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Original poster

AIBU not sending dd to school..

157 replies

ArthurMorgan · 12/12/2019 09:53

My dd is 5, on Monday night and all day tuesday she had diarrhoea all day, on Tuesday evening she was also sick, just the once though. Yesterday she was OK but a bit under the weather, no sickness or diarrhoea though.

Today I made the decision not to send her school, apart from the fact they have a 48 hour policy, she was awake a few times in the night with a tummy ache.

My partner is cross with me for not sending her to school. I've explained the policy and the tummy aches etc but he still thinks she should have gone in. I feel like I've done something wrong now when I'm only trying to do the right thing.

Also a lot of schools are shutting for deep cleans and due to staff and teachers having norovirus around here and I wouldn't want to spread anything else unnecessarily.

Am I really being unreasonable for not sending her in today? Sad

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MrsTidyHouse · 13/12/2019 18:16

We even had to keep our LO off for 48 hours after he was carsick just the once. Very strict school here. And once when he was overexcited and ate too much, then puked.

Foggycannonball · 13/12/2019 18:17

The law says children need not start education until the term after their 5th birthday. She doesn't need to be there yet. In other countries she wouldn't go to school until 6 and in some as late as 7. Educationally, they fare better. When a child has been ill they need time to recover -and it is good not to spread some germs.

Thestrangestthing · 13/12/2019 18:20

She's 5 and she was ill ffs! Tell him to build a bridge and get over it.

clarehhh · 13/12/2019 18:25

48 hour rule is for a reason! He is unreasonable to want to flout it, also if she isn’t quite better she is likely to go down with something else.

pollymere · 13/12/2019 18:34

Teachers don't want classes of sick kids or to have yet another bug. Stay off school! 48 hours after the last bought usually.

Santasgotaredsackofitch · 13/12/2019 18:46

@ArthurMorgan
Tell your partner from me.... Or copy paste n send it to them.

You are a fucking prick.
You didn't look after her, you didn't do anything, just went to work as usual I bet, and slept soundly while you're child wasn't.

If mum wants to keep the kid home when it's advised to, and it's Friday.... Grow the fuck up

Jack80 · 13/12/2019 18:47

I agree let her stay and rest at home next week is another week

purplebunny2012 · 13/12/2019 18:58

I don't understand why he's cross. He's clearly an idiot

Daisy7654 · 13/12/2019 19:15

Dad's don't have the mothering instinct.
Also I know a few couples who've split up because the dad was too over ambitious and didn't realise children are children and need nurture. Saw nurture as weakness!

Pawsandnoses · 13/12/2019 19:17

He's selfish an irresponsible. I'm sure he'd be singing a different tune if someone came to work ill and gave it to him!

Sara107 · 13/12/2019 19:18

The 48 he rule is for a reason as many have pointed out. It’s a minimum really - after a gastric infection you can be shedding virus for several weeks after symptoms clear up, and children are not renowned for their meticulous hand washing/ lavatory hygiene!

FelicisNox · 13/12/2019 19:56

YANBU and your OH is being a tit.

Tell him to mind his own damn business until he actually knows what he is doing.

Sincerely
Mumsnet

TerrifiedandWorried · 13/12/2019 20:03

I am slightly hoping he gets it...

PoloMama · 13/12/2019 20:52

Absolutely right to keep her home. Nothing worse than selfish, uncaring parents who send their poorly children into school to spread their germs. Next time, if there is one, follow his advice and when your DD returns home doubly unwell your DH can take the time off to care for her. He’ll soon realise the importance of properly recovering first.

Tubbymummy44 · 13/12/2019 20:53

You absolutely did the right thing OP. Your husband needs to grow a spine and admit he was in the wrong. So many men cannot admit they are in the wrong Hmm hope your little girl is feeling better after her weekend rest.

Harls1969 · 13/12/2019 21:15

I work in a school, we have a '48 hours after the last episode' policy. You've done the right thing keeping her off. Tell him to boil his head

Butteredtoast55 · 13/12/2019 21:24

The 48 hour rule is advised by Public Health England so unless your husband is the Chief Medical Officer who has discovered an instant cure for D and V, he should shut up.

Original poster
ArthurMorgan · 13/12/2019 21:41

1146 votes and 140 comments to say I was nbu :) I've never seen anything like it Crown Grin thank you mumsnet

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CasanovaFrankenstein · 13/12/2019 21:45

Make that 141!

Celestine70 · 13/12/2019 22:25

No, she's little and kids need time to recover.

Saracen · 14/12/2019 01:05

I've sent him a link to this post but I don't know if he'll read it

Yep, he's read it. 1% of people voted that YABU. That'll be him!

cherish123 · 14/12/2019 01:21

Yes. I would keep her off.

Talia99 · 14/12/2019 02:59

At least one person has commented to say they hit YABU by mistake while scrolling.

Starlight456 · 14/12/2019 03:23

My ds’s secondary school put a reminder of 48 hour rule on website. I am assuming it is going through school.

I have a family member in a hospice so if my Ds or I catch anything I can’t visit.

TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 14/12/2019 04:03

I’m a registered nurse. You made the right decision. Hope little one feels better soon.