Yes emailing his colleagues/ clients, not a route that makes you look the sane one. Unless it was relevant, like, he stole ideas from his last client and paid less than agreed. But any "he slept with blah blah" no dont do it.

A year ago I borrowed £150 of a family friend with every intention of paying it back on a certain date in between times DH got laid off so we were a few weeks late in paying back So I asked her if we could pay in instalments well then the abuse started her and 2 daughters the threats they were going to come to the house my husband called a low life a conman she went through my fb list and friend request everyone on it and of course a few accepted she blocked me and I dread to think what she said about us she threatened to visit family now our family have been VERY distant with us ever since I just know that we were used as a punch bag to problems going on in her life I actually messaged a friend of hers and was told yes she had put it up on fb for all to see because she didn’t want anyone else being “conned” and why was I going on about now that we had paid her back. Please girls give me some advice could I go to the police for defamation of character TIA

Just walk away. Putting tuna in curtains is still investing in a person and negative energy for you. Best way you can do it is hold your head up high, pretend he doesn't exist and move on.

SniffPanties.co.uk though it might be too jokey